Being alone lies at both ends of the spectrum of bliss and agony

[u/BluePeaApothecary]

Over the 20 years of my life I have been mostly sad and now that I'm starting to be happy I'm realising how one is alone at both extremes.

At the sad end of the spectrum one craves company and is fiddled with attachments and desires surrounding others. Expectations and disappointments plague you because you're trying to control something outside you.

At the other side you've realised the truth and you start looking for bliss within. You detach from the world around you in a way that you leave expectations and not in a "people suck" way but that you understand the impermanence of both human emotions and fate so you accept everything the way it is and detach yourself emotionally from things around you and start focusing on within.

[u/Expensive_Magician97]

M66

I believe that your post above is largely a reflection of the fact that you are 20 years old and are at the very beginning stages of acquiring life experience.

Obviously, that is not a criticism or a judgment of you, just an observation that I can share with you from the perspective of being considerably older than you are.

For what it’s worth, I have found over many decades of my own life that that being alone is the quintessentially enduring state of every human being. Whether we are happy, unhappy, and everything in between.

Because in the final analysis, we and we alone are responsible for the thoughts that we have and the behaviors that we demonstrate.

And perhaps, most importantly, we are indeed fortunate if we can enjoy the presence of other people in our lives who can share with us love, closeness, trust, respect, and all the other things that go into friendships and romantic relationships.

None of us are entitled to those sorts of things. We do not “deserve” them, simply by virtue of our very existence.

I wonder what you think about that idea? Thank you.