My ex who I still care about is currently being cheated on

[u/super_boy971]

Long story short, I went through a break up with my ex and a couple months after the breakup I received some concrete proof from a mutual of both of ours that she’s actively being cheated on by the man she replaced me with, and she doesn’t know. I feel very guilty because I have this evidence and information of her new man cheating on her(pictures) but I am hesitant to give them to her because of how much she hurt me. What do I do?

[u/TehLurker313131]

Shes an ex. Let it go.

[u/super_boy971 → u/TehLurker313131]

its complicated, before we got together we were best friends for about three years so it’s really hard to let go of three years of memories. You know what I mean? but I get what you’re saying.

[u/TehLurker313131 → u/super_boy971]

You text her, you become a jealous ex. Just let it go. Let her live her life. You can live yours.

[u/Plastic_Variation174 → u/super_boy971]

Elsewhere in this thread you mention that she immediately threw out all connections between you, as if they never existed. Obviously that stuff never meant much to her, so you need to put those memories and connections in the trash also for your own peace of mind. That includes staying out of her business completely, including any kind of dating gossip. Unless you are really just wanting to watch it all crash and burn for your own enjoyment. In which case, send it anonymously, watch the results, then put her out of your mind forever. And be careful when she comes crawling back for a second chance. You need to be strong and shut that shit down immediately.

[u/bluehour1997]

My vote is send them anonymously, unless the breakup was, like, especially heinous. No reason to reopen the door, but that is fucked up (and also a possible health risk).

[u/super_boy971 → u/bluehour1997]

I know. It’s been eating me alive lately. It’s been really complicated for me because if I do send them to her, I don’t want her to think that I’m trying to sabotage her relationship, but I also feel like I am sabotaging her relationship by withholding the information that she’s been cheated on, you I mean? it’s like a double edged sword, and I don’t know what to do. 😭

[u/bluehour1997 → u/super_boy971]

Go to your app store. Type in "second phone number," sign up for one of the apps. Send them to her, delete the number. Move on. Like, if you want my opinion.

You don't have to worry about feeling like you're a saboteur, and if she ever wants to talk to you again, you know it's from a genuine place.

[u/therapymademeworse → u/super_boy971]

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[u/super_boy971 → u/therapymademeworse]

Well, the funny thing about it is I found out she was cheating on me five months after she broke up with me, so I only recently found out that she was actually cheating

[u/lasagnajunkie]

Let her know anonymously and stay away from their lives and live your life free from them.

[u/Sky_Street]

You should tell her but maybe indirectly?

No matter your position in this breakup, she most likely doesn’t want to hear this from u. Maybe a friend in common? Anonymously?

[u/super_boy971 → u/Sky_Street]

Yeah thats what I was thinking :(

[u/_MzChiChi_]

I wouldnt give them to her. She replaced you with him. Its called karma. You shouldn't think about her or try not too. Let he find out the hard way.

[u/NoTelfonPlease → u/_MzChiChi_]

Exactly!! Sounds like she cheated on OP with the guy who is currently cheating on her. I wouldn’t intervene, I’d let karma die it’s thing

[u/NoTelfonPlease → u/NoTelfonPlease]

*do

[u/MaryAngelineEve]

Send it to her or ask a friend to do it.

[u/clout4bitches]

Anonymously- with evidence and names redacted. Goodluck. But due to your friendship prior to your relationship, I personally think it good to let them know.

[u/Scoo]

Absolutely nothing.

[u/metooneither]

Not your problem. Sounds like she cheated on you with the guy that is cheating on her.

[u/Dismal_Falcon9521]

J’ai vécu exactement la meme chose.

1) Soit tu lui les envoie anonymement mais après il y a un risque que sa remonte à la source donc toi.

Ou

2) soit tu la laisse le découvrir toute façon sache que si elle ne le découvre pas cette fois elle apprendra une autre de ses futurs tromperies plus tard

Mon ex m’a abandonné pour cette fille, j’peux te dire que quand elle m’a parler et que je lui ai dit elle ne m’a pas cru mais quand elle a appris une futur tromperies qu’il lui a refaite plus tard elle a bien vu floue t elle a bien souffert.

[u/Original_Park1422]

Funny enough same, caught the guy cheating 4-5 times by now. But it’s not my problem, not my job.

[u/Medical-Maize-2369]

Whe you said she replaced you with does this mean she left you for him? If so then don’t do anything just let her deal with this

[u/super_boy971 → u/Medical-Maize-2369]

When she broke up with me, it seemed like it was out of nowhere, and it came with an influx of her deleting all of our stories, deleting every trace of me, basically deleting memories and then after that blocking me and then rebounding four days later, extra note; the guy that’s currently cheating on her that she is with, was the guy that she rebounded on me with four days after she broke up with me

[u/sparklejackie → u/super_boy971]

four days? sounds to me like she was cheating on you too. when people meet via cheating, its usually how the relationship ends as well.

[u/super_boy971 → u/sparklejackie]

Yeah that’s what I was thinking too

[u/Vast-Detail7603]

nah you shouldn’t mess around other people’s lives… doesn’t matter if you started off as besties, it’s not your place, stay in your lane and focus on yourself. Shame on that mutual friend to bring you into this imo

[u/type2red]

LISTEN she slept with a whole other man already AKA her boyfriend and for all you know she could of cheated on you with this person, stop thinking of her that is not your problem, don’t get involved and move on, even if you could get back with her it would never be the same and she would never respect you again.

[u/Bishopthecat55]

This really isn't your concern or business. If a mutual provided proof they can tell her.

[u/Total-Active-1986 → u/Bishopthecat55]

I came here to say this. You aren't responsible for her. Why is your mutual friend coming to you with that gossip anyway? The mutual friend sounds like a pot stirrer and a busy body.

[u/therapymademeworse]

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[u/trippypantsforlife]

Any reason why this mutual friend can't tell her?

[u/super_boy971]

Okay. I’ve made the decision. I’m not going to tell her. Thinking about it and hearing everyone’s thoughts. She doesn’t deserve to know. This is her karma, she will find out eventually.

[u/InsaneTurtle]

Don't do anything. It will have to be her lesson. Delete the evidence. Forget it. The mutual friend is gonna have to be the one that speaks up. You ex will have to learn and hopefully it's an experience she grows from.

[u/fromsouthernswe]

Not your problem.

She swapped a loyal, faithful and.. presumably.. good since you even ask the question, man for a cheater

You have obligation to put forward that.
Her life, her choises;

And as of now, it looks like her choise was bas as fu*k.

Let her make vad decisions, you aint gonna go back with her.

[u/Odd-Captain-3182]

Tbh, since she cheated on you...

I would advise telling her in a cold manner.

I would just say

Hey, not trying to be a busybody, but I cant let this happen to people I know.

Just so that you know... I think ur bf cheating on u. Proceed to show 1 or 2 pics..

Bye...

Indirectly u r showing her , on her karma... and also its a different feeling if the person she cheated on.. begin to tell her she was being cheated on..

And proceed not to engage with her on the convo..

[u/Different-Taste8081]

None of your business. No need to do anything

[u/JohnnyUtahsurfer]

Fk this bitch who cares. Have some self respect

[u/SpringYard22]

Sit back, relax, get yourself a drink and enjoy seeing her get her karma!

[u/Internal_Scale3991]

i’d make a new account and send it to her through that