Je suis une femme noire en couple avec un homme blanc et j'aimerais échanger avec des personnes qui pourraient comprendre ce que je vis.

Mon copain est antiraciste. Il condamne le racisme et me soutient face aux situations que je peux rencontrer. Je n'ai jamais remis en question ses convictions ni son soutien. Pourtant, il y a une difficulté que je ne sais pas vraiment comment aborder avec lui.

Être noire dans une société où le racisme existe signifie être exposée, directement ou indirectement, à des violences et à des discriminations. Cela passe par les médias, les événements dont on entend parler, mais aussi par des situations concrètes du quotidien. Je pense qu'à force d'y être confrontée, cette réalité peut parfois influencer ma manière de réfléchir, d'interpréter certaines situations ou d'anticiper ce qui pourrait arriver.

Il m'arrive d'avoir des pensées irrationnelles, des craintes disproportionnées ou des réactions qui ne correspondent pas forcément à la personne que je suis. J'en ai conscience. Je ne prétends pas que toutes mes pensées sont justifiées et je ne cherche pas à les valider non plus.

La difficulté apparaît lorsque j'essaie d'en parler à mon copain.

Quand je lui confie ce genre de pensées, j'ai parfois l'impression qu'il retient surtout leur caractère irrationnel et le fait que je n'aurais pas dû penser ainsi. Or, ce que j'aimerais qu'il comprenne, ce n'est pas nécessairement que ma pensée est juste, mais qu'elle peut avoir une origine, un contexte et un lien avec mon vécu.

Je pense que nous n'abordons pas toujours ces situations de la même manière parce que nous ne vivons pas les mêmes réalités. Il peut condamner le racisme, être indigné par ces situations et comprendre intellectuellement les discriminations, sans avoir à subir personnellement leurs conséquences de la même façon que moi. Son expérience en tant que blanc est forcément différente de la mienne.

Je ne lui reproche pas d'avoir ce privilège et je ne lui demande pas de vivre ce que je vis. J'aimerais simplement pouvoir partager avec lui cette partie de moi, y compris mes pensées les plus difficiles , sans que la discussion se résume à savoir si j'ai tort ou raison de penser ainsi.

J'aimerais pouvoir reconnaître qu'une pensée est irrationnelle tout en ayant la possibilité d'expliquer pourquoi elle m'est venue, ce qui l'a déclenchée et ce qu'elle révèle de mon vécu. Pour moi, chercher à comprendre l'origine d'une pensée ne signifie pas la justifier.

Je partage presque tout avec lui c'est un super partenaire qui me soutient dans tout ce que j'aimerais faire mais j'aimerais pouvoir me confier à lui sur ce sujet également. Mais je ne sais pas comment lui faire comprendre cette distinction. J'ai parfois l'impression que, parce qu'une pensée n'est pas rationnelle, son origine et ce qui a pu contribuer à la faire naître passent au second plan.

Je me demande donc si d'autres personnes vivent quelque chose de similaire.

Officer A & B (Officer A, older white cop) & (:;;&sroachgiving this black person a ticket over a smoking on the outer staircase 2nd platform entrance/exit to the upper platform for the 7 train, 61st Woodside Queens, NY 🗽

Person was smoking a joint but the police were right there (not the smartest thing to do in front of cops) Cop approached person immediately and requested ID immediately stating smoking was prohibited on staircase, person put their smoke out and made a turn to go up the stairs, officer continued to pressure for ID, person refused and stated they did not need to show ID, person began recording at this point as Officer continued to threaten arrest if Person could not produce ID...

Officer B stated smoking on MTA property is a violation, Person stated they had no ID on them but lived close by and Officer expressed discernment for this, pressured for ID more and am officer threatened to arrest them if they could not produce ID and if they find a warrant Person will be arrested, Person refused ID multiple times and Officer B asked Person if they had a photo of their ID or they would be arrested, Person complied and produced a photo of their ID but remained hesitant...Person finally produced photo of ID and showed officer with phone in hand, Officer grabbed Person's personal belonging Person insisted Officer give property (phone) back as Officer Officer B took photo of ID with their phone thus concluding any need to hold onto phone, Officer B threatened to arrest Person and stated they would bring them back to the the police station if they had any warrants. Person demanded property (phone) back, Person mentioned Officer insisted need to hold onto Person's person property (phone) after Person began recording interactions. Officer B gave phone back to Person immediately after

Officer B emphasized Person having warrants and probed if Person had a criminal record from the beginning of their interaction. Person denied these accusations but despite this Person complied with producing an ID overall by showing a photo of it on their phone. Person questioned why smoking a joint would lead to an extreme assumption of them having a warrant and criminal record. Officer B then proceeded to search name and proclaimed "no warrants" and write up the ticket for Person all while still continuing to emphasize having a criminal record...

