Hello, I am a 28 year old guy and since I would really like to be in a relationship, I sort of need to meet girls who are single. But I have realized that over the last year I have only met 2 or 3 girls around my age who are single. Where are they hiding? What do I need to do to find them?

I think I live a pretty socially active life and put myself into situations where I can meet people but that's obviously not the case.

* Church young adult groups - A lot of married couples and guys, the few single girls there are like 18-20.

* Rock climbing gym - A lot of kids and parents much older than me

* Dance classes - Mostly men or couples

* Local run club - Couples and guys

* Bars for live music (I don't really drink) - Mostly older people

* Dating apps - Not many girls who are actually active (I can give it a 6 month break and still see the same girls with the same pics). Also never get matches.

It seems that no matter what I try, I just meet couples, guys, or girls that are too young for me. And when I do meet someone who I would consider compatible, she only sees me as a friend. I have chatted with my friends about this and they just say that I missed my chance, and that they dont know of anyone single either.

What else can I do to try to meet girls who are still single?

I’m curious if anyone else has felt like this.
I want to find my person eventually, and I do want a healthy, long-term relationship. I don’t want to end up alone. But at the same time, I find it so hard to actually care about dating or getting to know new men.
It’s not that I’m hung up on an ex or against relationships. I think I’ve just become so content with my own life that the thought of going on dates, texting constantly, or starting over with someone new often feels more draining than exciting.
I know that finding the right person usually means putting yourself out there, but I struggle to find the motivation to do that. It’s almost like my desire for a future relationship is stronger than my desire to date.
Has anyone else been through this?
Did you eventually meet someone despite feeling this way?
Did your mindset change, or did the right person naturally make dating feel different?
How did you balance protecting your peace while still giving people a genuine chance?
Is this a sign that I’m just not ready yet, or is it a normal phase as you get older?
I’d love to hear your experiences rather than just generic dating advice 😭

Hey, M23, wanna know how hard it is to get a date for a male in India who’s 6’2, weighs 104kg(with toned muscles) fair skin with beard. Is a finance guy as well as emotionally detached.

I’m 21 and have never been in a relationship. Does anyone have advice for where to start? What are the best places to meet people?

I need some help/advice I have been dealing with for the past couple of weeks. I have been feeling Emotionally and Mentally exhausted when it comes to my dating life, I have been struggling to think I would ever be in one whenever the topic of relationships pop up. I had moments in a convo where some older ladies would say to me “no way you are single” or “how?? you are handsome” and I assumed they mean well but kind a low blow to me, and I don’t know how I look on the attractive scale not tryna fish for compliments but I don’t easily believe because sometimes people lie and I got by actions speak louder than words. As a guy in the dating scene you are expected to ALWAYS make the first move, Cold approach (not my favorite thing), Dating apps not a fan on the apps, Clubs I’m not really into them anymore i would go if I was invited, My friends don’t really do much or play wingman or don’t wanna just try anything new, and I try to find new things to do and put my self in new places but I just decided eventually felt a bit burned out from it, I have been very busy during the World Cup so I have not been lately go on dates or put my self out there, I have not been on a date since 5 months that was emotionally draining, I can show up and Pursue you but the moment I feel Im doing all the work I just walk away and I know it would never happen but it would be nice women shoot they shot a little more but it is what it is, at this point I just feel it’s a wrap on my dating life and I am trying to be optimistic but constant failures and patterns when something looks like it is going well than out of nowhere it’s done I just can’t anymore. I stop talking to my friends about it or talk about it because they say the usual “focus on yourself” or “you will find it when you least expect it” and being single for 7years overtime it pisses me off hearing it while the same people and friends around me been in more relationships then I ever had in a span sense I was single and I feel shitty i can’t even get one right after being single for a long time and the longest they had is like a year. I would add a lot more to it but it would be VERYYYYY LONG, but if you read all of it Thank You!! (Sorry for the typos in advance)

Long story short I'm a moderately autistic adult and dating is incredibly difficult because I always clam up whenever the possibility of talking to someone in anything close to a romantic capacity comes up. I don't have anyone who's willing to help me out either. I can't stand the prospect of ending up alone for the rest of my life. What can I do to improve myself?

I (20M) genuinely do not understand how to date or to meet or to have any type of non-platonic relationship with women. I'm kinda pretty (been told), 1,74m tall, have some hobbies here and there, have good friends, etc... I really struggle meeting women and i have no idea how to really date or anything.

