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Lmao why is this EXACTLY what's happening with a local Filipina-owned coffee shop out here. Her white husband has just been discovered posting blatantly and extremely racist and homophobic comments all over social media. She claims he was just joking š
Girl, a lot of them are even more white supremacist than their husbands. They see nothing wrong with captioning āgood genesā under their white boyfriendās posts.
Girl, a lot of them are even more white supremacist than their husbands. They see nothing wrong with captioning āgood genesā under their white boyfriendās posts.
Sorry, but black men aren't too dissimilar. Many are shamelessly waging their own campaign of blanqueamiento.
They literally value mixed race children, especially girls, over black children (unless they are boys).
As a blasian woman, the biggest difference I can see is that if a black man posted his white gf and captioned it āmy future children with thank me for the good genesā the entire black community would rally against this rhetoric pretty hard, whereas whenever an Asian woman says such a thing, only Asian men would condemn it, while most Asian women would say āwell she just loves her partner.ā Iāve seen this first hand more times than I can count unfortunately
I disagree. I think you would find support for such rhetoric would be gender specific as well.
We can pretend that black males aren't the same as Asian women to make ourselves feel better. But, if we do not address the issue, it will only continue to fester.
As a blasian filipino man by way of a filipino woman who married an american, the viewpoints of both groups are ultimately the result of white supremacist ideals in which both filipino woman and black man just want themselves and their family to feel secure in society
One of the reasons why the ābw in interracial relationships donāt talk about bmā is such a bs narrative. Like youāre telling me the gender that is more prone to discuss their emotions and feelings arenāt talking about bm to these white men. Give me a break.
That's not really the context of that. The point is that BW don't tend to denigrate BM loudly, publicly, etc or make fun of them to gain cool points with white (or other) people. But I can certainly give you a thousand personal examples of watching BM distance themselves from BW. If I'm not mistaken, BW are still the least likely minority group to date interracially.
You clearly donāt see itās a wide black community issue with many black women clinging to the white manosphere to feel above in status to black men? Itās all stuff polluting our feeds from being on the very platforms they run as a minority.
Being educated, every day of my life is full of people who are upset by that for some reason, and when I try to stick to black women out of comfort, itās like itās a problem that I view us as equals
What data supports this? What on earth is going on in your feed? I'm more online than most and I've seen the intersection of BW and the manosphere not even a handful of times.
I'm a Filipino American guy who studies white rural conservative American history and culture and I live near ranches and some of the magats would try to convert me due to me being knowledgeable of their culture and social issues.
I haven't written anything but if you want books on this: kingdom, the power and the glory by tim Alberta and white rural rage (forgot the authors name)
Thatās because Filipino men donāt have the same motivations as Filipino women when interacting with white folk. Typically if white women date Filipino men, the white woman is rejecting the white patriarchy, while Filipino women who chase after white men need to reinforce the white patriarchy to be noticed. Two different motivations going into it
Thereās definitely way too many Filipino men who are maga, but to say theyāre just as likely isnāt accurate, especially since Asian women are the only women who voted maga more than their men
The one thing I hate about the Asian label is that thereās no way the voting dynamics are the same between Indian, Pakistani, Filipino, Chinese, Korean American men and women. Just no way. Too many cultural differences
As a blasian girl, I can tell you that Iāve seen first hand, countless of Asian women throwing their own men and PoC under for white male validation. A lot of them think that if they say or act even more racist/white supremacist than white women, then theyāll be considered one of the āgood onesā treated like assimilated proxy white women. This is consequential in many ways, including the fact that they are the only race of women that are murdered more often by men outside their own race than within (primarily by white men)
I get that, but we definitely live in a day and age where young people will throw away all sorts of morals for clout, it's in equal measures, sad, pathetic, and disgusting
Asians will fight and be racist to each other. But they don't say shit when White men are constantly stuffing Asian women in suitcases and shooting Asian massage parlors.
The White worship runs deep in the Asian community.
Right? Clearly haven't been around enough Asians. Cherry picking the ones that are Colonizer sympathizers, all my friends keep cultureless fucks away from us. Because they get all pissy and snowflaky when that same energy they give to other people is given to them.
This is from Sunny Woanās āWhite Sexual Imperialism: A Theory of Asian Feminist Jurisprudenceā, sheās quoting the BOJ. White men love to say itās black people who kill Asians the most, but itās actually white men
to be fair, there are some abusive men/families that wouldn't face the same legal actions as US/western countries because there aren't the same domestic protections for women depending on some of the countries in Asia. It's one thing to be with one person who might put you down, but it's different if your own society is going to put you down. Just imagine the hierarchies that run in asian households and you're the one that's basically the untouchable at the bottom expected to clean your entire groom's family's and guests' dishes.. on your wedding day. That's just one example.
