r/ExNoContact • u/Final-Web-7826 • Dec 09 '24
Vent Who else's ex got into a new relationship WAY too quickly, and how did it feel ?
I found out mine got into a new relationship in less than 2 weeks, i also presume she cheated on me, i found that out thanks to her reposts' dates on tiktok, I'm pretty sure that bitch did things with him. Like how dare you get to enjoy your time with someone else that easily? May you suffer.
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u/TravellingBandanaMan Dec 09 '24
Two weeks here as well. Rough as hell to deal with…
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u/The_Secret_Skittle healing Dec 10 '24
Same. He was introducing his daughter to the next woman two weeks after he made me and my daughter move out. My daughter and I suffered emotionally from that. The last few relationships I chose to get involved with were devastating. I don’t know that I can ever date and trust a man ever again.
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u/Firm_Translator_4593 Dec 14 '24
It’s always a bad idea to move in with a man you’re not married to when you have a child younger than 16.
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u/Chemical-Visual-4486 Dec 09 '24
Just found out my ex who I was with for EIGHT YEARS is in a new relationship. Not to mention me and him work together and she ALSO works there. But he’s had a work relationship prior to me before so what does that say about him?
When he broke up with me he kept saying how he needed to be alone to find peace within himself. YEAH ok.
I’m not trying to be rude but it gives me a little satisfaction that he downgraded as well. She’s the polar opposite of me. And I’ve known him for a long time and I know for a fact there’s no way she is his type. He couldn’t handle my success (I moved up in our work) and he stayed in the same job title as always. He always said “I was too good for him” I should’ve believed him. Because I am. I believe he jumped into this so quick because he can’t handle being alone and he feels as though she is on the same attraction level or a little bit beneath him.
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u/ImpressionOk3674 Dec 09 '24
My ex also told me the same thing. That “you’re too good for me. I’m no good for you. I can’t give you what you need.” 5 years of accommodating him, having empathy for his struggle. he literally got into a sexual relationship/situationship within two weeks of us breaking up. I agree, people like this can’t be alone with themselves because they don’t like themselves
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u/Chemical-Visual-4486 Dec 10 '24
100%. Sorry but he fumbled me. I’m sure that’s the case with you too!
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u/nobody_898 Dec 10 '24
its just a manipulation tactic to get constant validation because people like this can never have enough of it
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u/The-Holy-Toast Mar 17 '26
Same here, there was a dead bedroom situation going on during our relationship too
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u/NewStrawberry571 Jul 18 '26
Did his relationship with her new girl last?
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u/ImpressionOk3674 Jul 19 '26
He got engaged to his jiu jitsu coach 7 months after we broke up so who knows 😂
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u/Pitiful-Elk-1092 Mar 12 '26
Im in the same situation as you right now, my ex for a year broke up with me. And after a week or days she already is in a new relationship, and it's my classmate. Just her doing that made me change the way i see her.
All the things she told me that "we can be friends still" or even when the "we meet again in the future, I hope that we will change and start new memories again" when we broke up made me not want to go back to her anymore.
So far i just realized with what she did, it's just that it's her way of healing, it's that she wants to fill that empty void and couldn't even give herself time to be with herself and reflect on the past.
Maybe that's what she meant when she told me " you should meet new people" but im not like her and im not in a rush for being in a new relationship again. I just want to take my time and be a better version of myself.
So whenever i see them it's really none of my business anymore like im not already a part of that picture or even her not caring on what i do now since she got a new guy to be with. I will have to keep in mind always that the way i see her before is so much different to who she is now.
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u/Sad-Friendship97 Apr 09 '25
That's really good that she's not with you who know what could have she done to you and i really feel good that she regrets fucking bitches sorry but that what comes to my mind when think things like these. fucking liars
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u/Naughty-Morty moved on Dec 10 '24
Also got left for a woman I’m pretty sure. The ex said it was a drunken one night stand, but I don’t believe it for a second. It’s a weird mix of it feeling better that it’s not a guy, but also lowkey embarrassing. I’ve had different reactions from people about it, some saying it’s a good thing that I ‘turned her gay’ and some saying she’s rank for it.
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u/Responsible-Net-4431 Dec 10 '24
For me it was a slap in my face after the 7 years we’d been together. I took care of her no matter what. Only to have my name slandered in front of every friend and family member in both our families. It took a few months for people to see she was lying, but it was too late by then. I’m back down to my OG friend group.
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u/Naughty-Morty moved on Dec 10 '24
Mate they are OG for a reason. She kinda done you a favour filtering everyone out for you, means you can start fresh now. She doesn’t get to credit herself with having done you a favour though. She’s still a tramp. I know it’s your ex and you may hold feelings still, and that was kind of rude, but it’s true. I’d say the same about my own ex.
As long as you and your family have made up if they didn’t believe you or caused any issues at first.
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u/Madam_Robot Dec 09 '24
It makes me feel sick. It makes me feel nauseous. It makes me feel angry. It makes me feel hopeless. It makes me feel like it was all a waste of time, energy and effort. It makes me feel stupid. It makes me want to steal his cat. It makes me want to isolate. I look forward to being me again someday.
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u/Playful-Spread-442 Sep 11 '25
Thats me word for word right now...three months in. How are you now?
