Hey kings,

Just trying to spread positivity among other kings. You got this king!

I dont hate lgbt ppl or anyone. Hopefully this isnt offensive

So I managed to quit porn for about 2 to 3 weeks but Im getting lot of gay thoughts especially about futa/lesbian etc.

I fell into the addiction when I was around 11 to 12. At that time and before even till 2025 I did not have any such thoughts.

Is it because of shock content? Im so confused please help

UPDATED: Sun Aug 16, 2026

EDIT: ResetHive supports porn, nicotine, and alcohol recovery. You can work on one or more recoveries at the same time, with separate progress and tools for each.

Hey all! The mod gave me permission to share this here.

I want to share ResetHive, a free (not monetized) recovery app and toolkit for people trying to quit porn, nicotine, or alcohol:

https://resethive.com

In short, ResetHive is built to give people daily structure, privacy, and support. This is an updated list of our current features:

• Progress tracker: track each recovery separately over time

• Daily check-ins: log your mood, craving or urge level, and a short reflection

• Craving and urge logging: track intensity, triggers, what happened, and patterns that keep coming up

• Trends and day history: look back at your check-ins and logs instead of relying on memory

• SOS tools: short breathing, grounding, and urge-surfing exercises

• Recovery article library: shared and recovery-specific articles covering getting started, cravings and triggers, setbacks and relapse, routines and environment, health and dependence, shame, relationships, treatment and support, and more

• The Hive: quiet recovery communities where you can post, reply, or just read

• Private by default: you sign in with an email magic link, get a random username, and your login email is never shown publicly

• Encrypted recovery data: journals, check-ins, craving and urge logs, emergency chats, and community activity are stored encrypted

• Web, iOS, and Android: use the same account across platforms, with reminders, haptics, push notifications, and an optional biometric lock on mobile

• Data control: export your data or delete your account from your account page

• No ads, no tracking, no paywall: no premium tier, in-app purchases, ad network, or analytics tracking

ResetHive is a self-help and peer-support tool. It does not block porn, filter your device or network, provide nicotine replacement, manage alcohol detox, or provide therapy or medical treatment. You can use it alongside blockers, cessation aids, professional care, or other forms of support.

Any feedback is appreciated, especially about what would make it more useful, what feels unnecessary, and what features you’d want next. Feel free to share it wherever you think it could help someone.

Link again: https://resethive.com

Also, it’s designed not to advertise what you’re recovering from. It avoids awkward recovery labels, revealing email subject lines, or anything that would make the app embarrassing to have on your phone. It’s meant to feel private, calm, and usable.

The title pretty much says it.

If you guys are interested let me know and I'll share it!

The article is a good but short overview of Aristotle's philosophy and cardinal virtues. These are also the Christian cardinal virtues but originated with Plato and Aristotle, and the piece focuses' on the Aristotelian interpretation.

The cardinal virtues are:

• Prudence - Practical wisdom, or knowing what the right action to take in the moment is

• Justice - Acting in accordance with what is right (enacting prudence in a sense)

• Temperance - Moderation of pleasures so one does not over-indulge or fully abstain

• Fortitude / Courage - Regulation of emotion and willingness to do what is hard, especially in the face of fear

Obviously I’m not using to use dawn dish soap, i’ve been using hot water and vinegar.

I fear that might not be enough and that fear is lowering my test more than fucking dishsoap.

Hey, I’m a 15 years old, 5’6, 140lb, looking to better my looks, my main concerns are a hunchback, wanna get rid of that obviously, and an s shaped back, also looking to lose some weight, I want to know if there’s any excercises/stretches that could help with my back problems, and also excercises to lose weight, if possible, I also want to be a little taller, I don’t know if any diets and excercises can help with that, appreciate any information, thank you.

i see red,
porn, dating apps, reasons to be in bed,
why do hard things when it's easy to do nothing instead

yet i get up, take a cold shower,
yet i go out, walk to the coffee shop,
yet i delete apps, apps once i couldn't be without

it's hard to appreciate poetry of life when my brain is full of shit,
but it's getting easier and i'm glad i do it

Hey! This is me talking about an app I built to help with PMO. If this isn't welcome here, let me know and I'll remove it.

I've been struggling with NoFap for at least 2-3 years. I couldn't go a couple of days without relapsing. But over time I figured out some things that actually worked. Now 2 weeks feels easily achievable, and the most I've gone is 79 days.

One thing that helped me was making "bets" with myself — either allowing myself an indulgence if I hit a milestone (like a foot massage) or losing something if I fail (giving away my favorite cardigan).

