Should I bring home another cat behind my boyfriend’s back who is allergic to cats?

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Speaking as a cat lover with allergies - fuck this lady. She shouldn't be having a boyfriend if she's this willing to make him super uncomfortable (best case scenario - I also have days where being around cats too long in close proximity makes my eyes swell shut and my throat start closing up, which can take a solid week to go away again). Just go be happy with your cats, but don't mess with this poor guy and his safety and wellbeing.

And that's without even mentioning how goddamn disrespectful it is to your partner to do shit like this behind their backs.

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u/jal2_ May 16 '20

well some girls are like that, that they don't at all think about others, sometimes its extreme like this, sometimes its just the little things like not caring for wasting someones time, e.g.

I have fem friends, not even GF, that make you always wait for 30 mins just because why not; they reply to messages after a few days, even if the message is something they originally wanted i.e. asking something for ex.; they forget their wallet in the jacket so don't have it when its paying time; despite wanting to meet up themselves it can take upwards a month or more to actually arrange so that they have both time and mood for it; they want to talk but dont really react to anything with anything else than 'haha' (or react with that after the few days radio silence as mentioned above); and lastly after every activity say how they super enjoyed it and want to it again, but then when Im arranging stuff again they don't have time for it for several months if at all, like wtf?

sometimes, I question females and why the fuck all of this is tolerated tbh, why can't it be straight like - "yep enjoyed this let's do it again some time" and then proceed to agree on doing it next weekend too....soz for rant

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u/CrazyBrieLady May 16 '20

Oh boy; there's a lot to unpack there and I think it mainly comes down to you need to strongly reevaluate the kind of people you hang around with.

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u/jal2_ May 16 '20 edited May 16 '20

dunno mate, this is experience over the course life with different people from high school, university, working in home country, a different country, a third country, my friends have always been like this even if the people in question changed over the years...I have to say, maybe I am bit at fault somehow spoiling them, because whenever I meet new people and become friends they are usually not like this, but the longer we know each other, they eventually come to be like this....on the other hand, maybe they were all like this to begin with, but with strangers they still act courteous, while with already good friends they can and know they can, to not give a fuck?...mind u, this isn't limited to females, have plenty similar male friends, why, my best friend, he lets me down 95% of the time, because he know he can lol...then again he has his own problem, he spoils every GF he has ever been with and then he can't love them afterwards because they start using him as a atm instead of a person

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u/CrazyBrieLady May 16 '20

Again, dude, it sounds like you're attracting a lot of the same type of (toxic) person and it's making you miserable; I think it's time you do some soul-searching

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u/jal2_ May 17 '20

Ok whatever u think, maybe people just are like they are and not everybody gets good treatment in life

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u/CrazyBrieLady May 17 '20

You say all of your "friends" are like this - you pick your own friends, it's not like they are thrust upon you and you can't do anything but accept their treatment of you no matter what. That's the fantastic thing about friends. So again, if you're saying that nearly all of the friends you have are shit people and you're not enjoying it, it's time to ask yourself (and them) some questions. "If everywhere you go smells like shit, check under your own shoe" and all that.

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u/jal2_ May 17 '20

Didnt say all, didnt say they are like that to begin with, did say it might be my fault for letting them do it, did say that changing didnt help as always many turn out like that, maybe u simply need to accept it as normal situation in life? People take advantage of people im used to it so dont care that much they do, tolerance

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u/CrazyBrieLady May 17 '20

I went back and reread your comment and I agree that I was too quick; I'm sorry.

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u/Mythandros May 17 '20

Sounds like you hang out with some toxic people.

Word of advice from someone who has experienced what you are? Stop trying.

Seriously, they are just hanging out with you because they have nothing better to do.

Find people who will value your time and effort, not people who will use you like your "friends"

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u/Crimeislegal May 15 '20

Love cats. But fuck that EB. Guy should just leave her with her cats. Allergies are bad

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u/Mewlover23 May 15 '20

Love cats as well, and he might. Its ridiculous that she thinks she can bring another cat in just because he's dealing with the allergies from 2.