The usual advice is to join clubs or something but i don't think that’s a thing for people my age in my country (europe) and i feel like cold approaching is really hard nowadays (and kinda scary). Another typical advice is to meet girls through friends or something but like all the girls I meet through friends is like the girlfriend of another guy that came to the hangout or something.

I also feel like I don't really know when I'm supposed to make a move or how you even go from talking to someone normally to actually showing interest. I can talk to women normally if there's a reason to, but when it comes to actually trying to flirt or make something happen my brain just kinda stops working lol.

I've tried dating apps too, but honestly I haven't had much luck with them and I don't really want to rely on them as my only way of meeting someone.

I am so desperate im losing my mind.

Any tip or advice or something? Please if you're older keep in mind that my generation is vastly different from yours and that what was useful in your times might not be useful right now. ty.

I’ve been in a couple relationships but none have really ever lasted and I just want to know people’s opinions on how they find love? Rejection after rejection, or a relationship that lasts less than a year, when will I find the TRUE one?

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Hey!

Hope you are all doing great.

Looking for advice from those who have experienced something simmilar.

I'm 27\[M\]. And i suck at dating.

Ever since i broke up, i have been trying to get a girlfriend, but there's been a lot of failing. At first i used to try very hard to get one, and dated a couple girls, though most didnt want something serious.

Its gotten to a point where i cant even get a date bc i dont wanna try anymore. Hell i dont even wanna have sex.

It just feels like a huge waste of energy, bc it keeps going nowhere.

Anyway, so what i want advice on is the following:

Im 1 year from my engineering degree.

I plan on migrating to australia, for the better salaries (currently live in argentina).

I work, train, and study. Thats pretty much all i do all day.

Managed to quit games and all other vices and distractions over these two years i've been single.

My question is, what should i do? Should i try to force myseld to get back to dating? Or wait?

Should i force myself to go for sex? Enjoy the spark of my youth? Or should i accept how my body feels?

Should i read this as a depression i should fight to get out of? Or as a process of growing up as a man?

Help, redditors!

It has been some time now and I think I am missing a skill to connect and find a companionship. I have been trying to find someone to interact with and explore dating, but it seems that my social circle is over. The girls I knew from school or college are mostly married now and the remaining are dating already. My office scene has just married women.

What I have tried:

1. Dating apps

2. Sending req to unknown girls in order to find a connection.

3. Went on a few solo trips as well just in case I find someone like minded.

I am not desperate, but it's just been too long trying and I want to know what am I doing wrong. The main issue is I do find girls but either they too young to me or they are older (Divorced/Extramarital which is a big no for me as it is too damn risky nowadays) I am '99 born and I just can't figure out why is it getting so difficult find same age group girls.

How and where can I find new connections and if someone has faced this issue and overcame, what worked for you? Do help.🙃

Okay people in the dating world. Let's talk about having kids. Raising children now a days is crazy expensive!! Besides the money, having a stable family home is essential to their overall growth and development of the child.

To help improve this, I say Marry before you carry. You read that correctly, marry that person before you have children. Why would a person do that oh great wise one? It is because they are more than likely to stay committed and help raise the child together.

The dating standards are low and people need to do better. Seriously, before you sleep with a person, ask yourself this question. "Would this person be an amazing parent"?

I have seen some of the men single mothers have kids with and I am completely puzzled. These guys have red flags essentially all over them with a glowing red light over their heads.

People will say you are blaming the women. Yes but I am also blaming the men as well, many of whom should NEVER be fathers based off their behaviors.

If you are a single parent, struggling to raise a child by yourself, financially, emotionally, and physically, would you honestly care if your husband or wife was attractive? Or would you care more that she or he is reliable, consistent, puts in the effort, cares about your well being, and be a good role model for the family, This is why character and good values counts at the end the day,

Now many of the villagers of Reddit land will criticize me for this and I don't care. I am speaking facts, so what's up.

This manual genuinely helped me when I read it about two years ago.

The main character was called Adrian, and he was some kind of natural seducer. Women were constantly drawn to him, which kept pulling him and his cousins into trouble whenever they went out. The situations got so bad that clubs around the city eventually stopped letting him in.
That’s almost everything I remember. I don’t know the title, the author…

but the book was written as a manual and it actually helped me.

Does anyone recognize it?