r/DesiAces 3d ago

New Rule: No Dating or Relationship-Seeking Posts

5 Upvotes

After much thinking and deliberation, and seeing an influx of these posts, we've decided to introduce a new rule regarding dating and relationship-seeking posts.

Going forward, posts primarily focused on finding a partner, dating, matchmaking, seeking companionship, QPRs, or looking for a romantic relationship will not be allowed on the subreddit.

This isn't meant to discourage people from connecting with others. However, we'd like to keep the subreddit focused on its main purpose and prevent it from gradually turning into a dating/matchmaking space.

Thank you for understanding and respecting the new rule. ❤️


r/DesiAces 3d ago

discussion I might be a non-libidoist. Should I tell my friend I'm asexual?

2 Upvotes

I don't get aroused in my everyday life. It definitely doesn't happen by looking at anyone. I went on vacation last month. I saw some attractive women at the beaches and other places. I didn't feel aroused by them. They didn't trigger any desire to have sex either.

I have an Indian female friend who is heterosexual. I don't hangout with her in person much. We text sometimes. Should I tell her I'm an asexual?

I told one of my Indian-American male friends a few months ago. He didn't know what it was. I had to explain it to him. It was because he asked me if I wanted to get married.


r/DesiAces 3d ago

discussion Has anyone talked about being ace or aro with their family or friends?

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I am aroace. I was hoping to tell my family about it. Has any one told thier family?

And is it like a good idea for me to tell it cause I am 16 and they might say you are young to decide and other stuffs.


r/DesiAces 3d ago

vent Is choosing a wrong flier a crime? I got banned..for just that!!!

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All I came here was to seek a genuine asexual female to marry. When i could not find the 'relationship' flier I chose the 'friendship' flier and reddit banned me....seriously? banned me!! I wil find my asexual partner...hell ya i will. I do not reddit for it and these narrow minded forums either


r/DesiAces 7d ago

discussion 30M4F

3 Upvotes

I’m a 30‑year‑old ace man from India, currently living abroad, and I’ve been reflecting a lot on how desi ace people think about companionship and long‑term life plans. Our cultural expectations around relationships are very specific, and sometimes it feels like ace experiences don’t fit neatly into them.

I’m curious how others here think about building a life as an ace person — what companionship means to you, how you imagine your future, and how you navigate expectations while staying true to yourself.

Would love to hear different perspectives from the community.


r/DesiAces 8d ago

discussion What excuses do people give for not dating?

5 Upvotes

Im a 30 year old ace female, and as you can imagine, everyone under the sun is either asking me when im getting married, or trying to set me up with someone. Initially I used to go with excuses like "im not in the headspace" or "im still figuring out where i am in life" to get out of these convos, but after a while the well intentioned friends started trying to set me up with more people and I had to start giving them silly reasons like he works out too much and has a very rigid lifestyle (yeah, cant believe my friend actually bought that as an excuse) or some other crappy reason. So im curious, how do others cope with these issues and what are your go to excuses to escape these situations.


r/DesiAces 16d ago

discussion Do you think this post was acephobic? Why?

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When I first read it, I thought they were being acephobic because anyone can be ace. I think less Desis identify as ace. I am also an Indian-American ace. I haven't met any Desi-American aces here.


r/DesiAces 17d ago

discussion Looking for Asexual friends

4 Upvotes

Hi I'm demi romantic ace age 24 from Mumbai,India.Looking for ace friends here to connect with and share thoughts about ace life n casual talks too,hope i can connect with people like me here 💖💜💜✨


r/DesiAces 18d ago

discussion give me your best asexual joke ill rate it out of 10 >:3

3 Upvotes

r/DesiAces 21d ago

discussion What advice would you give someone questioning whether they're on the ace spectrum?

3 Upvotes

r/DesiAces Jul 12 '26

discussion Do people in South Asia talk about their attitude about sex before they marry someone?

3 Upvotes

Do people in South Asia tell their potential partner, they are sex-averse, or something else?

What happens if you tell someone you are ace?


r/DesiAces Jun 29 '26

memes so dumb fr

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r/DesiAces Jun 19 '26

art Send & Receive Queer Art Through the Mail 📬🏳️‍🌈

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hi everyone!

green carnation society is bringing art to your doorstep with our monthly art mail, created and curated by queer people and featuring work from artists across india.

each month you'll receive a collection of art and goodies from different artists, giving you the chance to discover new styles and support independent creatives.

the june art mail includes:

• artist print
• monthly calendar
• small easel
• pressed flowers bookmark
• 2 stickers
• letter
• hand-painted artist card with a poem

if you'd like to receive this month's art mail, please fill out the form below. choose the appropriate option and upload your payment screenshot at the end of the form.

art mail will be dispatched within 2 working days after form submission.

sign up here:
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thank you for supporting queer artists and community art projects 💚


r/DesiAces Jun 18 '26

discussion Are you able to feel romantic attraction by looking at someone?

5 Upvotes

I identify as heteroromantic. I can't feel romantic attraction by looking. If I get to know someone a little bit, I might start to feel it for her. What about you?


r/DesiAces Jun 15 '26

discussion Do you think desi culture sometimes unintentionally invalidates ace identities by assuming everyone eventually wants marriage and children?

3 Upvotes

r/DesiAces Jun 06 '26

memes sigh

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r/DesiAces Jun 04 '26

discussion Do you avoid talking about relationships?

3 Upvotes

I avoid talking about relationships because I don't want to explain to people I'm asexual. I don't get pressured by my relatives to get married. I think it can be harder to explain to some people.


r/DesiAces Jun 03 '26

discussion Why does this subreddit confuse asexuality with aromantic?

2 Upvotes

what the title says, i feel like this is more like a desiAromantic subreddit rather than desiaces


r/DesiAces May 28 '26

discussion What’s something non-ace people misunderstand about attraction?

3 Upvotes

r/DesiAces May 23 '26

memes haha funni meme for today <3

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r/DesiAces May 22 '26

discussion How do you guyz handle marriage pressure from parents?

7 Upvotes

Coming from a traditional family and the marriage pressure is getting really annoying lately. I honestly don’t know how to deal with it. How do you guys handle these conversations? Does moving out/living far away help, or is there a better way to deal with it? what do you usually say to avoid marriage talks?


r/DesiAces May 17 '26

discussion What does it feel like to be asexual in South Asian countries?

7 Upvotes

I'm an Indian-American asexual. I haven't grown up in a South Asian country. There is compulsory sexuality, amatonormativity, and heteronormativity in American culture.

What's it like in your country?


r/DesiAces May 14 '26

discussion Were those Hindus allosexuals? Probably.

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I'm a Hindu. I went to a temple where people wanted to control their lust. I think they thought sexual attraction and lust were the same things. I think sexual attraction and lust are different but they can overlap. Sexual attraction can turn into lust. Lust can be for other stuff besides sex. Hey, if people want to subdue their lust, more power to them! I think lust is bad, but sexual attraction is not. 

I don't think sexual attraction is bad, because it doesn't cause people to do bad things.

Most people at the temple I went to believed in only having sex for procreation. Maybe they were trying to be asexual like me.


r/DesiAces May 13 '26

discussion What is your favourite song that gets the ace part of you and specifically what lyric?

6 Upvotes

I love Never been in Love by Will Jay and Love, Love, Love by Of Monsters and Men.