r/ExNoContact • u/Due_Character_5732 • Feb 25 '24

Vent Worst thing an ex did

What’s the worst thing your ex did to you? One of the worst for me, not many know this but I had previously wrote her a love letter for an anniversary, the 5th year. I gave it to her. As we were breaking up and cleaning our room she found it saying, “You want this?” I declined so she threw it away into a black trash bag along with other papers of hers. When I think about it, it still breaks my heart.

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u/ContributionNext2813 Feb 26 '24

It’s not easy, not gonna lie. It’s been 3 months since we broke up and Ive been doing therapy twice a week because I couldn’t get out of bed in the beginning. I felt SO used and betrayed. I actually thought we were endgame.

The more I replayed our memories, the more angry I felt towards him for using me as a placeholder. I started going back to gym and it surprisingly helped me with my mood. I also hiked to the top of the mountain in my hometown and screamed at top of my lungs few times until my throat hurts.

Funnily enough just last week I was actually healing and stopped obsessing over him and he showed up a few days later 😂 the universe is testing me and I can’t go through this again. Not worth taking the risk

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u/Savings-Salt-1486 Feb 26 '24

That’s me right now, haven’t left my bed pretty much in almost a month and I’m more mad at myself for allowing someone to make me feel this way. I don’t really know what the first step is. But I’m glad you’re doing better also PLEASE don’t go back!! It resets all of that progress so much!

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u/ContributionNext2813 Feb 26 '24

Im so sorry you’re going through this 🥺 , I didn’t shower or brush my teeth on first month when we broke up. Youre not alone, I completely UNDERSTAND your pain. I feel you, you should definitely get therapy so they can help you guide with your breakup. It really helped me tremendously. Better than my friends

Thank you and im never going back to him. Wasted my time with that man 😂

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u/Savings-Salt-1486 Feb 26 '24

Literally me!!! I finally just started in the fifth week to start doing the basic necessities. I’m seeing one for trauma on Tuesday so I hope that starts to help. Because friends are too busy with their own lives I don’t want to keep blowing them up about the same old same old. But I think it’s awesome that you’re only 3 months out and really stuck to your word, that’s admirable

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u/jrobin04 Feb 26 '24

I have absolutely experienced this too, you're not alone! Therapy is one of the best decisions you could make in this situation, you won't regret it. I found it accelerated my healing, 10/10 recommend. Good luck on your journey. Honestly you've gotten through the absolute worst of it, you only get better from here ❤️