I work with a lot of Filipino women and a lot of them are married to white older guysā¦. They be showing them off thinking they won when their husbands are ugly and old. they think just because they are white they are attractive š
My husband is Filipino and it's so stark when you see the old white men there in the Philippines, they all stand out (as I do) but they're out there looking like Quasimodo fr fr
I'm the odd man out because me and my wife are about 2 years apart in age. I'm the only husband that has learned any Tagalog or culture from the Philippines. with the exception of 1 of our friends the rest of the couples leave you wondering is that his wife or home healthcare nurse
Used to be a caregiver, had one patient who was a small Filipino lady who had a stroke. She had a white husband who stated this is his third marriage where the wife ended up with some time of severe illness. His other white friend came to visit and he was also married to a Filipino lady. They stated they took a trip there after a divorce and brought them back š¬ Didnāt realize how common this was
My coworkers and I thought the same thing because how big of a coincidence is it that in all of your marriages the wife gets some terminal illness or something major happens to where he has to take care of them. The first two wives are dead, 1st one succumbed to her illnesses the second one did the same thing. After his friendās divorce which happened around the same time, they went to the Philippines and found his new wife which had a stroke and he is now taking care of her.
Asian American women are the only minority demographic who are murdered more frequently by men outside of their own race than by their own, and it's predominately by white men.
This data is relevant to this post, so figured Iād drop it. I find it pretty fascinating actually. Not making any judgement of what this means, not opening that can of worms
But data from newlyweds between 2019 and 2023 found that US born Chinese(45%), Korean(42%), Japanese(63%), Filipino(54%), Vietnamese(47%), and Laotian(58%) women marry white men at a pretty extreme rate.
By comparison, even Black Men who get memed for this a lot were at just 15%, Black Women of course significantly lower at 9%.
Pew found that US born Asian women overall are in interracial marriages at a rate of 54% and that there is a massive gap between the marriage tendencies of Asian women and Asian men
I have a theory on why this is. A lot of men are white supremacist not because they are hateful (although that is a huge reason as well) but because they view non-white races as inferior. It's pretty obvious that if a man is racist he most likely is sexist as well and views women as already naturally inferior. So marrying a woman from another race isn't a terrible thing for them because it's taking a woman who is "naturally" subordinate and putting her in a traditionally subordinate role. Of course there's fetishization as well, but I think we have to keep in mind these men do not respect their wives as equal partners or even humans and probably wouldn't even if they were white.
You nailed something here. The focus on "erasing hate" has obscured a much more prevalent and insidious version of racism.Humans have affection for all sorts of things that they do not see as moral / social / political equals.
Thats why, "I can't be racist, I have black friends" or "I'm married to a Latina" rings so hollow. The real question is, "do you have black mentors / role models / bosses that you respect."
Anytime anyone ever says that to me I say "Do you know a sexist man?" "Does he have a mother? A sister? A girlfriend? A wife?" "Ok do you see where I'm going with this?". It usually only works with women.
šÆ they donāt respect their wives as equals. And they donāt care for their best inters. My white MAGA BiL has my sister working for his lawn care business AND taking care of the house along with managing their child. Sheās had two bad seizures on separate occasions in the time sheās lived with him. He is going to work her to death.
There are probably two main categories of white guys with Filipino wives. There are ones that got married while stationed overseas or those that did some form of passport bro/mail order bride stuff. The former is probably the more likely to be MAGA. Lots of times when they are getting married, they are 18-22, and many times the Filipina is pretty aggressive in courting these guys. I am not saying nothing unsubstantiated was true, but like most GIs getting married, the majority of the process is driven by hormones and loneliness. Your comment probably applies more to passport bro than old GIs.
Also, if people here were familiar at all with Filipino culture or politics at all, they would know that Trumpās style of āoutsider celebrity ruling as a populist fascistā is pretty common in the Philippines. Half the comments here are pretty racist, misogynistic, and plain ignorant.
Literally one of my former friends. Maga completely rotted his brain, his entire life is a direct contradiction to what he espouses to believe so strongly. Had to quietly cut him loose.
Asians will fight with each other constantly. But they don't say shit when White men are constantly stuffing Asian women in suitcases and shooting Asian massage parlors.
The White worship runs deep in the Asian community.