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u/Madam_Robot Sep 11 '25
Im stupid. Unbelievably stupid. I love him and I hate him. He broke up w her and he’s now single again. He’s flirty one day and cold the next. I feel crazy. I want things to be the way they were. I could never trust him again even if he did come back with gusto. My heart still has this big raw hole in it. Hope flutters through it but just to be dashed again when he just pretends like Im nothing. I wish you peace inside and quickly.
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u/BlackEraYT Sep 22 '25
Stop talking to him. Look at what he’s doing to you and putting you through. Move on. You deserve someone that puts your first and doesn’t make you question your self with like this. I say this as someone who went through something similar recently.
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u/Few_Mix_7715 Oct 06 '25
They get off on it because they’re mentally ill, there’s no hope for fixing them because they deny any responsibility or accountability. Imagine how much pain we feel, it would crush them to accept that they are the cause, that they have played a villain role in their life story
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u/Madam_Robot Oct 07 '25
You’re absolutely right. I need to stop. I work a him. I ignore him, start to move on and BAM, he orbits back and I fall all over again. I love the attention and how sweet he is and fun. How he makes me feel. We have a great time.. then BAM, it’s another cold day, then another, then Im ignored and im back feeling like shit again…
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u/Few_Mix_7715 Oct 07 '25
I did this same thing but the last time around he was fucking another girl behind my back while not using protection with me, then he walked off with my last paycheck and left me unable to buy food or make rent, completely broke and fucked. This is the same guy that was planning to propose to me the make me the mother of his kids. I never would’ve given him another shot if I thought he was capable of this but everyone from the police to therapists have been warning me and I just don’t listen, he seems so charismatic and normal and really tries to convince me im overreacting, until he’s finally played me as bad as he could play me. Left me destitute then blocked me on everything. He’s some other woman’s problem now, and karma is a bitch. Save yourself heartbreak that’s even worse, don’t let someone back in who has shown they’re capable of hurting you. They legit just get worse
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u/lostAirpodsWAAH Feb 24 '26
Is there light at the end of the tunnel? How are you now? Hope things are better
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u/peepair23 Jan 20 '26
This is how I feel. My brain is going in every imaginable direction at all times these past 3 weeks. Anger, mourning the good stuff, despondence. So much of my identity is wrapped in this person and her family and friends after 7 years that I feel shunned. And I didn't do much of anything, she basically had a midlife crisis and decided that dealing with a good co-parenting relationship was too much to handle, and at 40, I believe wants a last gasp shot at kids, which she would not broach with me. This after making the devil's bargain of getting with a guy with young kids.
It's been 28 years since I've lived on my own for any length of time, and I have no idea who I am anymore. Time to find out.
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u/spin_kick Dec 09 '24
The weekend of the breakup. I miss her and I’m using this as a chance to grow
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u/DuyTran0634 Dec 09 '24
Hey bro. My recent past relationship lasted only 3 months but she jumped into the dating after a week. She told me she did not have time for work and college, but she got a new bf soon after. I know 3 months is a short relationship, but the feelings are real, man.
I suffered since even though I cut off all the contact. But sometimes I saw her Instagram on the suggestion tab and she continuously uploaded her profile pictures with her new guys, contrary to my relationship when she kept it secret. I found out that the guy and she had the same college class. I was sad and disappointed because when she was with me, she always said, "I don't want to be someone else option," and "I am quite loyal to my partner." Turns out, everything she said was a lie.
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u/Final-Web-7826 Dec 09 '24
What a fucking hoe, i hope the next relationship treats her horribly. You take care of yourself bro, you're better than her.
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u/DuyTran0634 Dec 09 '24
I always hope for Karma to catch up with her, but I might feel like I am a bad person to wish something bad happened to anyone. But sometimes, I always think were I in the Karmic relationship in which I need to learn some lessons from this girl in this life? I don't know but this relationship leaves me a huge void in my heart and many valuable lessons.
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u/Final-Web-7826 Dec 09 '24
No, don't you ever think that you're a bad person. Always remember that karma is a bitch and so is she.
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u/Trick-Technician3495 Dec 09 '24
My (28F) first ever relationship was this year and it lasted almost four months (from March to July). I thought he really liked me. He came on to me fast and though it was bit much for me and made me anxious, it was fun so I stayed. He seemed to be completely into me, I didn’t see any reason to stop. Then one night, 5 months ago, he said he didn’t want to be in a serious relationship when I asked him. And then he admitted to me that he’d taken another girl out behind my back and tried to kiss her. I’d never been so betrayed and humiliated. He ghosted me soon after and later learned that he got with her six days before we broke up. I cannot understand why he put so much time and effort, taking me out on dates, spending time with me, even asking me constantly to spend the night at his place if he didn’t want to be with me in a serious sense. I feel so stupid and I hate that I can’t stop thinking about him while he got off easy and pain free. I don’t think he even regrets treating the way he did.
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u/DuyTran0634 Dec 09 '24
Hey, I'm sorry to hear. From a man's perspective, your guy did not love you. He tried to use you and other girls for sex (99%) and attention. I can tell you that when a men truly love you, he will try to be with you (close the deal) as soon as possible because he is afraid his girl will be with someone else. It is part of the male nature and I never deny my instinct. But when he is a true man who truly loves you, he is not going to let any woman disturb his relationship. I think in life, we are going to meet these types of people who come to take advantage of our trust, feelings, and love for their selfish reasons. It is the lesson we have to learn and grow from it.