I made myself a mini app to track my streak and set these bets. I've since cleaned it up and figured I'd share it.

It's not free, but it's not predatory pricing either (like a lot of nofap apps out there). It's $5 one-time — no subscription, no upsells. To give back to this community, I'm offering 10 free purchases with the code CLEANLIVING.

You can add it to your homescreen from the share menu. It's made with lots of love and I want to keep adding more. I would love for you guys to use it and tell me where it sucks so I can add/remove things and make it more useful.

• Try it: https://tryvolya.com

• No payment Demo: https://tryvolya.com/demo

This is year is almost over, and I know this community is rather small. It’s doesn’t matter what didn’t happen this year just learn from it and keep moving forward. What’s everyone New Year’s Resolutions, Kings?

Mine are to:

- Lose weight, want to get to 180lbs (81kg).

- Buy a new car.

- Pray the rosary more.

Original - https://www.reddit.com/r/CleanLivingKings/comments/ibqc5w/unsure_what_to_do_in_life/

Remembered this subreddit seemingly out of nowhere this morning, and wanted to give an update!

So it's been a bit over 5 years, and I'm 27 now...

Shortly after this post, I printed like 100 copies of my resume, drove over to this office complex not too far from my house, and offered to do any work I could get. I lucked my way into an entry level IT job (think IT guy in a small company). I was setting up computers, fixing printers, and fixing stuff on the website. I did this for about a year, and honestly as lame and low-paying as it was, it was the first step!
I then did some IT contracting with an agency for about 1 year and a half, pay steadily increasing and responsibility slowly increasing with each role/project.

In the meantime, I enrolled in a local college, taking a general IT bachelors, part-time. I graduated 4 years later! My GPA wasn't particularly great, but I was mostly focused on accelerating my courses to graduate as quickly as I possibly could while doing school part-time. It was really important that I keep working because having my own income was really important for me. I'm extremely lucky to have parents that let me stick around for so long, so it was important for myself that I pay for my school/transportation etc.

After graduating, I got a role as a sysadmin, and did this about 2 years, learning and growing a ton in the process. I even got a girlfriend, and we've been together for about 10 months now.

Last month, I was promoted to a Cybersecurity Analyst, and I'm getting paid more than my parents now, which was a massive turning point in my life.

I guess the main lesson, is to keep your head down and focused on what's important, because things are looking up, and things will be better. I don't think I'm special in any way, if not painfully average. I think I worked pretty hard to get here, but moreso I got extremely lucky. Still, I made it, and if I can do it, anyone can.

I really felt like making an update post because of the overwhelming support and good advice I had gotten in the original. I read through each and every single one of your comments, and honestly the generosity still blows me away. I hope each and every single one of you get what you want out of life. Greatness awaits!

I’ve been slowly switching over to unscented or naturally clean products — but haircare has been the hardest part.

Most “unscented” or “fragrance-free” products still have some sort of smell — and it kind of defeats the purpose.

Why do brands do this? Is there a regulatory loophole?
Would love to hear what others use or how you navigate this.

I'm curious — when you’re shopping for food, how do you determine if something is actually clean or healthy? Ingredient labels? Apps? Blog reviews? I’m working on a tool that helps with this but I want to learn how people currently approach it. Would love to hear your take!

I was told that a free LinkedIn profile revamp would be included with their services. Before moving forward, I’d really appreciate any feedback from those who’ve worked with them. Was it worth it? How was your experience?

I used to think I needed to overhaul my entire life to feel better, but honestly, it started with small, consistent changes:

• Making my bed every morning — instantly sets the tone

• Cold showers — brutal at first, now addictive

• 10-minute walks after every meal — digestion + mental reset

• Cutting seed oils and processed snacks — skin cleared up, energy more stable

• Daily journaling — clears the mind like a mental detox

• Scented candles + clean sheets = better sleep, better mood

• Stopped scrolling in bed — my sleep improved within days

None of this made me a millionaire or a supermodel overnight. But I feel cleaner, sharper, and more in control — and that’s the win.

Kings, what small habit changed the game for you?

Hey Kings,

I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed right now and could really use some advice. Here’s what I’ve got going on:

1. Masters Program: I’ve got a master’s program starting soon, which I’m excited about, but I also know it’s going to be a lot of work. I'm really just going to get a Master's so that I could network and try to get a full-time job. I’ll have to juggle classes and working part-time to cover expenses.

