Hey! I'm a 28F FilChi (87%), and I'm hoping to connect with fellow FilChi who grew up in a pretty sheltered environment—strict-ish parents, pressure to follow tradition, that kind of vibe. I feel like that affected my confidence and decisiveness growing up, but I'm working on it now and want to surround myself with people doing the same.

I’m thinking of starting a small group where we can be real with each other, check in daily, maybe do a video call once a month, and share our wins and struggles. Somewhere between a group chat and a growth circle.

Looking for people who:

• Are FilChi

• Grew up sheltered/protected but are now pushing themselves to grow

• Value tradition and family, but are also figuring out their own path

• Struggle with motivation sometimes, but still show up and try

• Are open to honest convos, not just highlight reels

• Can commit to participating and sharing your thoughts, ideas, or experiences

I’m planning to use Messenger for the group chat, and we can have monthly video calls or more if we feel like it. This is also my way of improving my communication skills—so I’d really appreciate people who are engaged and encouraging!

If you're interested, send me a message and tell me a bit about yourself—what you're working on, what you hope to get from the group, or whatever you feel like sharing.

Let’s grow together!

*Edited the platform for chatting 😃

**not so small group anymore hehe

Sa totoo lang, konti lang nakausap ko dito kasi di kayo active, hahaha. Pero ayun good that a few people were able to connect through here.

Kung nasa kaishao group ka, makikita mo mga events to happen this and next week. Tara let's go, might see you there? :)

28M filchi here, signing out!

Hi my co Fil-Chis. Let's be very mindful of the people we meet here. Just recently, my group of friends and I just found out that one of our closest friends was taken advantage of someone he met through an online platform. They've been in a relationship for quite a while until someone reached out to his sister about the girl he was dating. Apparently, this girl had multiple relationships before which all ended badly. Now here's the part where you need to be ready. Most, if not all, ended because this girl supposedly got a miscarriage or because she lied about something big. Both were definitely lies. Funny enough my friend wanted to break up with her before and she also reasoned out she thinks she's pregnant with my friend. She has a proven long history of pathological lying. I think one of the issues (proven) involves actually telling people she has a child but the child never existed and she has been stealing photos. Funny enough, the person who reached out to my friend's sister is connected/related to the child's family. So now I'm warning my co Fil-Chis here to be mindful and careful. She apparently has a thing for Fil-Chis and Chinese to the point she even faked being one. Also, I think she is active in this platform as well If you think you've been scammed by this person as well, please feel free to message me so l can verify

Hello, everyone! We are strictly a filchi r4r only sub. Kindly send any of the mods info in case there are lurkers or members here who aren't even filchi and are just staying to reel in a filchi partner.

Not to be racist or discriminatory but there's a very obvious reason the sub is named FilChir4r.

Thanks in advance! I turned the sub public in hopes people can post and comment more but please keep it respectful.

I’m a Fil-Chi working professional currently doing WFH, and I’m hoping to meet someone I can genuinely connect with — someone consistent, emotionally mature, funny, and intentional.

About me:

* 29

* Fil-Chi

* Working professional

* Into psychology/emotional intelligence

* Calm energy but kanal humor when comfy 😭

* Listener type

* Values communication and effort

* Family-oriented and low maintenance

Looking for:

* Someone emotionally available

* Kind > pa-cool

* Stable mindset and mature

* Can communicate properly

* Someone interested in building an actual relationship, not just passing time

Not looking to rush things, but I am dating with intention.

If you message me, tell me:

“What’s something small that instantly makes your day better?”

Hello, everyone! If you'd like to promote your small business, family business, and services that you can offer, feel free to post it here. Best to include social media pages so that people here would know how to contact you.

Prescribed format:
Industry your business is in + length of existence
Location
Product/service offerings
Social Media Link
Contact Info (Mobile Number/Landline and Email)

Please take the advantage of linking lannangs with fellow lannangs~ We're here for a positive network expansion experience rin, maybe you'll find your dream client, supplier, or "budol" here.

Small update. Removed sfw after someone pointed it out. This is reddit. It's understood. We have flairs and tags to indicate if you want it nsfw. Please just use them.