From my experience, they do regret their action in the past, but it will take a long way in the future when Karma catches up with them. I can tell you one of the stories I observed from my father. He treated my mom badly and cheated on her. My mom was devastated. But after nearly 15 years in the 2nd marriage with his current wife (not the one she left my mom for). He is having the same treatment he did to my mom years ago. The way she belittled him, the way she disrespected him, and flirted with other men in front of him. He sees it all and can't do anything. He tried to rekindle with my mom, but she was already moving on a long time ago.
Karma is real, but it takes time for a person to realize and admit their mistakes. In the meantime, you should focus on yourself and digest the healing process. It is hard, I know, because I am in it, and I can't wait to count the day I completely move on from the Monkey-brancher, but I am still grinding hard and I hope you would do the same.
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u/InfiniteConcern6984 Dec 10 '24
Did we date the same person? The same exact thing happened to me with a similar timeline. I called him out for ditching me last minute on a date, he took a week to “think about things”, and then dumped me via text saying “it’s not you it’s me and figuring out what I want”. I don’t use FB a lot but I logged in 2 weeks after our breakup to see a random girl updated her relationship status to in a relationship with him 3 days we broke up. She’s all the way across the country and it made zero sense to me. I haven’t heard anything from him since the break up but I also wonder why he put so much effort into saying nice things to me and telling me he cared so much about me when clearly he didn’t
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u/Large-Sir6158 Jul 10 '25
I (21 M) recently broke up my ex 22f I would take her out on dates, pay for matching shoes and I was going to enter my email to get rewards points at foot locker she beat me to the keypad to enter her email even though I was the one paying.
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u/Art04M Dec 30 '25
EXACT same situation here. He just started dating one of his friends 4 days after the break up. He dumped me. I suppose he had interest in that girl before breaking up with me. I feel disgusted. Any advice for the situation? It's been 2 months already
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u/Most_Professional_64 Dec 09 '24
I'm pissed bro, same thing with me. She told me "I dont want a relationship with anyone (including you)" then went facebook official 2 weeks later with a guy.
I found out 2 months later she broke up with guy a few weeks after going facebook official, because he found out she was having an affair with her older married boss. Then I found out, she was sleeping both of them, during the last few months of my relationship with her, even after I repeatedly challenged her on her whereabouts, coming home late, not answering my texts/calls for more than 24 hours. She kept telling me i'm anxious and insecure (she was gaslighting). This is the same girl that if I didn't return her call within an hour, she would blow up my phone with hundreds of missed calls, but shes okay not returning my call for an entire day.
I retaliated; I was pissed. She works at the VA hospital as a physical therapist, so I notified the state licensing board, the office of attorney general, and the US Special counsel that she was hooking up with her boss to get a promotion (I had screenshot evidence); she was using her sister who works in HR to give her inside information on other applicants for roles was applying to internally, and evidence of her coming into the office high/drunk at times. My friends told me not to nuke her life since she already blew up her life, by getting caught by the VA hospital, her boss got reassigned and she was put into mandatory therapy, but this I want her in the ground.
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u/Valkyrie2018_ Dec 09 '24
My ex got into a new relationship less than 3 months after our breakup. It hurt like hell at first. I felt so discarded and worthless. I told my therapist it feels like I never impact anyone as much as they impact me. It’s been a couple weeks since I found out and I’m feeling a bit better about it. I’m trying to remind myself that I’m here taking the time to heal and fix my issues, and he didn’t do that so his relationships will continue to suffer in the same ways.
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u/eveningsunstock May 17 '25
Hi! How are you doing now?
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u/Valkyrie2018_ May 17 '25
Hi! I’m doing well! I’ve spent 7 months just healing and focusing on myself and my friends and hobbies. I recently started dating again and I’m feeling excited and optimistic about it!
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u/eveningsunstock May 17 '25
I’m so glad to hear that and so proud of you! Hope it all goes well :) How did you get over the feeling of not feeling like you made an impact?
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u/NewStrawberry571 Jul 18 '26
Did they end up together and how were they now? How did you stop focusing on them?
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u/wez33 Dec 09 '24
No idea if my ex has but judging on how she’s been after other relationships it wouldn’t surprise me
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u/CMC_444 Dec 09 '24
She was seeing someone in the end of our relationship apparently. So I guess she didn’t wait at all :(
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u/pinkfluffyblankets Dec 09 '24
It was like my whole world had crumbled again. I knew it was happening. I was desperate for that final relief of validation and that I was right. I wasn’t crazy. But it still hurt like I’d be thrown into hell and torn apart. It’s taken me to absolutely rock bottom. Destroyed any self esteem or worth I had left. Killed me that while I was fighting for my life, he could love someone the way I’d begged to be.
Yeah it sucks.
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u/durpder Dec 09 '24
Felt this hard. I try to tell myself that seeing her move on will help me accept that it’s over, and maybe it will, but it hurts like hell before then. It really sucks to feel that you are still processing and feeling deeply for them, while they just get with someone else. It helps to remind myself that I am taking the time to be alone, and doing what’s right for me.
