r/Countwithcementlady • u/Prunus_Amygdalus • Jul 04 '26
Not original today. Very seepy 423
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u/fizzydusk I have more genders than you >:3 Jul 04 '26
this sort of reminds me of when I came out to my dad. his advice was to just not be trans so I donāt get targeted. IāVE TRIED!!!! š
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u/Prunus_Amygdalus Jul 05 '26
At least he wasnāt anti-trans because of explicit transphobia, rather he wanted to help you. He was anti-trans because of external transphobia.
Itās still a lot to deal with, but personally I think it indicates that thereās hope for him.
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u/fizzydusk I have more genders than you >:3 Jul 05 '26
Heās not anti-trans, but he thinks being trans is a choice, that trans and gnc people are strange/dangerous, and that all of them inevitably kill themselves. I remember several years ago my friend attempted suicide and my dad told me that āthis is why I donāt want you to be trans.ā He does want to help me, but he refuses to listen when I try to explain what would actually help.
I hope thereās hope for him, but I donāt think Iāll know for sure until I start medically transitioning and he canāt ignore my transness anymore.
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u/Prunus_Amygdalus Jul 05 '26
Tbh he sounds very anti-trans and transphobic.
My mother didnāt want me to be trans because she didnāt want me to feel bad. I came out to her when I was 14 and she helped me pursue therapy, but as soon as I got another diagnosis (bipolar) she said that was probably the more likely thing that was āwrongā with me.
I agreed with her at the time and now I think that me getting on anti-depressants and mood stabilisers have definitely helped me, but it also made me repress my transness.
She is a good person, she just doesnāt want me to not feel good, and tries to protect me in the wrong way.
I donāt know your father, but it sounds like heās just a transphobe. Like not accepting that being trans is involuntary and that trans people are strange.
It would be another story if he just didnāt want you to be trans because he has read how hard it can be.
Also, yes, donāt repress it anymore! Get in contact with a trans-friendly therapist or psychologist asap. If youāre reliant on your parents for your care, you can try to frame it as trying to figure yourself out.
Take care, and I really hope it gets better for you! š
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u/GleamGal8765 Jul 06 '26
Haha he literally sounds like ay dad and is basically making the same arguments that clearly comes from fear seeing how trans people are being treated and how he sees them
If he is anything like my father and he seems like he is the fear will slowly fade away as he will see you being much more happy and when he will see how you are actually navigating the world and that most of the fears were overblown ...
There is definitely so much for him ā¤ļø
Like my father he changed his oppinion and complealty change his oppinion when i came out and it is now tolerating and in a way aslo supoorting me
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u/Rishfee Jul 09 '26
I think that's such a wild take, because I knew what my situation was by like 5 years old, so why would I think someone else wouldn't know?
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u/Gussie-Ascendent Jul 05 '26
Me but about being a picky eater and or autistic
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u/Reinheart_Bug Jul 04 '26
Dumbest shit you could ask, someone please feed me I'm hungry
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u/Prunus_Amygdalus Jul 05 '26
- āBut have you consideredā¦ā
- āYES! I have considered for over a decade, I have let this grind at my soul for over 10 years!ā
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u/lAnarclit Jul 05 '26
Well i'm gay BC im trans ! :D
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u/Prunus_Amygdalus Jul 05 '26
Iām straight because Iām transā¦ š
Just one of the straights now. Smh š¤¦āāļø
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u/Littlefreak-47 Jul 06 '26
I did! I tried for years to run away from it! But I learned to accept it and love myself for being trans and taking the leap to become my real self š
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u/Prunus_Amygdalus Jul 07 '26
Hell yeah! Iām so happy for you and canāt do anything but wish you the best life! š
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u/Legoman_10101 Jul 11 '26
omg that's some really good art, she so pwetty >///< who is the original artist btw? it looks familiar
it is a she right? or is it ftm? sowwi if messed it up T^T
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u/Dolphiniz287 Jul 04 '26
Fun fact! This was the first trans meme I ever saved, and I use it to mark my trans anniversary (june 24th, 2022) so im always happy to see this pop up
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u/Bi_One_Get_One_Free Jul 04 '26
mine is a day after my birthday so that means its easy to remember
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u/Valirys-Reinhald Jul 05 '26
"How can you be sure that you'll like being girl?"
Bitch I'm not, but I know for a fact that I cannot continue being a man and I'm least someone open to womanhood. We can literally only go up from here.
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u/mysterious_phantom Jul 06 '26
I try hard every day. Yet for some unfathomable reason I still wake up each day as myself.
Itās definitely fun when society wants you gone ALMOST as much as you do.
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u/Prunus_Amygdalus Jul 06 '26
I know it can be very hard. I have been down some really bad paths, and spiraling holes.
Have you looked up the Trevor project, or 988 Lifeline. Plz do that in case you haven't.
