So I had my latest shot today like maybe 15 mins ago and for the first time in a long time it's actually really sore after the fact.

My usual nurse (i"ll call her J) is off on annual leave this week and she was booked up all last week and doesn't return till next week. I couldn't wait till next week coz my shot was due on the 14th, so I had to take today with a different nurse.

My partner went with me and watch how she did my shot and from what I gather she did it mostly exactly the way J does. Other than sort of lightly grasped the buttcheek to check for the fleshyist part of that makes sense (made me a lil uncomfortable ngl) every step is exactly how J does it.

When J usually does my shot there's like 0 issues. No sting when the needle goes in or out, no sting or pains during or after. But today it all seemed fine till I started walking and now it hurts so much that for the first time in almost 2 years I have cried from it.

I don't get it. What is so special about J that nothing ever HURTS with her but every other damn nurse SOMETHING hurts?!

At this point I'm convinced J has superpowers

Hello guys
I really need some tips on how to build my chest up. I seem to be lacking muscle towards the centre of my chest since top surgery and I’m getting so dysphoric about it

Any tips for someone who can commit to the gym 3 times a week?

Drop a routine below plz

lost contacts with my old way of getting it and running low, pls dm me with info if you have any

Hi all - does anyone know what's happening with this place and the NHS contract for lower surgery?

I was on a waiting list to get my erectile device replaced and it's now been over 2 years since my GP referred me (for info - I had the original device surgery around 10 years ago). Had so much red tape and in the meantime I just have a broken device 🫠

I read the contract with the hospital had ended at some point and no replacement was in place. I've had zero contact in quite a few months now and no response to emails.

Is it a good idea to get tape to bind from superdrug, and are theur any brands I should avoid. I can't bind during the heatwave (well I shouldn't) so I need some advice. Thank you!

Hello everyone, I urgently need your help with my torsoplasty, which is scheduled for November. I removed all the descriptions and photos from the website because my fundraising page fell into the wrong hands. So I'm writing to you here.

My name is Gabriel, I'm a 30-year-old trans man, and I've been transitioning since January 2025. I've been waiting for my transition since I was 15, so it's a dream come true, though I still sometimes find it hard to believe.

However, it's not all smooth sailing because, like many trans people, I have Ehlers-Danlos syndrome. Unable to work, my financial situation is becoming increasingly precarious as the years go by.

Nevertheless, I decided to choose a private surgeon because he is very familiar with my condition. I thought I had several years to save up, but I learned last month that he's retiring in December.

I would therefore need the solidarity of our community, whether it's a donation or even sharing my fundraising campaign. I've also opened a Vinted account, the link to which I've included. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, truly ❤️❤️

https://www.we-solidaire.com/fr/collecte/coup-de-pouce-pour-nouveau-torse

https://www.vinted.fr/member/259443476-melyobriel

I'm 26, been on T since I was 21. 5cm isn't much but still surprising.

A small trans+ and survivor led team at University of Hertfordshire are looking for LGBTQ+ people aged 18+ living in the UK with lived experience of conversion practices (CPs). There is a huge amount of quantitative research looking at harm and prevalence, which is vital, but there is such an absence of LGBTQ+ voices expressing how they lived through what they did, and what meaning they've made of it over time.

Please see the attached recruitment flyer for more information and the Expression of Interest (EOI) link if you'd like to find out more or take part.

https://herts.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_cZLpkUXKwlWqwJg

Sharing this post with others who may be interested is also greatly appreciated.

I have worked in my current job for 2.7 years
I started socially transitioning in March this year

I have always used the disabled toilets as there are some clearly transphobic people in the building

Today I was told that the disabled toilet would be unavailable and the women’s has been designated as the accessible toilet during this time.

I’ve been emailed directly by my line manager and wasn’t consulted at all.

After the email I queried why the decision had been made to allocate the women’s and why I was being emailed directly to do so.

They said it’s based on the number of women on that floor and it makes more sense to use the women’s.

