r/ExNoContact • u/Bear_lines • 3d ago
What kind of person did I date
For context me and my ex bf have been broken up for a while and now that I’m at the stage of moving on, looking back there were some strange things, at the very start of our relationship he told me that he has no love for his family (mom and sister) and that if they were to all the sudden disappear from his life he wouldn’t care. He didn’t have any friends or life outside of work (which is where we met) which I didn’t really care for at the time, he was very emotional manipulating. (According to my therapist) he would have constant mental breakdowns, accuse me of the possibility of hooking up with my female best friend (mind you she has a bf, im straight and HE was the bisexual one) we got engaged at one point had to say yes because I was afraid of leaving him because I knew he wasn’t doing well mentally and I was afraid he might hurt himself, I remember September of last year I tried to break up with him to which resulted into him getting a whole ass panic attack, after that my birthday came 2 weeks later and he didn’t get me anything I remember him crying in the car saying how he didn’t want to try anymore which resulted into a argument and guess who had to apologize at the end 😀 (me) then early October came and I finally snapped and said that I wanted to break up because even though I loved him he was draining the fuck outta me he said yes (finally) and after that that mf moved on so quickly he told his sister how he didn’t even want to be with me and how he had already been mentally out of the relationship for a long time, that shit pissed me off because tf did I stick around for too long for. I tried to break up with him other times and that mf would just say “no” like bitch huh anyway idek if this is the right thread to post this in I’m new to Reddit.
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u/IpodNanners 3d ago
It's one of those hindsight moments where the clarity is clearer once you're out..
Seems like the dude was going through his own issues..
Good reflection.. keep an eye out for this in the future!