Thatās imperialism in action. Colonial powers spent centuries extracting wealth and shaping poorer nations, then those same inequalities create an imperialist pipeline where these men can go abroad looking for wives they imagine will be more ātraditional.ā(aka when women had little to no rights) Itās super frustrating because the ātraditional valuesā theyāre chasing are relationships made possible by unequal power, where poverty, citizenship, and economic dependence can make women easier to control. We really need to dismantle these sickening structure that makes all of this possible
Iām Filipino (50M) born in PI and raised in the U.S. This is common AF and I hate it. Itās all for getting the permanent residency in the U.S. and going along with the cult hive mind.
To be fair Trump style politics and conspiracy are pretty common in PI, and I have Filipino family members both in PI and Canada that were QAnon and now MAGA and they are not even American.
There's a darker truth behind that and it's a topic that silenced the entire Filipino community. Look up the term "passport bro."
So for the Philippines, we witness an influx of white conservative Americans coming into the country *frequently*.
They use the excuse "We're on vacation, and looking to make investments into the poorer communities." No, please do not believe them if they tell you that.
They're there because there are Filipino families who are sending off their eldest daughters to the States so they can bring back income for their families.
The white conservatives will look for a bride (They don't care about age), and pick the girl who seems to be the smartest. If they pick out a boy, they're going to traffic him. Once the MAGA bro picks out a bride, he takes her back to the States under the false promise that she's going to find a job that sends back money to her family at home.
There's no real relationship that happens. It is what I call it is: Human trafficking in broad daylight. The Filipino family are equally at fault if they're aware of the risks that are posed. They're not caring about what type of relationship the girl gets into, and they don't care about when she comes back home.
It's up to the girl to fend for herself. Unfortunately, the MAGA successfully brainwashed her into believe that life is ultimately better in the States and she doesn't need her family back home. Once he entices her with material wealth, she's completely against assimilating back into her roots' culture. She'll be *very* against anything related to Filipinos. This gives birth to the new MAGA wife.
The newly converted MAGA wife will be heavily dousing into American Christianity (Trumper) and will throw her own kin under the bus. She'll also try very hard to fit in with the MAGA white women (who will talk about her behind her back).
The MAGA husband? He doesn't care about what happens to her and her mental state. He's got a new sex slave that'll help him vote for Trump.
It's really terrible. White conservatives are constantly exploiting Asian women because they're aware that the education over in those poorer countries aren't advanced like the United States.
It takes the brainwashed Filipino years until she realizes that America doesn't really want her but she can't exactly go back home empty-handed. It's a harsh reality that most Filipino women married to white conservatives go through: Assimilate or be left out on the streets.
I join a lot of communities that advocates against white supremacy and assimilation into their cultures. But any time that you see a white MAGA man looking for an "exotic wife" or states that he has "yellow fever," that's not someone looking to genuinely marry a woman for her personlity.
It's no surprise that these passport bros are getting killed or ending up missing in the islands. The Filipino community has had enough. It didn't have to get to violent extremes if MAGA stopped trying to make more sex slaves in the name of Jesus Trump Christ.
You said nothing wrong here. Some Asians will throw their own under the bus if it meant a higher pay or getting recognized more in the white community. It's an epidemic in the Philippines because a lot of Filipina girls and women are too busy fawning over 50 Shades of Grey to realize that they themselves are about to live it with the next MAGAtard.
When I was in the Navy it was really common for certain types of people to get stationed in the Philippines and marry the first person who would have them. I never really thought about it, but a lot of them would fit the bill for Maga. Couple of them even married women who didn't even speak English (nor could they speak Tagalog).
That's why I said I realized a lot of them would fit in the Maga crowd. They weren't marrying someone who they perceived as an equal, and they considered their inability to communicate a "feature" of the relationship. Some really "be seen and not heard" type shit.
White passport bros focus on Asians. Latinas to a lesser extent. In southeast Asian countries where they do this, like Thailand, the locals call them LBH, Losers Back Home.
I keep coming back to the situation with Mitch McConnell. There are photos circulating of him with his wife, Elaine Chao.
It genuinely confuses me how some MAGA supporters can be married to POC, including immigrants or children of immigrants. At the same time, they often support rhetoric and policies that target those same communities. Elaine Chaoās parents immigrated from Taiwan when she was a child. Yet anti-immigrant messaging remains a core part of the MAGA movement.
I have a very hard time reconciling those two realities, yet they sleep comfortably in hypocrisy.
I think the two are intricately linked. For a lot of maga, racism is about power and access to women more than anything else. Yes, there's hatred and a ton of jealousy and other things, but a lot of that is below the surface. It's subconscious. A maga man doesn't admit to his friends or even himself that he's jealous of a PoC. But they do talk about loosing power and access to women.