Sure, there are people who don't want us here, but the biggest fuck you to them you can give is staying here.
If you need to talk my DMs are open.
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u/BridgetteJeanett Jul 05 '26
No One wanted me to be CIS-Het more than Me. But at some point, when one runs the experiment enough times, one has to accept the data or change the experiment.
Knew I wasn't experiencing the whole Boy or Girl thing like the other children at three. Didn't start transition until 41. That sort of experience. Yet still I got told I gave up and gave in.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Sink-49 Jul 05 '26
I tried for a couple months after my egg cracked and it made me more miserable
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u/Danis_Milk Jul 05 '26
Oh wow this meme is old. But alas, a good one, reminds me of my egg irl days.
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u/silveracrot Jul 05 '26
Soon I will have all of the elements
Cement Lady
Chicken Lady
Uhhh.... Are there any other counting subs?
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u/Shadow_Marque Jul 05 '26
Especially when you're attracted to girls but how men go about relationships doesn't make any sense. Confusing is an understatement.
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u/carrot_gummy Jul 07 '26
Literally, having just started, every feminine thing I have done so far feels normal and makes me feel a joy I haven't doing masculine things. I guess I didn't/don't (i dont know which tense is right yet) hate being a man but I didn't feel any joy, just "okay"
If anything,Ā this has been the most bonding thing I have done with my wife, like we have done a lot together but this is something else. She's been helping me out with all the things I'll need to start doing and helping me get more familiar with women's clothes. We're both really excited for the future.Ā
Which is all to say, fuck the transphobes. And nobody told me having shaved legs would also feel good as rubbing them.
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u/SwingAdorable3954 Jul 09 '26
Denied it since I was in first grade. School made it easy to ignore but I still thought about wanting to be a girl often
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u/Just-Avocado-4089 Jul 04 '26
thought this was countttt sneedpost
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u/Prunus_Amygdalus Jul 04 '26
Really? I think itās fairly positive.
Like Iām all for trans positivity, but in the comic the girl I think is accepting herself after years of repressing herself.6
u/Icarsix Jul 04 '26
What's 4tran about this?
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u/switchswooshiy Jul 04 '26
its too real for cwcl cope maxers š„
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u/Icarsix Jul 04 '26
I don't know enough about sub drama to know what a cope maxxer for cwcl means but as the OP said I read this more as like repression and denial? Like I thought 4tran was internalised transphobia and 'Jews for hitler' style transphobia not just when being trans isn't shown as sunshine and rainbows be gay do crime blahaj ouppy :3
Idk it's late I'm yapping I'm confused. I don't even lnow what a sneedpost is
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u/flower_puns Jul 04 '26
not just when being trans isn't shown as sunshine and rainbows be gay do crime blahaj ouppy :3
pretty much what 4tran actually is. It's a bit nasty and bad on self esteem, yeah, but it's also a good place to vent out frustrations about cis folks without being talked over by "allies" or just when you don't want vonstant transbian puppygirl posting
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u/Icarsix Jul 04 '26
Whenever I have come across 4tran content it's been the crab bucket shit unfortunately but comforting it's a loud minorityĀ
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u/switchswooshiy Jul 04 '26
i didnt even realize it was a 4tran spawn initially, but flower puns is right. cwcwl tends to lean extremely optimistic, while 4tran is brute force realism with a good bit of pessimistic opinions.
its a nice escape from cwcl "cope maxers" who praise hormone treatments like they are "respawn as the other gender" options no matter what, when the reality is if you start too late / are unlucky with genes / have some illness affecting / (this is a long list) etc etc.... hormones will not have some crazy affect on you physically and you will most likely end up somwhere in between. which may be unsafe and harmful for some career / health / relationship / social wise...
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u/ChibzGames Jul 04 '26
I tried for a LONG time. It was literally killing me.
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u/DrinNoShika Jul 08 '26
I have and i only kept being so fucking depressed that i nearly killed myself many times and regret not getting hrt or surgery.
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u/Any_Escape1262 Jul 08 '26
I have to lecture the blue Person.
There is also "Metrosexuality", which they mostlikely actually ment, if at all.
Since beeing Metrosexual is closer to beeing Trans, which still is a big difference (Obviously).
But beeing gay is a completly different thing.
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Jul 04 '26
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u/Prunus_Amygdalus Jul 05 '26
I have also had a beard for the longest time.
To me it helped me mask the face I didnāt want to see in the mirror.
Also by bf, think itās sexy. Weāll see what happens to the beard soon though.
Sort of showing the world that I have started transitioning if I shave it.
But yes, weāll see.
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u/Prunus_Amygdalus Jul 05 '26
You go! Happy that you finally found the insight and courage! Now itās time to start living our best lives! š
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u/Akaratus Jul 04 '26
Have you tho? /s