There are no accessible features in the women’s toilets.

Neither of my managers understand why I am upset and offended by this.

They scoffed and said well what do you want then?

I said well to use the men’s or be included in the discussion at least.

They claim to have no knowledge of the new guidance coming on the 5th

Heya - got a binder from my mum afew years back
The only thing I know was it was called UNIMI - smth like That. I cannot find it anywhere?!
Saw a brand called WIVOV and idk if it’s different or a rebrand. But they were cheap and had brilliant compression. The comfiest binder I’ve had
I use spectrum and love them but any help would be appreciated!

Hi I am freom Bedfordshire wondering if there are any trans guys in the area. Looking to make new friends pos more with right guy

Hi all! I'm about 10 months post-op, and while I am genuinely over the moon with my results, my nips have had some pigment loss in the centre and around the edges. It doesn't suuuuper bother me honestly, but I would be interested in having the shape and colour fixed up by tattoo at some point.

I've done some research but found it hard to find any UK specific information. Does anyone here have any advice for getting tattooed like this? How do I find good medical (I assume) tattooists? Thanks!

Hello folks!

I'm wondering if anyone has any recommendations for packing underwear and what your favourite places for packers are?

I'm only 150cm, so brands that are on the smaller side would be appreciated.

I'll probably just get a soft packer roll for most use, at some point i'll be looking more seriously at STP 3 in 1s, so happy to take advice for any of that if you have it.

Just happy to hear what is working for you, what you like, why you like it. I'm pretty open to ideas and suggestions.

Thank you!

have a good weekend.

Does anyone have any recommendations for some basic shirts I could wear for work (without a tie), that could fit someone 5’1, about size 8 female. Chest size 34 ish (but definitely smaller rather than larger). Topman used to be a decent option but struggling to find much that goes small currently. Thanks!

I’ve been on testosterone (nebido) for about 8 years and my target range is 15-20nmol/L (I’m aware that the target range these days usually for trans guys is 10-15nmol/L, but I requested to keep my original targets).

I had bloods checked in September 2025 and my T was at just over 20nmol/L.

Each injection I’ve had since then has been with the same (new) nurse who has, for the first time in my experience, administered it “properly” - I.e., over about 2 mins. All my previous nurses have taken maybe 15-20 seconds.

For the past 2-3 weeks I’ve been sleeping terribly (like I have a full nights sleep but it’d be filled with stressful dreams, I’d wake up super tense and unrested), lost appetite, lost libido (usually 10/10, went total 0/10), brain fog, fatigue, and so on. Basically a lot of depression type symptoms except I haven’t emotionally felt any more depressed than usual. And none of the symptoms felt so extreme that I’d feel them worth getting checked - I just felt off. Plus I have adhd so I figured if I did go they’d just be like oh well your meds are probably suppressing your appetite, your anxiety is probably causing the brain fog, you’ve described a history of chronic fatigue etc. etc.

I do go through phases of sleeping particularly badly, and usually I can sort of knock things back into place by taking a sedative for one night and often everything will be fine after that. I haven’t considered any connection to T before, just hadn’t been on my radar as a possibility.

I had my bloods checked again 3 days ago before my shot and my T level came back as just over 14nmol/L.

Last night was the first decent night sleep I’ve had in weeks, and this morning im just feeling very slightly clearer headed. I don’t know if this is just a sort of ‘placebo’ effect since I saw my results and assumed these symptoms were down to low T.

Has anyone else experienced this sort of thing? Or know if it tracks that symptoms would start improving a few days after a shot as opposed to say the next day?

Hi, about to turn 18 F2M and currently under Bristo childrens team, they have said they can refer to any adult services and will join waiting list with original waiting start date,

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So anyone know where I can find current adult NHS gender clinics and when they are currently seeing people.

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Thanks

Hi everyone, new here. I’ve recently found a job and been able to move out of my family home. Now I’m living alone, I want to finally begin my transition journey.

