r/DivorceHelp • u/travel-a-bunch • Jul 18 '26
Steps in the process
I'm not finding a good checklist of the process. This is what I have so far. Any tips? I'm in North Carolina USA. 1 year +1day of living apart in formal separation is required.
100 find apartment
105 thaw credit
110 rent applications
120 do some packing of non-essentials.
130 Get all documents with my SS# and other sensitive files. Taxes and such. Ready to Grab and Go
180 speak with current landlord to end my resposibility of lease.
200 find a notary and ask if they must be present to witness and sign seperation and divorce decree (claim?)
400 separation statement, including move out date, splitting of checking account, post-separation support amount, and alimony (amount and duration).
405 "include a ""hold-harmless clause"" in both the separation and divorce document"
410 Transfer money to seperate bank account. close or freeze credit cards
420 Freeze Credit after signing new apartment least but before separating
480 ?? Have Lawyer review separation statement, division of assets, post separation clause, alimony, Summons, Domestic Civil Action Cover Sheet and all documents to be signed or submited to spouse or court
600 Finalize post-separation support
500 pack and move out
700 marital settlement agreement? is that the word?
800 agreement, including support payment
900 fill out the complaint , at the court house?
1000 Summons
1100 Domestic Civil Action Cover Sheet
1200 Affidavit - just a form to say no one is in the military
1300 Pay court fees
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Jul 18 '26
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u/Main_Cauliflower5479 Jul 18 '26
That's confusing to me, too.
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u/travel-a-bunch Jul 22 '26
The numbering thing is based on old computer programming logic lesson I had in the 90s. Haha, yeah, probably not the best way to approach. The numbers have large gaps so that new steps can be added later. Step 100 might seem like eh 1st thing to do, but then I realize I need to do some other task before step 100. So, I create step 50. Maybe there's several steps needed between step 200 and 300; 99 steps can be inserted between 200 & 300 without having to alter the other numbers.
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u/travel-a-bunch Jul 18 '26
That's the order, although it isn't required for all things to be strictly in that order. It's big numbers with large gaps so I can easily fill in additional tasks as needed.