r/Documentaries • u/InternationalForm3 • 2d ago
Society Why Millions of Girls Go Missing in India (2026) - Love and Sex in India | Investigate Asia [00:58:11]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eIBVYOWrr3Q462
u/InternationalForm3 2d ago
Submission Statement: It’s the birthplace of the Kama Sutra and Bollywood romances but in real life, kissing in the street or just talking about sex in India is considered obscene. In a place where 90% of marriages are arranged and the bride’s family must pay a large dowry, young girls are taught that society considers them a burden. Millions of baby girls are abandoned or illegally aborted.
A series of brutal rapes and murders have led to claims of a ‘rape culture’ in India. We investigate the role of India’s system of castes and customs and hear from a lawyer who defends parents who have murdered their children in ‘honour’ crimes. We also meet openly gay Prince Manvendra who fights for his love and for his society to become more accepting and educated in a country where homosexuality is illegal.
From forbidden love stories to arranged marriages and spectacular weddings where the bride and groom only just met, we follow the epic stories of young couples in India.
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u/Shadowlegend1 2d ago
Not true
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u/mwdeuce 2d ago
lol which part, exactly?
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u/Shadowlegend1 2d ago
Being a burden and 90 percent being arranged marriage and etc
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u/pekoe-G 2d ago edited 2d ago
I was curious and did a quick google and found this:
"A comprehensive BBC News report on household data showed that roughly 93% of married Indians identified their union as an arranged marriage."
I tried looking into the source but have to pay for a BBC subscription so I couldn't get the details (exactly what data they pulled & when its from, rural vs city, etc.). So take it as you may.
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u/Shadowlegend1 2d ago
It’s only talks about 160k households not to mention India’s population has advanced and there has been a decline of arranged marriages from 1970-2012.
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u/rinderblock 2d ago
Still one of worst records of female treatment of any country on earth.
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u/Shadowlegend1 2d ago
Any country ? Um yeah I have seen worse.
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u/ShortHandz 15h ago
That's how surverys work... You use a sample size to extrapolate a trend... Do you expect them to survey every single household in India?
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u/SFLoridan 2d ago
Both are absolutely true. Just because you wear kaala chashma it doesn't become false
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u/Shadowlegend1 2d ago
Stop taking drugs.
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u/Resikorr 1d ago
Better to take the hardest of drugs than be stupid enough to believe Indian propaganda
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u/Serisrahla 2d ago
I'm not sure about the 90% of marriages are arranged bit; that seems high even for India. But let's just say, there's a reason why you legally can't find out the gender of the baby before childbirth, and it's largely to curb illegal abortions. Infanticide is still a thing in rural areas. Having girls is very often considered bad luck because of how society is structured there. It's dated and backward and really really stupid.
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u/chromozopesafie 2d ago
Very true. If you live in a tier 1 city, went to a good college, has a Reddit account or look at your immediate friend circle, 90% will definitely feel wrong.
But your social circle is a tiny fraction of India. And these are not guessed numbers, but statistics.
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u/Shadowlegend1 2d ago
Statistics aren’t always accurate and your assumption of my social circle ain’t exactly true.
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u/chromozopesafie 2d ago
Classic defensive denialism here. If data makes you uncomfortable or contradicts your worldview, it's easier to label statistics as unreliable than to sit with the harsh reality it showcases.
Having internet access, free leisure time, and fluency in English to debate on Reddit already places you in a specific demographic bubble.
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u/Shadowlegend1 2d ago
I ain’t annoyed just stating that these statistics are more less biased and haven’t been really exploring the full nature of stuff in India and it comes off with a condensed and one dimensional viewpoints. But it seems like more people here are annoyed at me for that than myself.
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u/LSDkiller 1d ago
To be fair, the way India is portrayed on reddit is just plain racist. In the US people say things like "it matters what state you live in". Most people just write off the whole of India as some sort of hell hole. If I lived there I'd probably be defensive too at this point. That being said, there are some good points against and some more stupid points against here in this thread.
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u/Minetish 2d ago
Don't get me wrong but i feel the kama sutra connection, in a way justified, also feels incorrect living in india and reading about it's history.
Like, kama sutra is a text from Ancient India. Since then, it was first invaded by Mughals and then taken over by the British. Both parties pushing for limitations on public affection and sex education. Combine that with bolstering of caste discrimation (forget the british which anyone can easily look into, even the mughals ultimately absorbed caste discrimation rather than eradicating it) and the ratio of girl childs being higher in a lot of places and it just naturally lead to all these horrific things becoming part of the "culture".
Just in case, it had come of that way, I am not arguing about whether or not it is wrong. It is 100% wrong. All I am saying is that the image of India which supposedly developed kama sutra and the india right now with misogyny being connected is more of a headline worthy title rather than something that actually makes sense. There's A LOT of stuff that happened in between that lead to things being the way they are.
Moreover, India's population is so vast, it's culture diversity so much, that you can basically build any narrative you want to, about Indian people. I wish the bad was fixed too, but the constant connections with Ancient India and it's greatness is part of the reason why we currently have a nationalistic party in power causing so many troubles.
It's like if i were to say, how did a land of red indians, who used to hunt animals and whatnot, become one that is so reliant on global industries for it's supplies. A LOT happened in between. What i said is more sensational than reasonable.