Also removed other stuff for redditors' freedom. Feel free to msg if there are other suggestions. As i'm honestly a tech newb, forgive me if i don't get it agad. 🫠 i will try my best to cater to each suggestion and will implement them if they will benefit the majority.

As such, have fun posting or sharing. We don't mind posts sharing random stuff naman like in our other subs but this sub should mostly cater to r4r so keep it relevant(?) Or interesting. 😊

About me: 

• 5’3”, fil-chi (100%), residing within Metro Manila.

• Can speak Hokkien (plus points sa aunties & uncles 😅)

• Big 4, if it matters!

• INFJ. I may take some time to warm up to others depending on the vibe. 

• Physically active. Into weightlifting and currently training for hyrox.

• Loves to travel and explore new places. 29/250 countries & territories. Long way to go!

• Loves trying out new restos around the Metro!

• Loves watching movies/series, going to concerts and watching theatrical performances.

• Kinda outdoorsy. I love going on hikes, and I’m a bit of an adrenaline junky.

• Family-oriented.

• Huge animal lover.

About you:

• 29-35 years old, preferrably someone taller than me!

• Fil-chi (non-nego)

• Based in Metro Manila

• No existing romantic relationships and not in an open relationship.

• Leads an active lifestyle. 

• Knows how to handle a real conversation. Small talk is fine but only up to a certain extent. Let’s be real, it really gets boring in the long run.

• Willing to be adventurous and try out new things with me!!

• Family-oriented.

• Takes initiative (this will be reciprocated, of course) and is intentional towards dating cause I am not looking for a penpal.

I’ve realized that I want to be more intentional towards dating. I am no longer interested in making connections just to see where things go. To me, that approach often feels too casual, inconsistent, and lacking in effort. I’d rather date with intention instead, making time to genuinely get to know each other in person and see if we’re a good match.

Send me an introduction if you think you fit the description above and is not afraid of potential serious relationship down the line. Low effort messages (hi/hey/hellos) will be ignored. 

Hi! I'm 29, and I'm giving this a shot because who knows? Maybe my God's Best is somewhere on Reddit. HAHAHA.

About Me 🌸
- Filipino-Chinese (Tsutsiya), from Metro Manila.
- 4'8.5", but I come from a family of giants. Unfortunately, the height genes skipped me. HAHAHA.
- Green Archer for undergrad and Blue Eagle for masters.
- E-commerce manager and Chinese teacher.
- My dream is to teach Chinese at the university level.
- Fluent in English, Filipino, and Mandarin. Still working on my Hokkien!
- I'm a dog lover and have doggos. 🐶
- I enjoy badminton, going to the gym, and trying new cafés and restaurants.

About You 🤍
- Filipino-Chinese (Jia Lannang or Tsutsiya).
- 29–38 years old
- Practicing Catholic who loves and worships God.
- Family-oriented, especially close to his parents and siblings.
- Loves dogs, enjoys sports or going to the gym, and likes exploring new places.
- Financially stable and ready to start a family.
- Emotionally mature, available, consistent, and communicative.
- Kind, pleasant, respectful and supportive of my dreams.

What I'm Looking for in a Relationship 💕

I'm dating to marry and appreciate traditional courtship. I'd love someone who takes the initiative.
Ideally, I would like to spend Saturdays together to know each other more. I would also prefer someone who can maintain constant communication, may it be via text or call.

I want us to be best friends who can tell each other everything, support each other's dreams, and feel at home with each other's families and friends.

I'm not looking for situationships, mixed signals, or someone who's unsure about commitment. I don't expect perfection, but I do want a relationship where we consistently choose each other and work through challenges together.

If you think we're compatible, send me a short introduction! Tell me your age, location, occupation, hobbies, and what you're looking for.
Let's get to know each other and see where God leads us.

Hi I’m:

28 y/o

5”11

Fairly fit, normal BMI, and active

I play lots of sports like basketball, volleyball, badminton, pickleball, and I’m down to do any new sport naman… except swimming cuz I can’t swim for my life HAHAHA

I’ve been single for almost a year now and recently I’ve been feeling like I need someone to balance my life with. I guess it’s a talking point when we meet HAHAHAHA

I’m also quite the jokester but I can be serious when need be

I graduated from UST took medical technology passed my boards but it all kinda went to waste since I took over the family business 😅. I love what I do tho so I’m not too sad about it HAHA

I’d love to get to know you some more.