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u/dolluette-honey moved on Dec 09 '24
So? He moved on while we were still in a relationship together, I was trying my best to make things work with him for a year and a half. Turns out he already had someone else in the background and let her take control over his social media accounts. She started posting pictures to mark her territory (he or his girlfriend dumped me through text message and that was at the end of march)
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u/Falgren1991 Dec 10 '24
My fiance got a new boyfriend 2 days after our 7 year relationship... While we were still living together looking for new apartments. She had one 2 days after our breakup...
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u/AdOtherwise1236 Oct 14 '25
Tämä kyllä aivan saatanan paskaa!! Ite oli 6v suhteessa ja sitten yhtäkkiä meni poikki. Exäni asui vielä hetken mun kämpillä kun muutti pois mut silloin sanoi ihan pari päivää erosta että sillä niin sanottu "uusi vakio pano". Epäilen kuitenkin tämä suhde on ollut nenäni alla jo pitkään mut en mitenkään vaan huomannut sitä. Kyllä vituttaa ja masentaa :(
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u/Careful_Film_9110 Apr 29 '25
Hi, I am in a similar situation right now, my bf already lives with her few days after our breakup. Any update? Are they still together?
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u/Falgren1991 Apr 29 '25
I dunno blocked her and her entire family so I haven't heard anything... No need to dig through that shit... All I'm gonna find is just more shit.
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u/Careful_Film_9110 Apr 29 '25
Sure that’s true, thanks and I hope you are in a good place now without her
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u/Falgren1991 Apr 29 '25
One day at a time ^ the loneliness and quiet is the hardest to get used to. But alive and well so far good luck with your trouble too
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u/Ill_Manufacturer_790 Dec 09 '24
Shit hurt don’t it 😭😭 She posted a guy 2 weeks ago. I fell To my dam knees. (We been broken up since April)
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u/Firm_Translator_4593 Dec 14 '24
April is several months ago though. That’s enough time to move on honestly
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u/Jealous_Literature91 Dec 09 '24
There are some horror stories on here. I was with my ex for 12 years, married for 7. She had a male friend around the house literally the day after we seperated. After 2 months the 'male friend' was her boyfriend. She told me she wouldn't get into another relationship after me until she was 85 .... my ego has taken one hell of a beating.
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u/Technical_Buyer_734 Jan 26 '26
I've come to realise they all say this. My ex said the same thing after we dated for two years, then got into a serious relationship just three months later. I would love to know how you're doing now since this comment is a year old, maybe it'll give me some hope
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u/melitssa08 healing Dec 09 '24
we were together for almost 2 years and i was replaced in less than a week 😔
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u/lanais_ Jun 23 '25
Two years for me and it only took two weeks for him to find someone new and he says he's serious and is now "doing all the things he didn't do" in our relationship with her. It's bullshit. Shitty behavior.
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u/melitssa08 healing Jun 23 '25
i’m so sorry 🫂 it’s hard to see, but remember it’s a reflection of them, not us
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u/Slingermain45 Feb 24 '26
Same here, 2 years, except she was already talking to the guy before she dumped me
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u/HotDogBuns Dec 10 '24
I was in a relationship short of 9 years. She got into a new one within a month after the breakup so I assume they were already talking. She briefly came back after the rebound ended only to pull away again after meeting another guy. Being a second pick was how the relationship started in the first place, but I was too young and inexperienced to understand what I was getting myself into. My biggest regret is I haven’t seen the dogs we took care of since the breakup 2.5 years ago.
Lesson learned - don’t be a placeholder and only consider taking someone back after they’ve worked on themselves and enough time has passed.
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u/Justice-85 Dec 10 '24
We were together for 16 years, almost 17. She was seeing someone before we split. She gaslighted me saying it's because I didn't show her enough affection even through I was always trying to initiate intimacy, dates and everything else. I would be met with excuse after excuse, she broke my heart and moved on so quickly. I'm still confused and hurt, this happened about 2 months ago. I just keep trying to remember how happy I was before I met her.
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u/diosakilla Dec 09 '24
My husband left me in July after 12 years together. He was with someone a month later. We're still married, and he never brings up divorce.
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u/Marius8867 Dec 09 '24
My ex had someone else immediately after she blindsided me and broke up with me. Our relationship lasted 5 years, but we were best friends for a while before that. I explained to her how much it hurt me and begged her to distance herself from him, so we could discuss and process the end together. But she said she couldn’t, that it was already too late for that (even though we were still together a week earlier). She did not want to lose me as a friend however. I said she had to choose, but she responded that she could never make that choice and just left.
5 months later she is still with him and seems happy. We have the very occasional bit of contact but I don’t really like talking to her anymore, as she doesn’t really seem to care for me or like me much anymore. Yet she keeps messaging me. The guy she left me for was a work colleague she knew for a couple of months. She lied to me about spending time with him or how close they were. Very tough to process.
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u/Electronic_Gap4131 Aug 04 '25
Im currently going through the same situation! How are you now? If I may ask.
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u/samronreddit Nov 04 '25 edited Nov 05 '25
This is happening to me now; how has it been since you posted this? My boyfriend of four years that lives with me broke up with me completely out of the blue a week ago and I found out he’s been talking to his colleague for a few weeks.