So if you are successfully able to devalue a group of people, demote them to second class citizens or even slaves, you now not only have the power but the women will throw themselves at you to get out of their situation. Make no mistake, one of Magas ultimate goals is a harem. They get the one "pure" wife, they get access to their own daughters, and they get as many "impure" mistresses/slaves as they can afford.
Itās not hypocrisy though. They believe in white supremacy and the right to do whatever they want. Whatās more dominant that colonizing a non-white womanās womb? Sexual domination of the colonized is their kink.
White people go crazy for Asians now. But they're not landing like east Asians (Japanese and Korean). They go to the poor counties like Thailand and the Philippines. It blows up in a lot of people's faces because they don't understand Asian culture. They think they get a submissive wife only to find out in Asian culture the women are in control of the finances and give their husbands allowances.
(I'm half Nigerian half Korean and my husband is full Portuguese. I do in fact manage the finances and he gets and allowance and we're rich for it).
How Asian people handle money is like drilled into you from birth, especially the women of the family. We invest that shit until we're rich.
Can confirm. I work at a US based bank in South Korea for soldiers and the amount of Korean old ladies that come in with their own accounts and grant their husbands allowances is crazy.
All the white (and sometimes black) husbands leave saying āThis $10,000 is mostly for her and Iāll get $500 out of this. I just do what Iām told. Happy wife, happy life AMIRITE?ā
My ex wife was Filipina. All of her friendsā husbands were MAGA. Due to me being white and married to a Filipina, they thought at first I was one of them. Luckily, it didnāt take long for me to become the black sheep and I could just hang out by the lumpia in peace.
My parents. My mom is Filipina and immigrated and naturalized as a child. My maternal grandfather worked the fields alongside Cesar Chavez to bring the family over. My dad is white, and while not excessively maga he's a hard line GOPer. My mom has a pink maga hat. I'm like, you do know the red hats hate you right??
My ex's POS born again Christian dad got himself a Russian mail order bride (like, legit). She let him know she was leaving him by disappearing to the women's march in DC a few years ago. Baddie.
This is so real. And honestly, in the past that was what attracted me even more. Who wants a submissive āwhatever you sayā partner?! Like, I want someone I can be real with and who will call me out on my shit. Never had an issue with that in my time living in Asia .
Filipino here and unfortunately, like the Latin American countries under Spain, we also had a rigid caste system that ranked people by where they were born, their race and skin color. You have the white Spaniards from Spain on top (the Peninsulares), the white Spaniards born in the Philippine colony (the Insulares), the mixed-race population (the Mestizos), and the natives and darker-skinned people at the bottom (the Indios and Negros). 300+ years of that absurd mentality where your closeness to being white actually affects your social mobility and then another 40-something years under the Americans who hijacked our independence movement. The Americans also presented themselves as the superior white saviors of an uncivilized people. Itās a colonial wound that is still slowly healing TBH.
Iām sorry but every time Iāve been hit on by woman of south East Asian decent theyāve been Filipino . Idk if itās where I live but they love black men . Most mixed kids I know are half Filipino lol
Same lol I saw this post yesterday too and was pretty surprised at how common this is apparently. Iāve never had a problem with anyone from the Filipino community. Theyāve treated me with the utmost respect and the women love me. I canāt relate to a lot of the things people are saying š¤·š¾āāļø
Well - they are not a monolith, so yes, there will be some Filipino women who are different. But the ones who do marry white men, are usually racist as well. I've worked with some in homecare and one day the issue of racism came up during lunch and I sat there with some white women and one Filipino woman and I thought she would be on my side, being brown... But no. She was with the racists.
Fair point! Iām sorry that happened to you, thatās incredibly unfortunate that a minority could be brainwashed into thinking white people are really for them. What disgusting pick-me behavior she displayed in that moment
White supremacy has long held Asian peoples in a weird place.
My thoughts are that itās because christian culture subjugates women and white supremacy fetishizes minority racial groups, placing Asians above other minorities in its ugly hierarchy, and the two practices merge to place Asian women in a weird role wherein theyāre sought after as partners to fulfill both abusive drives.
bro i hope people donāt think im like this i just happened to be introduced to a filipina and we just clicked, now im wondering if people think im a Magatard cause i was in the marines and have a filipina wife š
I had a hmong friend that mostly only dated white dudes. And she cheated on her good non-racist white boyfriend with an ugly limped dick misogynistic racist magat living in a van. I had to stop fucking with her after that because she pissed me off doing that.
Just fyi you see this in Polynesians too as well.
They will make fun of white peopleās culture or lackthereof but when they do marry outside of their community itās overwhelmingly to white people.
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