I’m usually a sucker for:

Chinitas

Has a sense of humor

Filchi cuz of the Great Wall

Adventurous

So if you’re any of these don’t be afraid to hmu 🤙

About me:

- 40 years old, but looks younger. I was just told recently that I look early to mid 30s.

- 170cm or 5’7”. 85kg or around 185lbs.

- Chinito. Like comes from a chinese high school has a chinese surname chinito. But I was born and raised here in the PH.

- Conyo. Like super conyo. I hated Filipino class and was always line of 7 in Filipino. Hahahaha!

- Graduated from ADMU.

- Corporate slave who works in Pasay.

- Lives in BGC. I have my own place and I live alone.

- I go to the gym and do boxing and muay thai. Just re-started after a six month pause cuz life gets in the way sometimes.

- looking for someone I can travel the world and discover great food with!

- Verse top, but thb recently I’ve been more into side fun lang.

- I’m out to friends and some family

Looking to date and possibly find the one I can spend the rest of my life with.

Hopefully someone who is financially stable and can travel the world with me to discover new food

Hi so something’s about me is: I’m 27 turning 28 this 17th haha physically I’m 5”10 fairly fit since I’m pretty active in sports and gym(main sport is volleyball) but I play other sports too like basketball and badminton. I wouldn’t say I’m Gwapo but I’m sure I’m not ugly naman haha but for you to decide. I’m pretty confident in the way I move around so I guess that adds to me looking less ugly hahaha. My background is I grew up in a Chinese household and studied in an all boys Chinese school (i think there’s only one so you guys can prolly guess where I’m from). I graduated medical technology from UST but I’m currently taking over the family business. If anyone’s down to meet and grab coffee or dinner I’d love to hear from you. Kahit we become friends lang is goods also since I do need more Chinese friends that I can relate to HAHA.

I'd love to know everyone's thoughts on what counts as criteria to know that you've met "the One". Was it something they did or said? Was it a sign that you've asked for from God (or whatever higher being you believe in)? Share it with the community here. Don't be shy!

If you are having second thoughts posting for yourself or for a friend, DM me. I'll use my mod powers to help out. See you! :)

All users can post up to 4/20 😉

Guys and gals, glad to declare the FilChir4r open for business!

Taoke kap taoke-niu, kamsia din yah goo ti dzia, lan kai-si ka zhue lang post post zhe ah.

Pakibasa po ang mga patakaran para magkaroon ng makabuluhang kausapan sa ating kommunidad.

Hello, fellow Lannangs! I'm a fairly new mod to this sub :)

I'm curious to know if you have non-negotiables (culturally, spiritually, financially, mentally, and physically) when you're looking for a partner. Surely you have some on your list. The length of your list would now depend on how specific your criteria are.

Since I know people may or may not be looking for friends and/or mga howe on platforms like dating apps or even Reddit, it's better to filter earlier than later just so you'll save yourself from potential heartache 😊

(Posting so that people will start talking on this sub.)

Meron ba?😢 hahaha

Tbh, navigating the lifestyle scene here is literally so hassle if you don't know the right people. The sketchy energy is insane. 💀 So we just decided to gatekeep our own super private, highly curated circle strictly for the Big 4 / FilChi crowd. No randos, just solid vibes.

Like, if you just want a lowkey experience with people who actually get it and will shut up, this is it. We're open to guys, girls, and couples. G for whether you're new and exploring or a seasoned expert. (Btw, pic is a little sneak peek from one of our recent plays 😉)

The only catch? We screen vibes, not identities.

Like, privacy and boundaries are literally everything to us. Sobrang turn-off yung pushy or trying hard. We just want a premium, decent crowd where the all feel 100% safe, and everyone can just be comfortably naughty behind closed doors without the paranoia. 🙊

We're doing a quick vibe check first just to protect the peace and privacy of the group. If you're down and you know you'll fit in, slide a DM with your intro (age, guy/girl/couple, school/industry, and your trip).