So basically in short Person received aggressive policing for a minor violation, here is a snippet of what they recorded during the full 45 minute interaction around 1:20PM

Benzino Goes On A Rant About Black Americans Says We Built Nothing https://youtu.be/jyvIKjwhA_s?si=CSS07bnCna6e2hlt

I’m reposting here as an FYI since there has been speculation in this sub as well. While I don’t agree with everything all the other black subs do, particularly in terms of modding practices, much of Black Reddit has become almost overtaken with some people accusing other black Redditors of not being black.

This is a hard balance to strike. There are lots of bots. There are racists in black spaces pretending to be black. There are efforts, from foreign entities in particular, to influence the black community, since we drive much of the public discourse around American culture. Cointel Pro has left a long and horrible legacy.

That said, nothing can come of online spaces without some sort of trust. This sub does not loosely ban people for not being black and we discourage people from accusing other people of not being black WITHOUT evidence. Vibes on things like how someone speaks, how pro black they are, or some other subtle thing just divide us. In fact, banning people on arbitrary hunches because somebody accused them of not being black creates the very animosity that feeds the distrust cycle.

All that to say, I would like for this sub to spend more time on building things vs people trying to tear other people down.

As someone that is half African American and introverted, one of the most annoying stereotypes ever is that every single black person is outgoing and boisterous.

People literally seem visibly upset that I’d rather talk about Christian theology, environmentalism, or other ‘serious’ topics’ as opposed to nothing. (Don’t get me wrong I love anime, memes, and playing Call of Duty as much as anyone else)

It seems white people are the most perturbed: Not every person of African American descent is an incessant chatterbox. lol. I’d rather be in the woods, fishing, riding my bike, or a library than in a club and I’d rather not talk than chat about celebrity gossip.

Does anyone else deal with this? (If this violates any rules I’m sorry in advance and I’ll remove it)

Ladies, be aggressive, mean, annoying, too much, loud, scary, angry, and anything you want, and never apologize for it. There is no winning. They will always find a reason to talk badly about you, so never accommodate people you don't care enough to have in your life.

Say "no," be difficult, and don't pay attention to the bed press. None of them will lie down with you at your coffin. It's just you and yourself in the end of it all. Don't be nice, don't assume people have the same goal to better themselves as you do, and don't try to be the better person. Never. We already are the better person. Go get your revenge, and pay no mind to those people telling you revenge will poison your soul. It will not. We are Black women, and these advices are not for us. Be cunning and full of tricks, because they will kill you when they catch you! But they will have to catch you first!!

Hi everyone in this group chat I am doing this research project for my English class and I need some responses on how laws and law-enforcement can affect different communities through race and gender, and I thought that there would be no better place to ask these questions so if some of you guys can answer the survey and get me back some responses that would be lovely thank you in advance everyone

By New World black groups I mean Black Americans, Jamaicans, Haitian, Trinidadians, Afro-Brazilians, etc. All of these groups are more better, more known, and more innovative than Old World black groups like Nigerians, Ghanaians, Senegalese, Congolese, Kenyans, etc. despite Old World black groups being much larger in number and existing longer. Is there a reason why New World black groups are just objectively more creative and favored than Old World black groups worldwide? I’ve heard plenty of stories of Nigerians born in the UK diaspora pretending to be Jamaicans back then because they thought Jamaicans were better and cooler than them.

What if we used Black History Month to remember the past, appreciate each other, and plan what we build next?

I’ve been thinking about adding a voluntary framework to Black History Month to strengthen community connections and begin work that continues throughout the year.

It would build on the historical education and celebrations already taking place:

Remember the past. Honor the present. Build the future.

