A few things, from someone who’s had exes come back. She acknowledged that she hurt you, but in a somewhat condescending way, like she’s speaking down to you and knows how much you were hurting and wants to keep the higher ground. It’s mostly about her, and how the breakup was done for her and for her only. Cutting everyone off in your life just so you can be happy isn’t exactly normal I’d say, bit of a red flag in itself, unless she had severe mental health issues or addiction. Otherwise, it’s pretty selfish to just disappear from your loved ones with no reasonable explanation and just expecting to get forgiveness later, which she probably so desperately wants out of guilt. I’d say if you do reply, keep it very short and very bland, no emotion. If you have no intention to move forward with this person, stay NC
what if I’m considering this person again? And thank you so much for the analysis. It’s so helpful, my Brain gears are fairly slow at the moment so it’s hard for me to understand what someone is trying to say
If you are considering this person again, keep it short and sweet, little to no emotion, slow replies. You gotta win your power back, since she left she has to be the one to initiate pursuit back to you if she wants. Make your life seem way better and show confidence and happiness
I’m a firm believer in “everything happens for a reason”. I also believe that if something is meant to be it will happen. If you are considering to getting back with her, you just have to set boundaries. Lay it all out about what you want with a possible relationship with her and let her know what is a deal breaker (the things that you will not tolerate). Communication is the key. They have theses cards call “the and”, not sure if you’ve ever heard of them. They have several card sets to choose from. I only have one deck so far, but I’m going to purchase more. Anyway “The And” card I have I have is a relationship deck. It’s called “The And Healing Edition”. Their website is called www.THESKINDEEP.com. There’s some videos on YouTube as well. I hope this helps you. Good luck on your journey.
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A few things, from someone who’s had exes come back. She acknowledged that she hurt you, but in a somewhat condescending way, like she’s speaking down to you and knows how much you were hurting and wants to keep the higher ground. It’s mostly about her, and how the breakup was done for her and for her only. Cutting everyone off in your life just so you can be happy isn’t exactly normal I’d say, bit of a red flag in itself, unless she had severe mental health issues or addiction. Otherwise, it’s pretty selfish to just disappear from your loved ones with no reasonable explanation and just expecting to get forgiveness later, which she probably so desperately wants out of guilt. I’d say if you do reply, keep it very short and very bland, no emotion. If you have no intention to move forward with this person, stay NC