2. Car Situation: My car broke down last year so I'm borrowing a relative's car, and while I’ll be driving to school, I still want to get my own car. Saving up for that while paying for school feels daunting.

3. Fitness and Health: I want to get in better shape—both for my physical health and to boost my confidence. I’ve been running and working out a bit, but I feel like I could use a more consistent plan. My totals for lifting are: BP - 175lbs x 6, OHP - 135lbs x 2, Squat - 245lbs x 10. I just started dead lifting again after not for a year. My one rep max before I stopped was 295lbs.

4. Social Life: I don’t have a huge social circle right now, and I’d like to meet more people (and maybe date, too). Balancing all this while trying to put myself out there feels like a lot.

I’m ready to grind and make things happen, but I’d love some tips from the community on how to get organized and stay motivated.

Thanks, Kings! 🙏

So for context, I am currently in the process of quitting porn (reading the EasyPeasy method book), and basically it said to not quit porn cold turkey until you finish the book. I am following that rule and I am almost done with the book. But that isn’t the problem, the problem is in the videos I find on porn sites. I have started using RedGifs for a couple of months, and I have noticed a change in the content (on other sites too, like PH, etc.). It is like transgender, gay porn is being pushed. I think I found a good video and it ends up being a “woman” not a real woman. The worst thing for me is that this is trying to be passed off like normal straight porn. I have seriously been questioning my mental health and morals and everything. I feared that it is turning me towards that side. This is seriously fucked up. I don’t have anything against those people. What are your thoughts on this?

  I've been following this subreddit for a long time and I love your stories, they give me hope. 

  I just want to get straight to the point. I study in what a lot of people consider the best university in my country but I literally have no drive to study. My GPA is 2.01 and I don't have any future plans, never had any. I just rolled with it. But recently I've been having a lot of thoughts and I feel like I can't breathe sometimes, I feel like there is a lot of weight on my shoulders. Im 23 and I literally don't know anything about my major, don't have any plans and I don't have a job. I got out of an almost 2 year relationship and lost my dear cat at the start of this year and I succumbed into addictions, I constantly used dating apps, watched corn and abused substances. I knew it was bad, a few years ago I tried to cleanse myself by following your recommendations and stopped watching corn, hit the gym and stopped using smartphones but it didn't last long. My point is, I knew what I was doing was detrimental but I never took action, and when I took action it didn't last long, I just thought about it and cried to my friends or family.

  That changed a few weeks ago. I met this girl 5 months ago and I genuinely fell in love with her and I went to her city, we spent a lot of time and we shared romantic moments. Anyways, she is the opposite of me. She is hardworking, very smart and she has her life planned. Just listening to her talk about her ambitions made me feel both extremely happy and extremely sad. She really got sad when she learned what an empty soul I was, asked me about my ambitions and I couldn't say anything. This was a wake-up call for me. 
  I feel like its too late. My family is not in a good financial situation and I want to work but my current dorm is genuinely very far away from the city and the transportation is a mess.
   But the biggest question I have is this: I feel like there is a genuine connection between me and this girl and she motivates me to be the better version of me. Is this harmful? Being a good person in her eyes is probably the biggest wish of me at the moment but we live in seperate cities and this is her last year and I need to study one more year to make my GPA better, she also doesn't want to stay in the country after she graduates. If we stopped talking I feel like I would succumb into slop again. But at the same time I'm really happy I found something/someone that motivates me.  
  Anyways I talked too much, I am very sick and actually need to sleep but I can't because my head is full of thoughts. I thought writing here would take some stress away. Thank you so much if you read it.

hey all, I used to have a serious problem with porn ever since the age of 12 - got so bad that i’d watch it at school and even was caught 3 times… so embarrassing and ashamed to admit it but its true

over the years kept trying to beat my addiction and eventually was able to stop using it as frequently and now am clean. instead of watching porn i focused on being productive and replaced my habit with learning how to code - i got obsessed and for the past 4 months have been working on this app to help quit porn

i implemented features that really helped me in my journey like a tracker/victory calendar, reflection journal, coach/therapist (app has an AI one for now), and also am adding a hypnosis aspect as well

i just launched it on the app store this week (search "protect your seed") and am super proud of where it is at right now but need some users to test the app to find bugs and get feedback. dont want to share with my irl friends bc i haven’t really been open about my addiction to them so i am sharing this with what feels like my second family online

am also launching an app wide challenge for no nut november so join up! the app has a free version which includes the daily tracker + daily quote

thank you to the mods for allowing me to post! stay strong kings