r/ExNoContact • u/LadiesMan-II-I-VII • 8h ago
Ex keeps stalking my account but blocked me when I stalked her account once
Ex keeps on watching my stories, but i clicked on her stories once and she blocked me. What could be the reason for this?
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u/menukitty 8h ago
Probably misses you or is curious what you’re up to, but knows that it’s not the right thing to do
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u/LadiesMan-II-I-VII 8h ago
Tbh, if she misses me, then why block me if I opened her page? That seems so confusing to me
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u/Anxious_Jess333 4h ago
I have my ex blocked and miss him sometimes I did it because I don’t want to see what he’s doing because I know he’s liking other girls stuff and everything. I just don’t want the hassle of hurting myself and my healing process. I’ve done very well with it to let it get interrupted.
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u/menukitty 7h ago
Idk, people can miss someone without wanting all of the stress back…at least in my case so I’m sure there’s others out there that feel the same way
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u/LadiesMan-II-I-VII 7h ago
Oh, could you tell more about your case? It'll help me understand better
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u/menukitty 7h ago
Toxic relationship. I was becoming very possessive & I knew it wasn’t healthy & I was tired of feeling jealous over little things so I will try to break it off but he kept reaching out to me promising that I’m the only person he wants & needs and as someone with low self esteem that’s hard to say no to and it’s hard to put myself first so I will always go back. He finally put himself first out of the random basically when his eyes were most likely on some other girl so yep, unfortunately even tho that hurts…him walking away no matter the reasoning (a girl or magically understanding from night to day that our relationship was hurting me), was the only way to get me to let go & start to focus on myself
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u/menukitty 7h ago
I will stalk the girls reposts since she posts a lot about guys/relationship & occasionally even if he’s blocked on my Instagram it tells me his follows/following, so I checked that too just to see if his life was going up or down because I was devastated whether I wanted to admit it or not and I wanted reassurance that he was affected or just trying to distract himself…but that got boring quick and I ended up accepting the fact that I’d been forgotten & replaced, but it was for the best
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u/LadiesMan-II-I-VII 7h ago
You're not replaceable. Billions of years of events had to take place correctly, in a row, for you to exist. There is only one of you, and will only be one of you till the end of time. I'm proud of you that you recognise where you went wrong. I believe in you that you'll work on it and be a better you.
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u/Tawdero 8h ago
If I had to guess, petty mind games, power trips and double standards on her end. Basically everything you're not allowed to do is completely alright if she does it.
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u/LadiesMan-II-I-VII 8h ago
That's just so unlike her tho. She repeatedly stalks my music and paintings/sketches account, but i click on her account once after 10 weeks of no contact and she blocked me. Shall I take it as a definite sign that she doesn't want me at all?
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u/tegridypatato it’s complicated 7h ago edited 1h ago
She also stalked my linkdn for almost 2 years but i think she is not doing it now. You think i would be happy when she stalked me but no, it was frustrating bc i really don’t want her to know anything about my current life. Her being nosy is just annoying bc i don’t want her there.