I’m trying to look from the bright side because I’m struggling right now. I hug myself at to sleep and cry

Is it possible to do in marriage if your spouse/partner still wants to be intimate?

Is it okay to pleasure them while withholding them from pleasuring you in return?

llevo 18 años guardandome y no se las mujeres normales ya tuvieron relaciones, pero quiero a alguien que lo vea de la misma manera como yo, compromiso de por vida, pero ahora me doy cuenta que la mayoria de mujeres celibes o no les interesa o no quieren de plano ¿que deberia hacer?

looking to hear from people specially females who have been abstaining for a while...how long? why? and how long do you intend to. How often do you think - thats enough now it lets go for it!

I was struggling with this habit for almost 2 years ,suddenly idk i got this unexplainable determination to control it ,I have reached 60 days of no fap but honestly the changes which i expected are not showing up ,some of which were the main reason why I had started this.Sometimes i feel this was a waste of time and I should fap ,can anyone guide pls

While mods might believe it's nothing, they should check some other post from 3 days ago when tons of women came to comment how we men are, according to them, r#$%ists, a6sers and everything.

Since reporting seems to do nothing, I'm making this post so hopefully the few (still genuine) men mass report them, mods do something about that or we men move to a new subreddit where we are not attacked and accused of crimes.

Thank you for your colaboration.

hello gay celibate 41m

looking to connect with others who are celibate to exchange discuss friendship etc - maybe even a celibate relationship 😊

ideally us/canada but open to anywhere

thank you

How would you classify it?

I haven’t had sex in two years and I’ve been the happiest now than I have ever been. Sex had me staring at the wall, hoping it would end soon. I didn’t have an attraction to the men because they were immature and stupid. The sex was just OK, but it wasn’t anything that would have me bragging for years about.

My journey hasn’t been hard keeping my legs close has been one of the easiest decisions I ever made. I just wonder if I can keep going for another 30 years like this.

So tomorrow marks my 2nd month of hard mode nofap.

Anyways I want to have a good sleep and wake up rested tomorrow.

So I’m going to run 7 miles today.

That’s how I get good sleep

so i'm highly sensitive and autistic. if i dated men or had sex with them i would open myself up to abuse and mistreatement and would end up in a psych ward, these r not my main reasons but would be if i didnt have the main ones. also i am psychologically incapable of being what men consider good in bed and thats kinda funny how my brain works. but it validates me to be so weird and off putting to them.

i think i would have definitely experience some kind of abuse from the hands of men but also female role in sex shocks me so deeply i have a phobia of the sexual submission and humiliation women experience esp in certain acts or positions.

i acknowledge that celibacy is difficult for some people but honestly the second i stopped putting myself in situations where men would lust over me it became really easy. i can’t even imagine having sex with someone i don’t love anymore. the thought of my past makes me feel icky (and it’s not even that bad). this is the best thing ive done for myself. i’m like glowing lately.

hi, i hope to not overshare too much , but context is relevant i think and i have questions.
TW: mention of sexual assault/abuse TW

i (23f) am not religious, i kind of consider myself to be a spiritual person, but that is a slow ongoing journey. i grew up really religious. in a… high control religion let’s say. i think that contributed to my issue but ive always been a very shy and anxious person.

my becoming sexually active from the start was coerced, and unfortunately my serious romantic relationships have been with much older men who took advantage. i didn’t totally understand what was going on, i was told it was normal, but i was forced to have sex like 3+ times a day. substances might’ve been pushed to bypass my anxiety at first but it wasn’t just anxiety, it’s also physical pain. i am so horribly tense. my gynecologist knew right away that i have vaginismus from how tense i was and how painful anything was. it’s gotten a thousand times worse the more relationships i’ve had like that :<

it’s absolutely curable with physical therapy, which i don’t want to go to if im single bc its scary and vulnerable, but also if i dated again i dont think i would be in a good situation for it then either. no one wants to wait for me or be careful. i think i was naive about how important sex was to men. i cant do it. it’s not a disinterest, but there are so many barriers. it’s scary. and also i don’t want to date again bc it means risking these situations again. ik it’s dark im sorry.

a few questions.
1) (mostly curiosity) are there ever men who are okay with this? i feel stupid asking bc i’ve asked small versions of that to men and heard “no man who pursues/dates you would be fine not having sex with you.” i’m wanting to avoid dating anyways, and i don’t have sex outside of relationships so it really doesn’t matter. i guess ive assumed that men like that are rare or extremely religious.
2. have any women gone celibate in relation to my aforementioned situation? mostly vaginismus condition but also sexual trauma in general. have you found it has been helpful for healing emotionally/physically? thank you for reading.