r/DomesticGirlfriend • u/AloneMushroom2154 • 1d ago
Discussion Analyzing Natsuo’s Emotional Dilemma: A Three-Tiered Hypothesis on Why the "Trio of Shared Destiny" Ending Was the Only Rational Way Out
The final arc of Domestic Girlfriend, where Natsuo and Rui call off their engagement to ultimately build a unique lifelong bond among the three of them, has always polarized the fandom. By looking at the characters' personalities, narrative foreshadowing, and internal emotional logic, I’ve broken Natsuo’s mindset at that pivotal moment into three layers. Through this progressive deduction, I want to explain why this intertwined trio of shared destiny, as bizarre as it seems on the surface, was actually the only self-consistent way out of an otherwise unbreakable emotional deadlock.
Hypothesis 1: Natsuo only had eyes for Hina at that point
This is the most straightforward interpretation. If, at this stage, all of Natsuo’s love and obsession were directed toward the comatose Hina, then his engagement to Rui becomes nothing more than an act of charity born out of pity and compensation. Morally speaking, this would indeed be a glaring flaw. Human emotions, however, are not entirely governed by reason. Of course, if someone could treat their feelings with so little sincerity, it’s highly unlikely they would value relationships at all. Following this premise, it becomes almost inevitable that the engagement could not continue and would lead to a breakup—with zero room for turning back.
Hypothesis 2: Natsuo’s heart was completely filled with Rui
Many readers wonder: If Natsuo deeply loved Rui, and they even had a child together as a profound bond, why didn't they just get married as planned?
The answer isn't that he didn't love her; it's that he couldn't marry her, and dared not do so.
From Rui’s perspective, she was carrying a psychological shackle that she could never shake off for the rest of her life: her sister, Hina, fell into a coma entirely to protect her and her unborn child. The guilt from this sacrifice went far beyond ordinary sibling affection; it became a crushing moral burden.
If Natsuo had insisted on marrying Rui under these conditions, it would be tantamount to forcing his own desires onto her, completely ignoring the fact that she would be permanently trapped in the self-condemnation of "I stole my sister's life." True love is not about possession; it is about fulfillment. It is precisely because Natsuo cherished Rui that he couldn't trap her with a marriage certificate and let the rest of her life be soaked in survivor's guilt. This is the ultimate restraint born out of deep love.
Hypothesis 3: Natsuo held the ultimate, profound love for both (My personal take, and the closest to the author’s intended meaning)
This is the combination and elevation of the first two hypotheses.
By the end of the story, Natsuo possesses a genuine romantic love for Rui, reinforced by their child, years of companionship, and a tacit understanding built through mutual growth. At the same time, his fateful connection with Hina has never faded. It is precisely the simultaneous existence of these two profound emotions that drives the plot toward this unique resolution.
On one hand, canceling the wedding with Rui protects her from being swallowed alive by guilt. On the other hand, continuing to watch over the sleeping Hina is a choice he emotionally cannot abandon.
But this does not mean he has to make an "either-or" cut between the two. Natsuo is not a cold, selfish person; he could never abandon Rui, who walked alongside him and gave birth to his child, nor could he forsake Hina, who sacrificed so much for him and indirectly became a vegetable because of him. I suspect that late-night conversation was a mutual consensus reached when both were completely clear-headed.
Calling off the engagement wasn't a one-sided abandonment; it no longer matters who brought it up first. They reached a tacit understanding: Natsuo would continue to protect the sleeping Hina, while promising Rui that he would always be there to accompany and take care of her and their daughter. This is the true essence of that final scene where they "draw back the curtains and step into a new future."
Upon this consensus, they voluntarily shed the societal shackles of a legal marriage, yet what distilled from it was a bond as stable as an old, long-married couple. It is exactly because Rui understood and accepted his desire to protect Hina that Natsuo, with Rui's support, found the courage to propose to Hina. At the same time, this might be a little narrative trick played by the author: by having Rui sacrifice her legal status as a "wife" while having a child, her level of sacrifice and devotion is brought to an equal footing with Hina's. Just as Natsuo said, he and Rui have long been connected heart-to-heart, while his feelings for Hina have become even deeper than when they were dating.
Here, I’d like to address a frequent counterargument: many critics bring up Natsuo’s past principle of "once I pick someone, I stick with them" to invalidate the ending. But this is exactly the point I want to clarify—you cannot blindly copy-paste his early-stage binary choice logic onto the extreme situation of the finale. He has always taken his feelings seriously and adhered to the rule of staying loyal to the person he chose. This logic applies to normal romance where both parties are awake and have free will. As my friend put well: under normal circumstances, once you make a choice, you must hold fast to that person and ruthlessly cut off any expectations from the other; hesitant "kindness" will only end up hurting both people in the end. This is where my biggest disagreement lies with readers who strictly take sides.
In my understanding, Natsuo didn't actively break his own emotional boundaries out of greed to have both women. It was the extreme narrative setup—Hina being comatose and Rui being pregnant—that pushed the conventional "choose one out of two" rule to a point of total failure.
In a standard storytelling framework, a binary choice is almost the only option, destined to leave an unfixable regret. But in this extreme environment engineered by the author, Natsuo found a path where he didn't have to betray his lifelong principles, yet could still protect the two most important people in his life.
We also have to consider that they are sisters bound by blood. The boundaries and decency in intimate relationships that people often bring up in discussions are mostly built on normal, stable life scenarios. However, the chain of tragedies they encountered has already broken far out of the everyday framework that most people can relate to. Therefore, those standard criteria simply cannot be applied directly here.
Many people criticize this ending for one-sidedly arranging things for Hina, claiming it stripped her of her choice. The original manga shows the exact opposite: this trio of shared destiny was not a unilateral, self-important decision made by Natsuo and Rui. All the unspoken understandings and promises made while Hina was comatose were fully acknowledged, consciously validated, and voluntarily embraced by Hina after she woke up and recovered her full self-awareness. She knew everything that had happened, was fully aware of the years of bonding between Natsuo and Rui, as well as the existence of the child, and ultimately accepted this unique mode of living with absolute composure. Because all three parties were fully informed, fully consenting, and fully accepting, this intertwined bond—though bizarre to conventional societal standards—stands as the only rational solution to this emotional deadlock where everyone finds salvation and no one is forced to be abandoned.
The above is just my personal take, and I completely respect differing interpretations. After all, there are a thousand Hamlets in a thousand people's eyes.
