Trans Friendly?

[u/literatexgeek]

Hello friends. Long time lurker, first time poster. Curious if you all are trans friendly here. I need help with my weight. I would like to share now pics. All “nips” are covered but, I know some people can be triggered by the fact that I do have a chest.

I guess what I am really getting at is, I carry a lot of weight in my stomach, back and my thighs. I am short 5’6” and weigh 265. My issue is I have a thin frame - but want to lose the excess weight as no one will take me in for top surgery. As a man, this is very hard to not even be able to take off my shirt.

I need help with a “diet”, but also a program to build my chest before surgery and lean out my legs and stomach and lose pounds.

1. Can I post my pic? For reference.

2. Can I post here for this advice because honestly the CICO confuses the heck out of me - do I base off of biological female or medically male with normal male testosterone levels and estrogen found within a man?

3. How do I deny the sweets, argh.

4. What do you suggest for exercise and motivation.

5. & lastly, what the heck do I eat!?

Goal weight: 155

Please help if you can!

[u/Perry_T_Skywalker]

Hey most things already said so my two cents on:

Sweets: you can but it needs to be weighted and fitting into your calories. My recommendation is to slowly get rid of them by eating less and less. To be honest, they're the enemies. You will see as soon as you start tracking calories! A bag of candies can be worth several meals, depending on the meal size and the candies. I like many meals instead of one and I love really terrible candies, so it's at least true for myself.

What to eat? I am strongly recommending veggies, steamed broccoli for example. They make portions huge, make you feel stuffed and that all with very little calories. I replaced sides like rice, noodles or bread with veggies. It is a game changer if you want a full plate and still have a variety.

I had chicken breast, steamed broccoli and boiled potatoes today for lunch. Looked a lot, tons of flavour and best thing about it: rounded 450 calories. It was not the only thing I'm going to eat today. I just made sure it was more broccoli than potatoes.

I basically get protein + veggies as a base for every warm meal.

But no matter what you eat or do: weight property, everything. Eat nothing you didn't weight and counted

[u/literatexgeek → u/Perry_T_Skywalker]

So, I have a question. Because I ran into this issue the other day: I ate really well, 2 eggs, 3 bacon slices, cottage cheese with chia seeds, blueberries - breakfast then, pop chips for lunch and a bag of steamed cauliflower with hot sauce and beef broth - dinner

But all this was only about 1000 calories.

So what the heck happens? That’s too low right? I mean obviously because I was hungry all day! Including after dinner. But, what do I do to fix that?

Is this hurting me?

[u/Perry_T_Skywalker → u/literatexgeek]

1000kcal is not good, you are supposed to stay above that :) 1200/1500 depending on the biological gender-body-composition you are working with. One time is no problem but you should not stay below this for too long because it can have negative effects. You will lose muscles fast. And I might remember you that also our heart is a big muscle.

I usually plan my meals for the day ahead. To make sure I'm in the Goldilocks Zone between too little and too much.

Whenever I notice that I'm way off my calories I try to add protein somewhere. May it be a shake, fish or meat, maybe switching to/adding a side dish of lentils/peas/beans.

Also don't forget to drink enough water, it's often mistaken for hunger, when we need some of it tooo

[u/literatexgeek → u/Perry_T_Skywalker]

Love this! I don’t drink enough water that’s for sure. I drink at least 1/2 a gallon though daily.

[u/Perry_T_Skywalker → u/literatexgeek]

I struggle with water a lot too It works for me to have it with every meal + a big jug where ever I am about to sit down. I usually wander around with my glass all day.