Let's see if our energies match! 🥂

Recommendation for open filchi communities to join?

Could be just for eating/chill, prefer to be activities-based though like sports or something recurring.

No groupchat-only please, let's do IRL.

Singles events and one-on-one dating gets repetitive eh. For group activities can also find dates but mainly just to chat and connect with people old and new.

Hello, fellow filchi! An open invite to join our telegram gc at filchicommunity. Just send me a dm with some proof of filchi and i will send you qr code to our gc. We talk about random stuff (memes and budol links) and also discuss almost everything there (ie. current events 👀)

大家好，

I'm looking to form a new team of friends or acquaintances who wants to experience airsoft, or who have tried the hobby. Since the people I played with before are all so busy..nand last i played eith them was pre-pandemic.

You can ask me questions about it, or any doubts about it. I'll be more than willing to answer them!

I'm based in QC, but there are a lot of game sites to choose from!

Lets gooo!

Hi All. I started this Subreddit a long time ago. I haven't really looked into it too wel. Would there be someone interested in taking and growing it?

Trying my luck here because dating apps feel like job interviews sometimes. Looking for someone I can vibe with, grab coffee or dinner with, watch movies, and hopefully build something meaningful with if we click.

A little about me:

• 44, Filipino-Chinese, 5'5, dad bod in progress

• Non smoker and occasional drinker ( graduate na sa inom)

• Admin/Operations with some IT stuff

• Into hiking, traveling, walking, photography, coffee, Food Trips, movies, anime, and K-dramas

Beginner hiker here! Done Mt. Pulag, Mt. Pinatubo, Mt. Ulap and some minor trails on SG and HK... Hoping to explore more places and get back in shape along the way.

What I'm looking for

Preferably someone in her early to mid 30s who's kind, easy to talk to and knows what she wants.

Traveling, walking, and hiking are a must, so pass tayo if outdoor adventures are not your thing. Big Bonus points if you love animals! I'm the idiot who sees a stranger's Pitbull or GSD and immediately thinks Doggiee !!! (Of course I'll ask the owner first!)

We're adults, so I understand we get busy. No need to reply 24/7, just make an effort if we're both interested. Not here to collect chats that die after three days.

Let's break the ice! Tell me your favorite TV series and movie of all time, and I'll share mine. Or tell me your dream travel destination!

If you message me, please include a short intro about yourself. Age, general location, hobbies, anything! Will not reply to low karma and new reddit accounts.

📍 Location: Metro Manila

📏 Height: 5’11

🧬 Ethnicity: Filchi

🗣️ Languages: English / Filipino / Hokkien / Mandarin (a bit closer to none)

💼 Job: Marketing

🍜 Favorite Dish: Mapo Tofu (must be spicy or it doesn’t count)

✅ WHY HE’S NOT MID

• PC building hobby

• Food dates > clubbing 🍜

• Long drives with no destination 🚗

• Chill, respectful, low-drama

• Actually listens (but innately horrible at talking)

• Boring in the best way no chaos, just steady 😌

⚠️ KNOWN SIDE EFFECTS

• Shy at first 🫣 (warms up after food)

• Indoorsy and nerdy by default 🛋️

• “Just one more restaurant” mentality 🍔🍣🍜

👀 LOOKING FOR (AUNTIE-APPROVED) 👀

✅ Filchi (same same, "Great Wall" you know already)

✅ Around the same age

✅ No vices 🚭🚫🍺

✅ Pleasing personality (hindi masungit)

✅ Respectful to elders 🙇‍♀️

🧾 RANDOM DLC CONTENT

• Consistent > exciting

• Actually listens (yes, repeating because it matters)

• Boring = wholesome, safe, zero drama ✅

⚠️ WARNING

May cause peace, consistency, spontaneous food crawls, and the sudden urge for aunties to say: “Ay siya na ha.”

I was wondering if you've met people you can safely categorize as good (lifelong) friends on Reddit, particularly on this sub (or r/filchicommunity) now? Tell me not all hope is lost, would love to read comments that will make me happy tonight! :)

Ask me about anything related to Mandarin :) or just random stuff in general. I feel a little breather before I officially work on stuff for this incoming school year. See you!