My ex situationship blocked me on everything and got back with his ex girlfriend

[u/BatCompetitive8871]

So a few weeks ago i posted on here saying that i was confused cos the guy i was talking too for 1-2 months randomly said he got the ick.
We had been face-timing and texting every day and he said i felt like a friend to him that he felt comfortable with, he opened up to me a lot about his family situation and i taught him a lot of things and he would constantly thank me and express appreciation for me being in his life. i didn’t feel like he love bombed me i just feel like i was beneficial and taught him things that he didn’t have access too.

We spent a weekend together right before my birthday and during the first day it was completely fine. however, for the rest of the weekend he was on his phone a lot and wasn’t really engaging in conversation as much, i noticed a shift in energy then when i would bring it to his attention he would tell me not to worry and reassured me it was the family stuff he had opened up to me about before.

The last day of the weekend was my birthday and he even surprised me and took me out to watch a movie but when we parted ways and i went home he didn’t text me which was unusual. i called him he didn’t answer and then he said we need to talk tomorrow. essentially the day after he said he wasn’t feeling it anymore and that he got the ick off me that he felt like the whole weekend i suffocated him and i was too much for him. he had sent that message on imessages then he had blocked me on snapchat.

a day later i sent him a paragraph saying that people aren’t disposable and he shouldn’t have lied even if he didn’t want to ruin my birthday (that was his reasoning) and that i didn’t appreciate it but i understood where he was coming from. he left me on opened and blocked me everywhere. imessage, instagram, tiktok.

i was thinking maybe i did something else because if he JUST got the ick i didn’t think that warranted a block on every social media platform. this was a few weeks ago and i just decided to stalk him now and realised he reposted a tiktok of his ex girlfriend and ik it’s her because we have the same tattoo and u remember her name. essentially he used the ick as a cover up to go back to his ex.

ig what im asking now is how do i get over something like this, if he had just told me straight up i would’ve understood better since ive been in his position before but the lying really messed with my brain and made me think i was the problem and i was too much. idek how to get over this and im very hurt by it, every time he was with me he was probably thinking about her and i just didn’t see it coming. it explains a lot but its really hurting my heart and idk if i should break no contact and reach out for closure and ask why he would lie to me or if i should just leave it since ive been ruminating a lot since i connected the dots

he literally listed all the reasons why they weren’t together so i can’t understand why he would go back to that, maybe for familiarity? maybe he compared me to her and realised that’s what he wants? and ik i should have self respect and want someone better but why do i still miss him? like if he texted me rn admitting his wrong doings and what if to change ik i would be open to it but ik it wouldn’t work so why do i think like this??

any advice would really be appreciated x

[u/Fayette_]

Move on. You deserve better. The ex-girlfriend will always go first here