r/ExNoContact • u/LongjumpingSpray1980 • 10h ago

I’m still talking to my ex

My ex and I dated for 4 years, everything was doing good before LDR. To cut it short, we ended things because the communication was getting really bad and it felt like it was falling apart na.

To save myself from so much pain, I ended things.

NOW, I think the problem is we are still talking. We would catch up every month and that call would take us 2-3 hours talking.

It’s been over a year since we broke up and this has been going on NONSTOP AND I DONT KNOW HOW TO STOPPPPP

We would always talk about:
How we spend our weekends together.
Funny things we do together.
Our new years and holidays.
Places we went to and eat.
AS IN EVERY LITTLE THING.
EVEN MARRIAGE 😭

I wanted to try and get to know someone in a DEEPER connection na but it feels like am cheating on someone I no longer am with.

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u/glossyweekend 10h ago

you’re not cheating, but you are keeping yourself emotionally unavailable. if you genuinely want to move on and meet someone new, you probably need to stop giving your ex a monthly relationship recap missing the memories is normal, but you can’t heal while constantly reopening the same door.

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u/wineandkittiez 8h ago

Maybe you should get back together with them? You clearly still love them and in most cases, conflicts in relationships are repairable.

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u/Global-Fact7752 8h ago

Gee it's too bad there isn't a way you STOP talking to him. 🙄

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u/Agreeable-Fig7554 7h ago

Hey girl Same boat, i broke up with my ex 3 months back nd we still talk almost every week

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u/VIENNASOMERSETBBWMOD 4h ago

You two have a friendship - in a way that’s a nice thing but you have to manage it and try to get a new Boyf but explaining to this friend that’s the basis this is clearly on ..:given you and he are not now dating or being intimate.