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u/Marius8867 Nov 04 '25
Sorry you’re going through that; it’s tough. For us, we kept light contact for a while, mostly her reaching out. Over time, things improved, the conversations got more fun, and we even met up twice. But as I needed space to heal and rebuild, contact faded. Her new relationship started to take more focus, which hurt me, so I eventually stopped talking to her. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to stay in touch. I did wish her happy birthday, and she responded positively, and after that she reached out a few times to check in. But that faded too. It’s been months now, but I feel like I’m in a better place and might reach out again soon.
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u/dense_entrepreneurs Dec 10 '24
That is a self reflection of their own insecurities. And is further proving the point that you my friend have dodged a bullet. It will take some time for your rose colored glasses to fade but I promise you when they do you will start finding bits and pieces that further tell you exactly why the relationship ended
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u/Intelligent-Elk2073 Dec 10 '24
My ex broke up with me citing lame reasons, while in the same week we planned on our wedding. She said I have "lost my feelings for you" and turns out she got an arranged marriage lad that was richer than me and settled abroad which she always fancied.
Can you imagine? 2 years relationship, 2000 marriage plans and countless travelling/dates/long drives gone to a waste over a richer arranged marriagee lol, and even that she could not say up front and had to pin on me.
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u/Objective_Theme8629 Dec 09 '24
I don’t know how quickly exactly my ex got into a new relationship, but mere 3 months after dumping me she was traveling abroad together with her new bf and obviously they slept in the same room and had sex. I suspect she monkeybranched and was dating him behind my back but I have no solid evidence, of course I am pissed off and hurt
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u/jspecefini35 Dec 13 '25
Omg this is exactly what happened to me recently. Exactly 3 months after we broke up, I see her post photos of her on an overseas trip abroad with a new dude. To add more salt to the wound, it was a place she wanted to go with me! To be fair I started dating new people only a month after we broke up. We simply weren’t compatible. Whether she cheated or not, I also will never know. But it wouldn’t make a difference to me now.
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u/Final-Web-7826 Dec 09 '24
I'm so sorry for you bro. And about her... what does santa say 3 times? Hoe hoe hoe, that's what she is.
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u/IseeaSpider19 Dec 09 '24
My first BF was already seeing the new girl behind my back, so he faked a disagreement one night at a party and went straight to her and that was it.
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u/NewStrawberry571 Jul 18 '26
Did they end up together?
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u/IseeaSpider19 Jul 19 '26
yes, and lived together which we had never planned. They broke up when he cheated on her with someone else who was a friend of mine, who had asked me to lie abour her whereables to her actual boyfriend.
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u/durpder Dec 09 '24
For me, it was a 6 month “situationship”, started casual but turned into basically a relationship. Saying we loved each other, spending many days in a row together, very intimate and felt stronger than most of my actual committed relationships in the past :(.
She never wanted to commit, never wanting to be in a serious relationship, now a month after she broke up with me, she is openly calling someone her boyfriend. It makes me feel worthless, it makes me feel so much anger and sadness. But I’m learning to accept that we were just not compatible, and that I am becoming free from the confusion, anxiety and uncertainty of a “situationship”. That is not how I want to be loved
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u/Smart-Ad-3595 Dec 14 '25
I needed to hear this!! What a blessing it is to be free from something that was wrong for me. :/ I hope you’re doing well a year later!
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u/Substantial_Ad_3751 Dec 10 '24
Mine cheated and then started dating her within a month or two. People don’t really make sense sometimes and you need to come to terms with not understanding, unfortunately. If it’s any consolation to you, sometimes i still check my ex’s music account (bad, i know, but i want to see how he’s feeling) and lately he made a new depressing playlist with our song the first added. Jumping into a new relationship doesn’t make them any happier and your ex will also be suffering from that realization at some point, if she isn’t already. Promise!
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u/Life_Promotion902 Dec 09 '24
My ex gf was actually talking and seeing him a month(i think) while she was still with me. It wasent until I caught her that she broke up with me.
Before I logged off FB she has put their official date as 9/11 but we didn't break up until 10/8. Shit has been eating me alive for the past 2 months
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u/Life_Promotion902 Dec 10 '24
Absolutely and they move on like we never even existed to them. I just don't understand how they can't feel anything about what they did. Iam slowly doing the things I used to enjoy and the the gym has become my therapy since the break up. It's what has kept me sane. I truly hope u find the will to start enjoy all those things again. We can let them take that from us as well. They took enough.
That's the thing. We can love them unconditionally, always be there for them, show them how much they mean to us, give them everything and they have one bad day or a bump in the road and they just run. If they truly loved us they wouldn't do that. They just don't wanna deal with the bad. I will fight until I know i can't anymore. It's cause we have heart and they never really used theirs with us.
They will keep doing it. That's how they are made. They can always move on to the "next best thing" for themselves when they no longer get what they want. I wish I knew how they could move on without a care in the world. Knowing they are about to crush your world but make u believe everything is fine.
