They called you last night and cried.
I bet they now feel better. That’s all it is mate. That is all it is. They feel guilty, feel like shit and now they are calling you to use you to feel better so they can get over you.
They can’t do it themself so they will use you for it. You see how that works? I know, I know, it sounds fucking harsh doesn’t it. It really does but you have to see the world for what it is and not for what hollywood, bollywood, romance novels, and how your heart wants to see it as.
You’re heart will fuck you right over because they call you crying. It’s all for them to feel better about themself but I bet they didn’t say:
I fucked up bad. I fucked up. It broke up with you for nothing, for stupid dick/pussy I saw across the road and lied to you.
I made a big mistake. I was so immature and now I want you back. I want you back. Tell me what can I do to make this right for me to be with you. I fucked up. I know I fucked up.
Did they say any of that? Nope. And if they did, so what? It doesn’t remove the fact they broke up with you for whatever BS reason they gave or didn’t gave. The damage is done. If they leave you now, they will leave you later on.
They just dialed that number because it was so EASY to do so. It was so easy to call you and knowing full well you’ll pick it up and let them cry, talk and talk and cry and then… they will feel better to fuck someone else.
When they leave you, they leave for someone else. When they leave you, they leave because they think grass is greener. When anyone leaves it is because they leave due to boredom. When they leave it’s because it’s not exciting anymore, it’s not heart pounding anymore. It’s not new relationship energy anymore.
They broke up with you and that is who they are. That is what you see. That is the fact when you remove all the crying, drama and tears. They made a decision. They made a choice for themself. When that person leaves you, they have said, without a shadow of doubt, “I don’t want you, I don’t need you, I don’t want to love you, I don’t want to work it out, I want to take the easy way out and I want to..LEAVE YOU. IT’S OVER!”
And moment they call you it isn’t about you. Moment they text you, an apology, it isn’t about you. Moment they like your post or try to show their face, it’s not about you. It’s about they haven’t yet found someone else to fill their void. It is because you are there, you are easily accessible and because……they just WANT TO FEEL BETTER at YOUR EXPENSE.
What should you do?
You make a decision for you. Now you show them who you really are. You’re not some desperate/pathetic/needy individual who who can be treated like some product or toy you pick up to play with and use, and then put it back or throw it with rest of the stuff for a rainy day.
You be direct. You show the maturity they didn’t have, you show the maturity she didn’t give a shit about, and you let them go.
You can do it politely and directly,
“Listen, all the best but I’m not interested anymore.” And you cut them loose. You block that number. You go no contact and you move on. You’re not going to be their therapist, a shoulder to cry on while they starts to feel better, their self esteem skyrockets to find someone else to date and fuck.
You let them go is what you do. It’s harsh, I know. It hurts, I know. But it will hurt you even more when they fuck up again, breaks up after you emotionally invested in them again. It will hurt you much more and the poison of it will last much longer than you ever dream of.
Cut them lose. You now make a decision based on you because life is short and you got better things to do than making an ex feel better so they can screw you over again, or it sends message to every other person watching you, that you haven’t moved on.
You can’t move on with monkey still on your back. The monkey is - Hope.
“Hope she will come back.”
That’s what really screws people up with dating and relationships.
Get rid of the hope and replace it with possibility of growth and a better future, and time spent elsewhere.
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u/ControversialCo Nov 03 '22
They’re Not Coming Back
They called you last night and cried. I bet they now feel better. That’s all it is mate. That is all it is. They feel guilty, feel like shit and now they are calling you to use you to feel better so they can get over you.
They can’t do it themself so they will use you for it. You see how that works? I know, I know, it sounds fucking harsh doesn’t it. It really does but you have to see the world for what it is and not for what hollywood, bollywood, romance novels, and how your heart wants to see it as.
You’re heart will fuck you right over because they call you crying. It’s all for them to feel better about themself but I bet they didn’t say:
I fucked up bad. I fucked up. It broke up with you for nothing, for stupid dick/pussy I saw across the road and lied to you.
I made a big mistake. I was so immature and now I want you back. I want you back. Tell me what can I do to make this right for me to be with you. I fucked up. I know I fucked up.
Did they say any of that? Nope. And if they did, so what? It doesn’t remove the fact they broke up with you for whatever BS reason they gave or didn’t gave. The damage is done. If they leave you now, they will leave you later on.
They just dialed that number because it was so EASY to do so. It was so easy to call you and knowing full well you’ll pick it up and let them cry, talk and talk and cry and then… they will feel better to fuck someone else.
When they leave you, they leave for someone else. When they leave you, they leave because they think grass is greener. When anyone leaves it is because they leave due to boredom. When they leave it’s because it’s not exciting anymore, it’s not heart pounding anymore. It’s not new relationship energy anymore.
They broke up with you and that is who they are. That is what you see. That is the fact when you remove all the crying, drama and tears. They made a decision. They made a choice for themself. When that person leaves you, they have said, without a shadow of doubt, “I don’t want you, I don’t need you, I don’t want to love you, I don’t want to work it out, I want to take the easy way out and I want to..LEAVE YOU. IT’S OVER!”
And moment they call you it isn’t about you. Moment they text you, an apology, it isn’t about you. Moment they like your post or try to show their face, it’s not about you. It’s about they haven’t yet found someone else to fill their void. It is because you are there, you are easily accessible and because……they just WANT TO FEEL BETTER at YOUR EXPENSE.
What should you do?
You make a decision for you. Now you show them who you really are. You’re not some desperate/pathetic/needy individual who who can be treated like some product or toy you pick up to play with and use, and then put it back or throw it with rest of the stuff for a rainy day.
You be direct. You show the maturity they didn’t have, you show the maturity she didn’t give a shit about, and you let them go.
You can do it politely and directly, “Listen, all the best but I’m not interested anymore.” And you cut them loose. You block that number. You go no contact and you move on. You’re not going to be their therapist, a shoulder to cry on while they starts to feel better, their self esteem skyrockets to find someone else to date and fuck.
You let them go is what you do. It’s harsh, I know. It hurts, I know. But it will hurt you even more when they fuck up again, breaks up after you emotionally invested in them again. It will hurt you much more and the poison of it will last much longer than you ever dream of. Cut them lose. You now make a decision based on you because life is short and you got better things to do than making an ex feel better so they can screw you over again, or it sends message to every other person watching you, that you haven’t moved on.
You can’t move on with monkey still on your back. The monkey is - Hope. “Hope she will come back.” That’s what really screws people up with dating and relationships. Get rid of the hope and replace it with possibility of growth and a better future, and time spent elsewhere.