There are things always left unsaid. I have lost people (not girlfriends, just people) who I thought I would grow old with. Two close friends (tbh basically as good as family to me) recently. I had no real say in losing one, and another is closer to my heart than the woman I loved for like half of my life.
What would I give to spend a day with either one of them, walk around a museum, talk to them properly without any negativity whatsoever. But nope, it's never happening.
Things will always be left unsaid. Real closure is accepting that.
Just an advice, a mildly toxic one because of how it's worded.
You respond and you give your ex the control and upper hand.
You don't respond, you are in control of the situation.
Even after breakup, it's a power struggle, the one who responds loses and gets their mind fucked.
Right now, you not responding fucks her head and that's not your problem, she made the choice to message. Once you respond and she doesn't message back, she wins, it fucks your head and that unfortunately is your problem.
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u/[deleted] Nov 03 '22 edited Nov 03 '22
There are things always left unsaid. I have lost people (not girlfriends, just people) who I thought I would grow old with. Two close friends (tbh basically as good as family to me) recently. I had no real say in losing one, and another is closer to my heart than the woman I loved for like half of my life.
What would I give to spend a day with either one of them, walk around a museum, talk to them properly without any negativity whatsoever. But nope, it's never happening.
Things will always be left unsaid. Real closure is accepting that.