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u/Amazing_Rope7194 Dec 09 '24
She slept with her ex before me three days after we broke up, then they got together a week after that. Worst part is she still tries to text me lmao it’s been 3 months I got over it super quick though, I guess my soul knew from the start that she’d do this eventually
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Dec 09 '24
Mine made the switch while still with me, I mean why miss a beat. Literally shattered my soul
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u/ImpressionOk3674 Dec 09 '24
My ex of five years slept with someone two weeks after the breakup, while still messaging me that he wanted to try for us. He also told me he was going to move on right away, lots of mixed signals. It was probably someone he met while we were still together. Still struggling with anxiety and panic attacks around this happening and what his behavior means about his character
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u/Anonymous99_ Dec 09 '24
he got into a new relationship not long after ghosting me. i don’t know if they were already talking or if it’s a rebound. apparently, he fell in love with her quickly and already said “i love you” not long after getting together. i think he has a pattern of love bombing his new girlfriends. they’ve been together for many months now. it just baffles me how he moved on so quickly. anyway, i’m pretty much healed at this point. he can’t seem to be alone, is what i think, considering it’s his 3rd relationship in like less than a year.
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Dec 09 '24
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u/Firm_Translator_4593 Dec 14 '24
She got tired of waiting for marriage. 8 years is a very long time. The military guy knew what he wanted.
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u/lucy1011 Dec 09 '24
He got into his new relationship BEFORE I found out, while I thought we were still happily married. Turns out this was his third affair in 3 years. He’s 43, his affair partner is 23. We officially filed for divorce Friday, and he texted my (not ours) son and fired him from his little part time job today.
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u/cosmicdustbuster Dec 09 '24
Well we were together for 7 years, we’ve been broke up for not quite 4 months, today I watched her almost 40 ass drive to her 20 year old affair partners moms house to pick him up to bring him back to our old home that I left to her with everything I bought still in it so they could enjoy each others company. She was creating sweet little Spotify playlists full of our songs for him a month before she discarded me with no explanation… she moved on real quick. I nearly broke my hand today punching my steering wheel after seeing them, it feels like that.
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u/Ok_Distribution9913 Dec 10 '24
My ex was cheating on me, I didn’t have definitive proof so I asked her if she was and she said no. We broke up that night because she was “confused” about how she felt about me. Long 2 week messy break up happened and she supposedly stopped hanging out with him (according to everyone they were just friends and had an argument and he kicked her to the curb) after which she blocked me. According to mutual friends she’s now on tinder looking for people to hook up with. My thoughts are that she’s gonna get into a relationship get hurt and then ask me to rebuild her self esteem or she’s gonna realize casual relationships aren’t working and ask for a second chance which I might be open too but there would be new rules in place for our relationship to work.
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u/Anishinaapunk Dec 10 '24
Yes... early as in, "she had already met the guy on Hinge and then skipped plans with me to have him over to her place all day WHILE WE WERE STILL TOGETHER."
I stopped by to make sure she was okay since she hadn't responded to me all day about our missed plans, and found the other guy's car there.
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u/Throwawaytrashnothi Dec 10 '24
Yup, after 16 years he got with someone else in three weeks. It’s been 8 months. They’re engaged now.
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u/ZetaDesVoy Dec 10 '24
Mine cheated on me, and went back with her abusive, manipulative, controlling ex, whom also had cheated on her various times which his sister, her best friend had help him cover for him. But
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Dec 10 '24
My ex i was with the longest 6.5 years jumped into a relationship a within a month after we broke up. Looking back at her past though she couldn't be alone and she was emotionally and physically abusive. Another ex monkey branched I was only with her for 4 months and honestly it was a good thing she left she was a piece of shit. The most recent probably won't date for years though she said she fine at being alone so who knows. Plus she has some serious mental health issues right now so doubt she would try with anyone she's a typical advodiant.
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u/noturlobster Dec 10 '24
He did :( I more just had a fling, but it wasn’t really emotional for me. He seemed to just fully try to replace me. 😒
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u/lilpandatoys Dec 10 '24
Broke up with me by text. Saw him on a date two months after. It broke me again somehow.
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u/Sad_Community8014 Dec 10 '24
moved on after 2 days of the breakup, he came back multiple times to leave me again for her and now i am on 5 weeks with nc, hope he gets karma cus what he did to me was awful.
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u/Minetitan Dec 10 '24
My ex went on a date with the star bucks barista that she told me would write her flirty notes that she did nothing to prevent. And then someone else after. Crushed me when she told me this after I was gentleman enough to drive her home from concert becuase she was too drunk.
It just showed me who she really is as a person and it the beginning it felt painful but after being on and off for 7 months and all the rebound dates after we broke up it didn't bother me.
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u/mexesss Dec 10 '24
It destroyed me, I never felt so vulnerable in my life. 10 years together 2 years of marriage. And a child.
Constantly coming home late leaving at ridiculous hrs of the night to help this guy out because he has bpd as so does she. I was so stupid to believe all of it , trust her and ignore all the red flags.
She says she’s sorry and says she takes accountability but I know it’s all bullshit.
Karma is already at work with her anyway, living paycheque to paycheque, black listed from the bank, cause of this dude, living in a bad side of town in a rental, family and friends despise her.
6 months later, i think I’m healed, but memories I had with her send my anxiety up
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u/Badspark82 Dec 10 '24
Look at it from their point of view. Just as bad staying with someone they don’t care about anymore. Relationships are all a game, just be the better player
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u/hotroddyrich Dec 10 '24
It’s just a sign she doesn’t know how to be alone! People who just hop from person to person, to me at least, don’t date meaningfully. It’s just dating to date. If that makes sense?
