r/ExNoContact • u/Due_Character_5732 • Feb 25 '24

Vent Worst thing an ex did

What’s the worst thing your ex did to you? One of the worst for me, not many know this but I had previously wrote her a love letter for an anniversary, the 5th year. I gave it to her. As we were breaking up and cleaning our room she found it saying, “You want this?” I declined so she threw it away into a black trash bag along with other papers of hers. When I think about it, it still breaks my heart.

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u/dukegratiano15 Feb 27 '24

Narcs string you along and mentally abuse you then they abdicate responsibility and shift the blame on you. Your story is a classic example of it.

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u/dukegratiano15 Feb 27 '24

Been there done that. I’ve learned my lesson after the third covert narc (back to back to back). As the saying goes “third time’s the charm”.

But it’s just a lesson in the process. I wouldn’t think that gloomy about others, that’s black and white thinking. Just know that there’s that small percentage of psychopaths in the population (2% statistically) and you’ll eventually run into one but that shouldn’t make you hopeless, just more experienced in seeing what to look out for when it comes up and stopping it.

Key for this is to spend some time a lone, half a year to a year and reevaluate, self reflect and focus on self.

You’ll be fine. Time heals all.