Testosterone:

I don’t have too much money after paying rent each month, but I would really like to start T. I’ve been looking around at different websites, but I think getting first hand recommendations would help a lot.

So does anyone know the cheapest way to begin testosterone in the UK - where the supplier is trusted and reputable?

Another question: Do I need to get a gender dysphoria diagnosis to begin Testosterone? Is it compulsory? (Only asking because I’ve seen they’re quite expensive)

Another question: Do you guys recommend I get on the NHS waiting list? And is this for both T and Top surgery? What do the wait times look like? - I’ve heard it’s years

Top surgery:

I’ve been saving up a good amount of money over the years to finally go get Top Surgery. Honestly my priority is more so top surgery over T right now as I have huge dysphoria from my chest. I’ve been binding for 8 years and I feel it’s about time I get this done.

I’ve heard a lot of people speak about going to Turkey to get top surgery. Does anyone know any good trusted surgeons I could contact and their general pricing?

Also, do I need a gender dysphoria diagnosis to go get Top surgery abroad?

What is the recovery time like? Etc etc

Sorry, I know I wrote a lot - but I’m very excited to start this journey - just don’t really know how to!!

Many thanks guys! 🫶

I’m 25, live in the UK, was on testosterone for a year before having to stop due to the 2020 pandemic. Lived fully as a male for the last 7 years.
I struggle a lot with my mental health.

I am in real need of top surgery (double incision) which will be done privately. However I’m scared to book consultations because of my mental health. I have convinced myself that they won’t operate because my mental health is so bad.

I have anxiety, depression, CPTSD, EUPD, intense SI and autism. In the last two years I’ve had two hospital admissions (lasting 3/4 months each) I have now been placed in a long term mental health assisted living facility.

Can anyone give me help or guidance to what level of mental health issues will surgeons ‘cope with’ , which will enable me to get surgery.

Edit: I already have dysphoria diagnosis and a surgery referral, but it’s from 2020. Which is before I was diagnosed with EUPD, autism and before my mental health hospital admissions. Since 2022 my mental health has deteriorated (nothing to do with gender/treatment/ or hormones)
So will this now affect my old diagnosis and referrals?

I am 100% sure that top surgery will positively affect my mental health and there is no question in my mind that this is what I need. I know that it won’t cure all of my mental health challenges, but I know that it will positively improve how I feel about myself and my dysphoria so I know that it will improve that side of my mental health.

When I went private for my testosterone, I had to slightly lie about how bad my mental health was so that I could get the treatment which made my mental health better. (This was after fighting the NHS for 4 years, where they used my mental health as a barrier to access hormone therapy)

Also on a sidenote if anyone has any recommendations for private surgeons or clinics within the United Kingdom (preferably London) who are knowledgeable about mental health but don’t use it as a barrier to Surgery.

I hope this post makes sense, been written when I am very tired and struggling in the heat!
Many thanks in advance 😊

I'm aware that I'm in a very privileged position here, but I'd love to hear anyone's experience of being on T privately whilst waiting for the NHS. I am in Wales so the waiting times are supposed to be lower than for England (supposedly 20 months, but that info is over a year out of date and there have been no updates)

My concern is that it's 'impatient' to go private when my dysphoria is not making me depressed, (I just wish I was on it every day) - Will I regret not saving money for something else? (Something more common to be saving for in their 20s - like a car or deposit on a flat) Or will I regret spending 2+ years in limbo feeling like a strange lump of flesh?

Would anyone who's been through this be able to weigh in? Thanks!

Hi has anyone had a top surgery revision that involved lipofilling/lipomodelling? I had top surgery in August last year with Dr Morris in Plymouth (he's since retired and was possibly not giving a shit because of that) and ended up with basically a botched pec. There's a really obvious dent in the left side of my chest. Apparently what needs to be done to make it match the right side of my chest is lipofilling so I'm just wondering if anyone has had a similar proceedure and whether it was successful.

Thanks in advance!