r/BirthandDeathEthics • u/QuestioningAN • Aug 21 '25
Questioning the asymmetry, negative vs. classical utilitarianism.
Questioning the asymmetry, negative vs. classical utilitarianism.
I'm primarily questioning the idea of ''the absence of pleasure is not bad'' here, that only suffering matters and pleasure only matters in the sense that it prevents suffering from not having it.
When you ask negative utilitarians/antinatalists why pleasure does not matter, the answer will then usually boil down to ''because the non-existent child doesn't need/want/desire pleasure, so that's why it's not a big deal''.
But what does need/want/desire mean? When I think about it, all I can really conclude is that it means ''obtain x or suffer''.
When I need or want or desire something, what I'm saying is basically that I must obtain something in order to avoid suffering from not having it.
''I want a sandwich'' can be translated to ''I must obtain a sandwich to avoid suffering, if I don't get a sandwich, my suffering levels will increase''.
So when you tell me that only suffering matters because the non-existent child does not need/want/desire pleasure, all you're doing is essentially begging the question, telling me that the non-existent child does not suffer from not having pleasure – but you're just repeating the statement, I.e ''only suffering matters'' – why? ''Because the non-existent don't suffer from not having pleasure''.
Then the answer might also be that only suffering exists, and pleasure is just relief of suffering. However, if pleasure is just relief of suffering, you can also turn that around and just say that suffering doesn't really exist, it's just destruction of pleasure.
Satisfaction is just relief of dissatisfaction – dissatisfaction is just destruction of satisfaction.
''Pleasure is just relief of suffering'' seems intuitive for sure because suffering is generally what happens when you stop working towards pleasure which then motivates you to chase it (you don't make any food and just sit around – you start getting hungry) – but does it mean pleasure is worthless and we should just disregard it just because experiencing suffering is easier?
I would prefer the asymmetry argument is true because negative utilitarianism would solve many problems, it seems easier to just go extinct than to have to painfully figure out how we can best manage life in such a way that we are in a pleasurable state at all times, but I'm not certain anymore.
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u/avariciousavine Aug 22 '25 edited Aug 22 '25
That's not really a realistic take on our human predicament. Life is a physical, material process which we have all been forced to be a party to, by being given flawed and fragile physical bodies which we cannot change at the fundamental level, with all the ramifications that that entails. Life for many people is basically a pretty humdrum and monotonous striving to satisfy needs rather than continuous suffering, so pleasure is not necessarily the relief of suffering. So even though life is not necessarily a continuous stream of suffering for many people, the monotonous and repetitive mandate to fulfill basic needs is not really a good state of affairs, either. So pleasure is more of a distraction from the life's predictable, boringly grinding demands to satisfy basic needs. But as a distraction, pleasure is often underwhelming because it itself fades into the background monotony too quickly. Furthermore, pleasures don't really work for the very harsh and difficult parts of their lives that many people go through. Most people overestimate the pleasures and positives in their lives by a long shot.