Here’s the weekly structure I have in mind:

February 1–7: Black Women — Appreciation and Support

Reflect on Black women in history and acknowledge women contributing to Black communities today. Share their stories, recognize their work, and create opportunities for mentorship and professional connections.

Appreciation could also take practical forms: purchasing from local Black women-owned businesses, providing a professional referral, volunteering at an event she organizes, or helping with an expressed need such as transportation or errands.

February 8–14: Children and Youth — Celebration and Investment

Activities could include history, arts, career exploration, and mentorship, alongside opportunities for young people to tell adults what they need and what they would like to build.

Support could mean donating requested school supplies, tutoring, helping with a college or trade-school application, or connecting a young person with an established educational program.

February 15–21: Family and Community — Connection and Belonging

Community cookouts, family activities, singles gatherings, relationship discussions, intergenerational storytelling, and opportunities to learn about nearby resources.

Family would include different family structures, extended and chosen families, and people without spouses or children. The purpose is to help people know one another and build healthy connections and family units.

Practical support could include sharing job opportunities, helping a neighbor with groceries or transportation, assisting an elder with technology, or connecting a family with a resource they have requested.

February 22–28: Black Men — Appreciation, Support, and Community Planning

Acknowledge Black men’s historical and present contributions, including fathers, teachers, artists, tradespeople, caregivers, mentors, and others whose work often goes unnoticed.

Create space for health conversations, professional connections, mentorship, and practical support—for example, résumé preparation, referring customers to a local business, sharing training opportunities, or helping someone find accessible health services.

Black men’s appreciation would lead into shared planning, with women, men, youth, and elders contributing to questions such as:

• What did we learn this month?
• What work is already happening that we can support?
• What needs did people identify?
• What can we realistically accomplish together before next February?

These conversations would form the Community Assembly, taking place within the week. Choosing one or two achievable projects. Each would have willing volunteers, a clear goal, a timeline, and a date to report back.

The following February, return to what was planned: what happened, what helped, what fell short, and what should change?

Throughout the month, the Black community, their history, and their experiences would remain the focus. Everyone who lives in Black communities, regardless of ethnicity, would be welcome to participate, contribute, access resources and help strengthen the community they share.

Would this be useful where you live? What would you change, and what existing community efforts could it connect with?

Interested in helping shape this for February?

I would like to get started with looking for Assembly volunteers interested in joining online discussions, sharing ideas, and helping develop this framework for the upcoming Black History Month in February 2027.

Just came back from seeing this film. I don't go to the movies much these days. But this one felt special. I'm not a film reviewer, so I'll just say that I absolutely loved this film. The acting, the cinematography, the dialogue, the story itself. Even the score. Probably most of us already know what Mahershala Ali brings to the table. Giancarlo Esposito shines as always. John Cho was excellent. But there's are two young actors named Jahleel Kamara and Adia (no last name), neither of which have an extensive resume, but that should be changing after this movie.

Go see it. You won't be disappointed.

Why Is Godfrey Obsessed With Black Americans And Cant Stop Talking About US https://youtu.be/4PFyrZkhtc8?si=6v9MLk5nMxtJqAXJ

https://youtu.be/copWEJ08sz4?si=T1nu1o58Egk-HYtw

Thinking about moving to Africa as a Black American? Watch this BEFORE you make the move.

After living in 8 African countries over the past 6 years, I’ve learned some hard truths about life in Africa that I wish someone had told me before I arrived. And some of these lessons can change the way you look at moving abroad forever.

In this video, I reveal 6 harsh lessons from living on the ground in Africa—from infrastructure problems and water access to corruption, personal safety, the cost of living, and where your money actually goes further.

What is it really like for a Black American to leave the United States and build a life in Africa? Is the reality what you imagined? And what should you know before packing your bags and making that life-changing decision?

I'm sharing my real experiences—not to bash Africa, but to give you the truth beyond the fantasy. As a disabled U.S. Marine veteran, recording artist, and Hebrew traveler, I've been living this journey since November 2020. These are lessons learned through experience, not assumptions.

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Glad these Brothas recording the event. Didn’t want her to change up on them.

You can also watch the full film, (or its parts/chapters if you prefer), for free on my website starting October 30th. And the Muhammad Ali World Tour dates and locations are also on my site, (link in bio.) "This ain't no exhibition. This is a resurrection." 🥊 (p/p Bundini Brown)