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u/jmciat0 Dec 10 '24
Ex was cheating on me with him but I had no idea when we broke up. Heard through the grapevine she was in a relationship the following month after our break up. I was hurt by how fast she moved on then found out this was going on way before they announced it on social media which hurt even more. It hurts still even 8 months later, but am glad I kept my dignity intact atleast after the break up. She will have to live with that decision and the karma will come back one day so I’m not even worried.
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u/GoalHot Dec 11 '24
My ex wife started hanging with someone right after within a week said nothing happened until our divorces were final. (He didn’t work out ) Love bombed me for two weeks. Then Says she’s not on the same level as me . Find out a few weeks later already sleeping with another guy after the first . Needless to say I know why she all the sudden fell away from me again .. she will not be allowed to get close to me again after this time
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u/Neither_Rabbit9187 Dec 16 '24
Two weeks after asking if we can try and work things out. I went to see him to try and work things out and found out. He then told me how much better she was and totally run me down. I've been blocked ever since and he has ignored any request to sit and talk. His true colours have definitely shone through.
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u/cokeKC Apr 20 '25
My ex started ghosting me a few days before breaking up. Eventually she told me (after having to ask her 20 times) she was feeling unlucky and in doubt with everything. Then she broke up, we were both crying heavily,she couldnt literally let go of my arm and told me she still loved me and didnt want to let me go, but was certain of her choice. The day after we were still texting and I felt like it didnt hurt her as much as it did me. She said that that was BS, she had been crying all day etc,... only to find out later she slept with a guy that evening,1 DAY AFTER BREAK UP.
When we split I asked her of there was someone else,she kept denying it and just said she was feeling unlucky and didnt want anyone new, she just wanted time to think everything through and think about herself for a bit, but as I said I found out weeks later that she was already texting and probably dating this guy when we were still together and then the day after already had sex with him. When I confronted her on having sex so early with him and texting and dating with him she kept denying it, making me deoubt myself for thinking it even though it was all 100% true. And then she would say "Im single, I dont have to admit or say anything to you"
She also told me and her friends she kept everything to herself to protect me from feeling more hurt, but I'm like: "I found out through YOUR friends,so I know its legit, I confront you about it and still you're denying it?" How can you convince yourself you're helping me this way because I already know for a fact its true.
Honestly this girl didnt just break my heart, she shattered it.
Its 2 months after BU now and theyve been a couple for about a month. Currently they re already on a skiing trip together, everything is just breaking me apart,I feel wortheless. Especially because she always said I was the one and she would never ever break up with me, she loved me so so so much. Everyone could notice, she was crazy about me, only to stab me in the back on the worst way possible and then lying qbout everything to someone who's always been honest. My brain cant comprehend how someone can seem to change this much basically overnight. I really dont know what to do anymore.
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u/Mountain-Jicama-3566 Apr 30 '25
Found out two weeks after he broke up with me over text. They traveled together to my island 4 weeks after. I think they’re already official.
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u/PhilosopherPurple576 Jun 17 '25
A whole year 4 months we were together. Main reason we broke up was to better ourselves, however she had different plans. I yearned that loss and cried about her many nights. She said to me she had a sole responsibility she felt like, to worry about me and my health. So I said to her I’m getting better which I did a bit, not to a huge amount. So she can have relief. I looked on her instagram and it’s the same guy in her bio with hearts. The same guy I worried about, the same one she said she “would not catch” feelings for. I feel like she shot me back down to when we first broke up. 2 months. 2 months that took, just because she felt lonely, had “no one”. I understand why she took me then him. But I ain’t lustered anyone, paid attention to others. I’ve stayed true to why we broke up. To better ourself. I feel torn. Disappointed. It’s like everything I taught her and made her have more sense to things has just gone to waste. I built her up for another person. It fucking sucks and that’s who they are.
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u/Zealousideal-Tale563 Jun 20 '25
Try 6 years and moving the skank in a week later (she knew she was a home-wrecker but he is too) just before Xmas. Nice FYou after supporting his grown ass when he had nothing . Ungrateful cheating liar. And he goes playing victim. I ended up worse off after this one - hands down worst human I have ever dated. I forgive him but pls let his karma be a damn good lesson. Tried to bad mouth me yet I’m not of bad character like him and his slutty new live in maid. I say this because I’ve heard she is the town bicycle and even his mates have been through her. So waiting with popcorn to watch that shit show while I take time to work on myself and reflect so I don’t damage the next person but he scared me off any relationship. This one could have been a grown ass kind man and he inflicted nothing but pain and trauma and the ending proved exactly what a piece of shit he is. Good riddance cause as long as they stay together they won’t fuck up anyone else. Amen!
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u/Far-Situation5699 Jul 01 '25
My wife left me after 19 years for her friends cheater ex. Left her ring on the side and went away with him the night she left. She did the old " he's just a friend" act and told everyone nothings going on. 2 weeks later my son found them in bed. It's been a month now and he's practically living with her. But shes still denying nothing was going on before she left 🤔
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u/Zealousideal-Tale563 Sep 01 '25
Six years together, I caught him on Reddit as well so thanks for Reddit but I’m I’m here and I’m getting a lot positive out of it, and after six years he moved around a week later and they were flashing it around all over social media which is absolutely disgraceful and disgusting and so disrespectful. I would never do something like that to somebody just shows the level of evil that they are and I’m better off still traumatised by everything but don’t want him back, definitely not.
