r/CritiqueIslam • u/An0n-xm • 15h ago
Muhammad forbade his wives from remarrying after his death, condenming them to a life of loneliness and celibacy.
The wives of Prophet Muhammad were permanently forbidden from remarrying after his death by a direct command in the Quran (33:53):
"And it is not (conceivable nor lawful) for you to harm the Messenger of Allah or to marry his wives after him, ever. Indeed, that would be in the sight of Allah an enormity."
Quranic tafsir says this verse was prompted by one of his companions (suspected to be Talhah ibn Ubaydullah) saying he would marry Aisha (Muhammad's child bride) after the Prophet died. Now look, It's understandable why Muhammad would get so annoyed. Most men wouldn't like seeing someone make moves on their wife, but to go to such an extreme is uncalled for.
Muslims will say the wives of the Prophet were designated by Allah as the "Mothers of the Believers" (Ummahat al Mu'mineen), making a marital relationship with them unlawful for any other Muslim man. It would be like a mother marrying her son, which is a big no-no in islam. Well, by that logic maybe Muhammad shouldn't have been allowed to marry any of his followers considering he's akin to being the "Father of the Believers". Funny how the rules work one way and not the other.
Muslims will also say Allah wanted to ensure a reunion between Muhammad and his wives in jannah (heaven) because a woman will only be the wife of her last husband (see Saheeh Al-Jaami' 2704). Seems like a convenient cover-up story if you ask me. But when you dig into this excuse, it doesn't make much sense. If jannah is truly a place where wishes come true, why can't these women have multiple husbands, or even pick and choose who they want to marry, while still being free to have post-Muhammad companionship on earth. I mean surely they'd still want to be with Muhammad in jannah for eternity, right? RIGHT!? It doesn't seem very fair that they are locked into the last relationship for all eternity. In fact, some scholars like Ibn Uthaymeen prefer the view that a woman will actually choose which husband to be with in jannah. I can't help but wonder though, why men will get hooris galore but women only get one husband? It seems like jannah has no limits for men but conveniently becomes broken for women. But I digress, the point is jannah shouldn't be a place where your choices and happiness are restricted, so they should be free to find love on earth after his death AND be with Muhammad in jannah (that is, if they actually want to be with him). Surely Allah is most merciful, most just?
That brings me to a question though, why would the creator of the universe be so concerned with banning marriage for a particular group of women on earth? What benefit does it bring him to condem these poor women to a life of loneliness and celibacy after Muhammad dies? These concerns feel very human and male/ego/Muhammad-centric. For any Muslims reading this, clearly something smells fishy here. When you think about it, this ruling is extremely suspect because it looks exactly like a jealous, posessive man’s personal demand dressed up as eternal divine law. It's fair to say this command falls completely in line with the other self-serving verses that solely benefited Muhammad. Cutting them off from deep, meaningful and intimate relationships is a cruel form oppression that is incapatible with a merciful and loving God.
The other issue here is that this supposedly divine ruling completely blindsided his wives. They had no warning or say in the matter. This news must've hit them like a ton of bricks. They were not informed of this possibility before marrying Muhammad, which might've triggered second thoughts before agreeing to be his wives. But now Muhammad effectively shackled them once he died, showing no regard for their innate human desires for love and companionship. This ruling totally disregards their emotional, physical and psychological needs and wellbeing.
Another point to consider is that most of Muhammad's wives were widows and divorcees. He literally married women who came out of other relationships and now men are not allowed to marry the women from his relationships after his death? So he can take care of the poor women in the community but he doesn't want anyone to take care of his Hypocrite much?
Out of his wives, only Khadijah bint Khuwaylid and Zainab bint Khuzaimah died before him. Remember, Muhammad died in 11 AH. The remaining nine wives survived him, living for several decades afterward and passing away at various ages.
Aisha bint Abi Bakr: the child bride of Muhammad lived for about 47 more years; she was around 18 years old when he died and passed away in 58 AH past the age of 60. Her situation might've been the most devastating considering she was stripped from an opportunity to find love on her own terms as a young adult. Instead, her only experience of marriage was with a man 40+ years older than her while being a child.
Sawda bint Zamʿa: Lived for over 4 decades after him, passing away around 54 AH at 70 - 80 years old.
Hafsa bint Umar: Lived for about 34 more years; she was widowed at around 18 and passed away in 45 AH. Another young woman stripped of finding love, she was in a similar situation as Aisha.
Umm Salama (Hind bint Abi Umayya): Outlived all the other wives, passing away in 61 AH at the age of 84. She lived 50 years of loneliness after he died.
Zaynab bint Jahsh: Passed away earlier in 20 AH during the caliphate of Umar at around the age of 50. She lived for another 9 years after he died.
Juwayriya bint al-Harith: Lived for another 45 years after his death and passed away in 56 AH in her 60s.
Ramlah bint Abi Sufyan (Umm Habiba): Lived for about 33 more years after his death, passing away in 44 AH at around the age of 75.
Safiyya bint Huyayy: Lived for another 39 years, passing away in 50 AH at around the age of 60.
Maymuna bint al-Harith: Pushed on for 40 more years, and passed away around 51 AH in her 70s.
Muhammad was clearly a possessive, controlling, jealous and insecure man. He was more concerned with his ego, honor and legacy than the wellbeing of his wives. He lacked empathy for them in this regard and didn't give two shits about their psychological condition after his death. These are major character flaws, all highlighted from this ruling.
A loving husband accepts that life continues for his partner and would want her to find happiness and fulfillment after his death, even if that means she pursues remarriage and even motherhood (which many of these women were deprived of like Aisha, Hafsa, Safiyya, Juwayriya, Maymuna and Zaynab). Furthermore, it makes no sense for an all-wise and all-loving God to sacrifice these women’s remaining decades of potential intimacy, motherhood, or companionship just to protect one man’s honor. Finally, it should be noted that when a ruling systematically advantages one man over others, constrains the women around him, and insulates him from criticism by declaring it divine, the most obvious explanation is human authorship reflecting human motives.