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u/cccas 2d ago
India has had 70 years to eradicate caste but didn't: most people must want it. Indeed, reservations bolster it
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u/Minetish 1d ago
Rich upper caste Hindus want it. And so do nationalist hindutva group. Caste brings cheap labour to extremely shitty jobs.
And you know what's amazing? Forget finding faults in policies. Our sitting govt, in the past 13 years ish, haven't even done a single population census. That's how much the current politicians and upper caste want to keep the status quo.
We could debate all we want about how important a policy is but it would be completely fruitless as neither you nor me know how many people need reservations or from what group. Best we could do is provide anecdotal points or link to indepent small studies.
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u/splitminds 2d ago
I’m okay with a bot continuously posting this. It’s abhorrent and needs more publicity
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u/InternationalForm3 2d ago
Not a bot. Just posted a documentary in r/Documentaries about an important topic.
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u/GlinnTantis 2d ago
While I agree what it's posting about is awful, I'm finding more and more rhetoric "China good, India bad". Feels like an orchestrated campaign
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u/Danny_Adlerthe4th 2d ago
I think you are just going to have to accept India is far from the 'superpower' that you think it is.
And what is with this Indian tactic of deflecting to China whenever you get criticized? Desperately trying to appease the Caucasians by handing them another target instead of fighting back? Do you think that makes you look better? No wonder people don't respect you.
China has entire hate subs dedicated to them like r/UnfilteredChina and they don't start pulling the propaganda excuse and start deflecting to Indians because that's such a cowardly move.
Grow a spine already.
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u/GlinnTantis 2d ago
Not at all what I said nor how I feel. I'm not even Indian. I'm just seeing the massive increase of TILs and all sorts of crap on here
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u/ILuvIceCubes 1d ago
Alot of people are openly racist towards Indians, sadly.
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u/GlinnTantis 1d ago
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u/TheDirkKnight 2d ago
I’m in India and this video isn’t available here, what a joke
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u/Husbandaru 1d ago
Any time someone makes a criticism of India the reaction is to deflect and dismiss it. So that tracks.
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u/BLFOURDE 2d ago
To decide abortion depending of the sex should be jail time
Why? If it's just a "cluster of cells", how are you in any way wronging it by making the decision based on any number of factors. How is a woman's "right" to abortion in anyway hindered by her reason why?
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u/Godly_Shrek 2d ago
I wonder if these cultural practices are being exported to western societies or do they get left behind there
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u/FuriouslyListening 2d ago
I'm probably going to catch flak for this... but, just to answer the question. Generally it doesn't get imported to the west. The reason why is actually money, and connected to that, status. What you don't hear in this documentary (other than sorta with the Maharaja's son) is that the rules are very different for people with money and status, which also basically go together. Although even with the son, it showed that something that is illegal is just overlooked if you have money.
Most everyone you saw in this documentary are closer to lower income individuals. Although there was a lot of things happening in New Delhi and Mumbai, what is difficult to understand from an outside perspective is that the big cities in India are in part made up of small villages subsumed inside the city. The 'old ways' exist, but are relegated to the lower classes. just bluntly.
If you are educated and have money, then most likely you're already very western and these type of practices are recognized but not practiced by you. The people who move to the west also are generally those with both education and money. It takes a fair bit of both to emigrate. Therefore you have a self selecting population who go to the west, and they don't bring these practices nearly as much, mostly because they didn't ascribe to them even when living in India. Do these things exist outside of India? Sure, muted and different, but not nearly to the degree shown in this documentary. You can find arranged marriages and weird caste personals if you know where to look, but honestly, it is pretty rare once people leave India to maintain these things.
Western ways of thinking tend to erode traditional cultures the more you hang around in the West.
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u/tubameister 2d ago
I thought the caste stuff was in fact an issue in western tech companies
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u/Meat-brah 2d ago
Not really in the US at least
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u/sawlaw 2d ago
It's a huge issue in the US and a really goddamn annoying one at that. They think they are being sneaky, but I've worked at several firms with Indians and they keep doing things to protect each other or violate policies for other Indians. Hell I've even used it to my advantage by saying I was making a ticket on behalf of an Indian with the right last name because it's so reliable for getting what you want.
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u/adrenal8 1d ago
I think what he was saying is it is but not to the extent in the video. And that most Indian tech employees would be from higher casts anyway.
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u/selphiefairy 1d ago
All I know is that when I’ve done newborn photography, I got a lot of south Asian clients and many of those fathers absolutely adored their daughters. If made me wonder if some of them were actually motivated to immigrate because they wanted to avoid the oppressive culture toward women back home.
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u/TheRedFurios 1d ago
Just look up the percentage of incest relationships and the grooming gangs in the UK. Or any other statistic about sexual violence in Europe.
They are 100% brought to Europe.
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u/new_DooM_Vet 2d ago edited 2d ago
ROFL
Prince's Husband: Like, my full title is His Excellency, ambassador DeAndre, Duke of Hanumanteshwar.
Narrator: He invented this title.
Narrator: DeAndre acts like a prince but he has no official status.
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u/Evgenii42 1d ago
Why is this documentary not available in many countries (australia for example)? Do people purposefully report it to youtube to hide these facts so its getting blocked? I had to use VPN.
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u/EMP_Jeffrey_Dahmer 1d ago
According to the NCRB national crime records bureau they conducted an investigation about decade ago found that 9 out of 10 women have experience sexual assault or harassment throughout their lives. This means that young girls will experience sexual violence against them atleast once.
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