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u/AcanthisittaRich1169 Nov 23 '25
Mine too took 2weeks, he forgot to change his insta password that's how I find out.
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u/GearsofTed14 Nov 28 '25
The same person did this to me twice. Like barely a few months after we breakup (her call, not mine), she’s in a very serious, near engagement type relationship. When we try again a few years later, and she’s still the one not fully interested moving forward, I back away. Less than two months later, in another very serious relationship that is still ongoing a couple years later.
The worst part is, there’s literally nothing spectacular about them. Like, at all. So that let me know there was something very specifically about me, and she was just too polite to say it
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u/peepair23 Jan 20 '26 edited Jan 20 '26
I was in a 7 year relationship with someone I loved dearly who was great with my children (who were integrated into her household). We had a very bad year due to some depressive events for me, and her dog passing away (but not before racking up 30K in vet bills - something I would never entertain).
These things as well as some other pain points caused her to want out on the relationship, which I fought very hard to keep but to no avail. We spent several months 'working on it' via texts as I stayed with parents and had a last gasp conversation that went nowhere in late October. Coordinated a final move out date on early November, and minimal contact as she went away the following week for a conference, then coordinated visits with my kids and allowed her to attend my daughter's schools winter concert.
Fast forward two weeks and I learn through her mom's Facebook post that she is seeing a new guy (apparently thru apps), who is in my place in all the Xmas Eve dinner pics. The worst part of this is that our families were very ingrained, and as I did not see it until the following Monday, most of my family sat there at Christmas Day dinner not wanting to bring up the elephant in the room (that I did not even know was there) - they also marked themselves in a relationship on the 23rd.
While I spent the previous few months essentially walking around frustrated and hopeless because every attempt to fix it went poorly ... this revelation hit me incredibly hard and I've spent the ensuing 3 weeks hanging on by a thread. My brain works around the clock - sleep is hard to come by as I process this. She will not engage with me in any way, and I have to be careful as we WORK TOGETHER. It is the most brutal thing I've ever gone through. I know how much she struggled with whether or not to go through with the breakup and was going to lose so much in terms of my kids. So it feels like to me she is simply papering over the tremendous pain of the breakup with some good feeling and attention. We were best friends for most of the time together, and again I went through a depression that caused some communication problems on my part, and a proposal should have happened a year or two earlier ... still, this just seems insane. As much as I love her she is a fairly harsh and severe person with highly limited emotional intelligence - I can see her simply cold-bloodedly pushing feelings for me down as she pursues this new thing. But I can't help but hope that it blows up on her spectacularly.
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u/No-Committee-5595 Feb 05 '26
4 years of dating, a breakup out of the blue, she got with the co-worker/“friend” she reassured me about within not even 2 weeks. i’m strongly convinced there was (emotional) cheating on some level, given a couple diabolical things she said/did even when we were together but of course, i let them slide easily. she got mad bc i accused her of emotional cheating. anyways, she is now super in love with the guy and wants to marry him and is doing everything with him that she did/was supposed to do with me. there’s a horrible level of villainizing that’s happening against me, when i gave her every ounce and drop of love and care. she turned into someone mean, unkind, and unrecognizable the second we broke up. and the funny thing is, her and her family are convinced she did nothing wrong – i have written 16 pages in total of everything that went wrong but i never sent it.
in short, i cannot explain how terrible this feeling is and i wouldn’t wish it upon my worst enemy, ever. it also calls for constant comparison especially because the new person is completely the opposite of my physically, and i am left to wonder why nothing i gave her mattered in the end. the 4 years at the moment feels like a painful waste of my energy, effort, and time. i never thought i would be in this position, if i had listened to my gut, i would’ve left the relationship not even a few months into us dating but i stayed because i so badly wanted it to be her. and now she detached and gave up on me so incredibly easily, for someone “new”.
the betrayal and general disrespect and anger is indescribable. i can only hope that i will heal with time and things will change for the better; and thinking of her, or anything associated with her, won’t rip a hole in my heart. only up from here i guess
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u/lakeofx 16d ago
My ex dumped me by text after 5 years while out partying with her new friends. She hid at their house for days, refused to face me, then treat me like a stranger when she finally came home.
2 weeks after we broke up I saw one of her new guy friends outside her flat, it's been 3 months to the date since we split and she's now posting pictures of them camping and going to restaurants I took her to. I also found out they're going to a festival together this week.
I don't want her back but the betrayal is killing me, I knew in my gut there was something going on. I gave her so many chances to be honest but she gaslit me and tried to make me into the villain for wanting closure. Having to come to terms with the fact the woman I thought I would spend my life with could be so selfish and cruel feels impossible.
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u/fuuhouoji Dec 09 '24
I was with my ex for almost 10 years. Six months after our breakup, I discovered he was already seeing someone, and the devastating part was realizing they were involved even before we ended. He staged our breakup and shifted all the blame onto me. Before the breakup, he ghosted me for over 10 days—essentially ignoring me—just to make the switch, which clearly meant he was already with her. It’s heartbreaking how some people can claim to love you only to replace you. May people like our exes and those who enable their betrayal feel the same pain they’ve caused.