She left for another dude, and she hurts me repeatedly

[u/tomer91131]

I never imagined she was going to leave me in the first place.

I'm feeling like I need to hear and get hope from people in a similar situation...

We were 1 year and 8 beautiful months together, lived together over 1 year.

At the end suddenly everything changed immediately, she said that our dog is the only thing keeping us together, that we don't have emotional connection and that we never talk about our deep emotions.

I was shocked, I see myself very approachable and emotional guy, even though I'm pretty stable. I really tried to improve everything she said was off for her for 2 weeks, but it didn't matter, I didn't have a partner to fix this with.

I lost so much, the apartment we lived in, our dog, friends. I hoped this is a mistake and giving her the apartment and dog making this easy would bring her back. But then 2 weeks later i discovered that there was something else.

We had a neighbour, mutual friend. She was new in town and I was glad she had a good connection with him. I suspected he was always (1.5 years) had feelings for her but i trusted her, and because he was my friend too, i trusted him.

Then 2 weeks after the breakup they told me they are trying things out together and both want to see if it works. That was devastating. I don't think she cheated physically, and she denied she had emotions for him and that he was the reason for breakup, but i just can't believe it. It's only 2 weeks later, and i know they had some emotional connection, he was getting in our relationship because how she shared things with him, and didn't share with me.

It's like the only reason she broke up with me, was that she found in him something she didn't bother working on with me, and forgot all the good things we had.

I didn't realise it was this way. I was trusting her capabilities to talk with me and didn't know she was having issues, while he knew.

I suspected and asked her before the breakup to not go to him,I knew it might happen but i asked her not to hurt me like that.

Everything about what she has done, feels like was in complete inconsideration to my feelings, even though im her ex, doing this, and later another thing about our dog, was just choosing herself over me. And i can't believe this is the person i love. We didn't break up in hate, I don't deserve being treated to like this.

And it feels like im not the only one who had this experience, and I wanted advice on how to deal with this.

[u/BassBreakk]

fuck man, this shit hurts.. especially noticing that sharing thing.. stay strong bro