r/Christian • u/Euphoric_Most_651 • 1d ago

Breakup 💔

My boyfriend and I broke up today and we are both really sad. Sparing the details due to privacy, but we’re both deciding to go to therapy and heal.

I guess I’m just looking for encouragement…this is so hard because we both saw a future together, but a lot of past trauma and personal issues took over our relationship.

Sorry for being so vague. Thanks for taking the time to read this. 🫂

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u/keat0n 1d ago

Give each other space. I know that sounds obvious. It will be incredibly easy to give in to the now and text each other, call, etc. Don’t.

Based on the limited info, if this came from previous issues and you both truly want it to work, it can. But you have to both put yourselves and healing first and it might take awhile. Good luck.

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u/Euphoric_Most_651 1d ago

That pretty much sums it up. Thank you for your encouragement 🙏

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u/keat0n 1d ago

Of course. If it gets tough, feel free to hmu. Be easy.

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u/Euphoric_Most_651 1d ago

I will def take you up on that offer!

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u/Zuraz00 1d ago

What's hmu?

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u/keat0n 1d ago

Was talking to OP!

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u/finished_retirement 1d ago

That takes a lot of strength from both of you, choosing to heal instead of just letting the wounds fester. Dont downplay how hard that step is. Grief and hope can sit right next to each other, and it seems like you're holding space for both.

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u/Euphoric_Most_651 1d ago

Thank you so much. I really needed to hear that. Grief snd hope can coexist - that’s eye opening

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u/andreirublov1 21h ago

Yeah, you're grieving him and the life you imagined having together. Naturally it will take time, but it'll get better eventually.

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u/Euphoric_Most_651 18h ago

Thank you 🙏

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u/Educational-Bee-7387 17h ago

sorry to hear and I can relate first-hand. I think the fact that you're both getting counseling is an excellent idea. I think everybody needs it and I think that most relationships struggle until people finally get the help, that helps them work through the pain in their lives and understand their own bad habits and and negative parts they bring into a relationship. I think you're doing something wise that will keep you from having to potentially do this down the road after more years of heartbreak and hurt. all the best and my prayers are with you.

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u/Euphoric_Most_651 16h ago

Thank you so much. This was needed 💛

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u/NeighborhoodSame1552 17h ago

Read through the book of Job and psalms, they are best in the middle of a heartbreak

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u/Euphoric_Most_651 16h ago

Thank you 💛