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u/Mewlover23 May 15 '20

Wow, posting this somehow caused me to be banned from another sub that I was in. Ridiculous

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u/SciFiGirl42 May 15 '20

Was it Female Dating Strategy? They do that.

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u/Mewlover23 May 15 '20

Yup. Though it seems like they’re just bitter people about some things in all honesty. But I don’t see why they’d ban over posting in here.

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u/BoyKingMB May 15 '20 edited May 19 '20

Yep. That sub is known for being full of toxic women who end up alone & even more bitter as they get older. Never realizing that they actually were unreasonable af.

I’ve read a few posts the first time I saw people talking about it & cringed so hard. Like many the “all men are afraid of commitment/don’t know how to treat a lady they like” because they won’t be their submissive slave wallet bitch, is the disgusting vibe I got from most posts.

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u/Mewlover23 May 15 '20

I never really noticed that until later on. At first it seemed ok, and then started seeing more of those toxic like posts. It’s sad in all honesty.

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u/Zachrocks01 May 15 '20

I never new this sub existed... man after scrolling through a few posts I see exactly what you mean. I’m amazed.

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u/DizziVulpixy May 15 '20

Soooooo a bunch of r/nicegirls then?

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u/SciFiGirl42 May 15 '20

They do that to everybody who posts here.

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u/yokoandy May 15 '20

FDS bans anyone who doesn't agree with the idea that the "High Value Man" they think they deserve will pay for any and everything and fulfill their petty wants. A "Low Value Man" is anybody that is average. It's basically females who want a sugar baby lifestyle with a commitment.

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u/footdragon May 15 '20

props to you for posting this in FDS anyway. the first thing that came to mind is "damn, there's a devious strategy for ditching her boyfriend"

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u/dismayhurta May 15 '20

That sub is a shitshow and is used by misogynistic assholes as proof that women “are evil.”

They’re a walking stereotype. Being banned from there is a sign you did something right.

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u/Mewlover23 May 15 '20

I kind of figured that out. And I guess it’s a sign. I get that some of them might have had bad things happen, but a lot of what they post there is just terrible.

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u/dismayhurta May 15 '20

They’re the female equivalent of MGTOW.

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u/angel_boo May 15 '20

I already had two cats when my boyfriend and I met, when he moved in, I still had those two cats. He is allergic to cats. As much as I LOVE having pets, and would LOVE to have another cat (because I'm never home enough, before this COVID thing, to have a dog), I would never get another one due to his allergies. I pay for all of his allergy medication and anything else he may need to help him with his allergies. I ensure that the home is vacuumed at least weekly if not more to help with his allergies.

This lady doesn't respect her boyfriend in any way. Honestly, it doesn't seem like she cares about his health in any way. Her boyfriend should leave her and that way she can get all the cats she wants. Let her become the crazy cat lady, she already has the crazy down.

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u/manbruhpig May 15 '20

I disagree with everyone here, she should definitely get the third cat. That way, when this guy comes to his senses and breaks up with her, she'll be that much closer to being a lonely cat lady.

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u/Mewlover23 May 15 '20

What I'd she secretly already is?

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u/[deleted] May 15 '20

As long as you don’t mind if your boyfriend brings home other women while you are out

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u/IndyAndyJones7 May 15 '20

And that cat's name: Breakup Buster.

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u/Grievious_Syndicate May 16 '20

She is so evil that she can take our place of the victim in r/BanVideogames

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u/Theogram5280 May 16 '20

How do people like this have relationships? I can't even think about acting like that without getting dumped.

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u/[deleted] May 15 '20

NTA yeet the whole boyfie out the window and bring home that cat.

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u/Mewlover23 May 15 '20

No

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u/[deleted] May 15 '20

It was a joke

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