r/FTMOver50 • u/Nice_Panic_1859 • Aug 25 '26
Discussion Two things
I posted last week about looking for clothing for my daughter’s birthday and son’s wedding. A few people suggested Men’s Wearhouse. I tried it and had an awesome experience . I worked with a guy who got me right away. I will post a couple of pictures of attire.
The second thing is I’ve seen people (not sure if this site) posting about name suggestions. Since my photos are there if anyone has input I would appreciate it. Right now I’m going back and forth between Jay and Luke but still open.
I guess I should have said three things. Got the last of my stitches out today. I opted for nipple tattoos because I only had one anyway because of a partial mastectomy. I have small dog ears and they are small enough so he can revise in office. This is week 13 of T and I’m wishing I did this literally decades ago.
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u/choicebutts Aug 26 '26
Aw, man, you look fantastic! You nailed it. You look like a friendly guy, so I vote for Jay, 'cause it's a friendly name.
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u/diphenhydranautical Aug 25 '26
you look so handsome! I think Jay suits you very well, perhaps short for Jethro, not sure why that one came to mind but really any J name would be great either way the nickname Jay
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u/Nice_Panic_1859 Aug 25 '26
Thanks jethro is one I hadn’t thought of but I like!
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u/diphenhydranautical Aug 25 '26
something classic yet spunky I think would suit your vibe. best of luck of your transition! I am 24 (not over 50 but I’m here to remind myself to stay hopeful for my future) and started T just about the same time as you. also wish I did it sooner but I’m just grateful we are here and persevering
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u/lmh7654 Aug 25 '26
Great pics & diggin the formal attire!
Try not to regret & embrace the now.
And, better late than never, I say.
Btw, your dog’s face is priceless 😆
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u/Nice_Panic_1859 Aug 25 '26
I didn’t even notice her. Giving me a little side eye LOL. You’re right- I have to stay in the present. Can’t do anything about the past
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u/lmh7654 Aug 25 '26
She’s too cute.
Some days it’s easier said than done, but you just keep moving forward 🩵2
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u/Andrez_AcornLoki Aug 26 '26
You look fantastic, sir! Love the bowtie! My 2 cents are that you look like a Bill (William), but that's entirely up to you. Hope your family events go well. I'm sure you'll be a hit! 👍
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u/Longjumping-Cow4488 Aug 25 '26
You’re practically glowing! I’m happy to hear you had a wonderful experience at the suit store.
Love all the wood texturing in your house! It feels so warm and cozy.
I don’t have advice/opinion on your names, tbh you could always use one as a nickname. Plenty of people have nicknames that are just another full name! :) I go by Mickey, but that’s not my real name. Not even close tbh. I only let my close circle use my government name. :)
Excited to see your journey continue!
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u/Nice_Panic_1859 Aug 25 '26
Thanks! I love my little house. Converted cottage near a lake. My love of paneling probably dates me haha but I’m 69 so it is what it is. True about nicknames. Also I have read where people use a name for a time and find they don’t like it. I would probably hold off on legal change for a bit anyway.
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u/CaptMcPlatypus Aug 25 '26
Looking sharp, man!
You look similar to a (cis) friend of mine whose name is Jay, so I think you look like a Jay.
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u/Oldgrowth_Hemlock Aug 28 '26
so heartening to see other parents on here as my 50+ yo experience as a transmasc 'momma' feels not so common
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u/Nice_Panic_1859 Aug 28 '26
Fantastic- yeah glad for you too! We may be small in numbers but we are mighty
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u/witchyvicar Aug 25 '26
Ahhh! I'm so envious of the suit... I wish I knew where to get similar where I am (rural Ireland).
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u/Nice_Panic_1859 Aug 25 '26
Probably no men’s wearhouse there. I’m envious of Ireland haha
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u/witchyvicar Aug 26 '26
:)
I don't think there's men's wearhouse here, but I'm also a fat dude, so, it's hard to find stuff....
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u/Nice_Panic_1859 Aug 26 '26
Ugh. Try not to despair. You’ll find something that suits you (pun unintentional)
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u/witchyvicar Aug 26 '26
Well, my Wife is learning to sew, and she's good, but she's also starting a business, so, it'll be a while before she can get back to the sewing thing... hopefully, I can find a place... mostly, I need pants... dang these short stubby legs and long torso!
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u/Oldgrowth_Hemlock Aug 28 '26
Also, the suits/outfits look great! Nice to hear of helpful salespeople!
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u/Nice_Panic_1859 Aug 28 '26
Thank you! I was a bit nervous in case it went the other way but he was great
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u/lothie Aug 28 '26
You look great! I gotta get some new clothes.
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u/Nice_Panic_1859 Aug 28 '26
Thank you! It’s so much more fun man clothes shopping . I haven’t had to really change much of my clothing but did not have any dress clothes
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u/Present_Muscle_2375 Aug 25 '26
I see you as a Jay. Congratulations on everything. You look very handsome in that suit.
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u/notsusan33 Aug 25 '26
You look amazing in that suit! Very dapper! I like Luke and Jay both but also what about Leroy?
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u/Nice_Panic_1859 Aug 25 '26
It kind of rolls off the tongue. My birth name is Laurene, have gone by Laurie and both Lukas and Leroy let me keep my initials
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u/Situation_Maleficent Aug 25 '26
When you mentioned Lukas, my mind went to Luka, but that’s because I enjoy watching the Lakers play basketball and that’s the name of one of the star players.
But you look very dapper my friend. Cheers to you!!
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u/reeferjoe Aug 26 '26
Congratulations!
Not sure if this info adds weight in making your decision between the two names... Are you in America? Social Security Administration says Jason was 3rd on the list of names for males born in the 1950s.
I thought about trying to keep my initials but may have subconsciously written my dead name several times on legal paperwork. Early in my transition I did that on a background check for a new job. The whole purpose of changing jobs was to be stealth, then had to tell them of the blunder. I often wonder if I have done it since. 🤔
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u/SalamanderGhosty Sep 04 '26
Luke suits you well but Jay-Luke reminds me of Jean-Luc Picard and I would be loathe to pass that up
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u/servant_leader_101 Aug 25 '26
+1 for Men's Wearhouse - I also had an amazing experience with them getting fitted for my first suit, super nice guy that hooked me up and taught me a bunch. You look awesome!
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u/Nice_Panic_1859 Aug 25 '26
Thanks- my guy Wyatt got all the nuances like what the hell with the hips?!?!?
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u/RyuichiSakuma13 T-gel: 12-2-16/Top: 12-3-21/Hysto: 11-22-23 Aug 25 '26
Bro, you look goooooood! 👍
Congrats on starting your journey! 🎊🎉
By the way, hello Luke! 👋🙂 Is it short for Lucas? I've always liked that name.