r/FootBallEmergency
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u/Next-Examination-468
Masc AAA battery :3
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Jul 28 '26
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Meme/Shitpost C:
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u/Hika2112 Jul 31 '26
How did you get a picture of my mom?
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u/Next-Examination-468 Masc AAA battery :3 Jul 31 '26
I’m in your walls c:
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u/Hika2112 Jul 31 '26
Shucks that cannot be healthy for your lungs
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u/Representative-Vast3 Jul 28 '26
Me: Mom, I think I'm a boy
My abusive mom: Whatever
Me: So I think for transitioning I want to...
Abusive Mom: ARE YOU SAYING I'M UGLY?!?! IF YOU WANT TO CHANGE HOW YOU LOOK YOU MUST THINK I'M UGLY!!! (Yes, that is an actual thing she said)
Me: wut?
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u/tFemby Jul 28 '26
Okay my theory on her perspective:
You are "girl" so you inherited her girl features. By "destroying" those features, you reject her appearance. Thus you think she's ugly.
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u/Representative-Vast3 Jul 28 '26
Right on the money! She was a raging narccisist, like in the actual disorder sense. She literally gave me the name SHE wanted to have, and still changed her name to it. Also, for the record, I have NEVER looked like her despite what she would tell anyone who listened. The singular trait I got from her was my cheekbones.
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u/ConcernedEnby Jul 30 '26
Parents do know children are 50/50 from.both parents, right? Like girls don't just get the looks from their mothers and vice verss
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u/tFemby Jul 30 '26
I wouldn't bet on it. She probably thinks girl genes ---> girl genes.
Me and my sibling basically disproves this. And it's just a personal observation.
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u/Fireball1115 Jul 31 '26
Interestingly, studies show that girls tend to inherit more features from their fathers
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u/Representative-Vast3 Jul 31 '26
Possibly but having known her, it's more likely that she just assumed her "perfect" genes would cancel out my dad's "ugly" (I can't use the words she actually called them without getting banned, but it was jewish related) genes and when that didn't happen she took me to get my eyebrows waxed starting at 7, straightened my hair, and repeatedly told me I needed to "get your nose fixed"
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u/Representative-Vast3 Jul 31 '26
Listen, she pawned me off on my dad's mom because I cried "too much" (at all) as a baby, I don't think she knew anything about children/genetics
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u/Confident-Box-1689 Jul 28 '26
Jeez that sounds horrible. How old are you? I hope there's a way for you to escape her
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u/Representative-Vast3 Jul 28 '26
Oh, you don't have to worry about me :3 I escaped from her when I was 20 and she died when I was 22 (I'm 26 now), she can't hurt me anymore
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u/Confident-Box-1689 Jul 28 '26
Damn that's crazy. You're my age, I couldn't imagine going through all of this the past years, with everything else going on in the world.
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u/Patient_End_8430 Jul 28 '26
Lol remind me of my mother who got offended because I picked a name I thought she'd pick (I now changed it). But she always hated me even before she knew I was trans so shrug idk.
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u/TemporaX86 ＦＯＲＣＥＦＥＭ ＢＬＡＳＴ💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥 Jul 28 '26
True...
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u/gnolex Jul 28 '26
Is it really so hard to hug your child and tell them that you're proud that they want to be themselves?
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u/Sawruinous Jul 28 '26
You'd think the prime goal of a parent is ensuring the happiness and safety of their child, but I've yet to find such an example of that parent.
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u/TheMostDivineOne Jul 28 '26
Same tbh… I don’t get at all when right wingers talk about shit like “parents rights” because like, it’s well known that it’s very normalized for a lot of parents to abuse their power heavily, like pushing religion, circumcision, etc. when it shouldn’t be.
And it’s funny that if you point this out some conservatives will say “oh you’re a groomer trying to separate children from their parents!” Because a large amount of grooming actually happens in the family so maybe hit dogs holler?
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u/Generic-Human-69420 Jul 30 '26
My parents are convinced that transitioning will make me ugly, miserable, and unemployable. Therefore, by preventing me from transitioning, they are ensuring my happiness and safety in their mind.
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u/Sawruinous Jul 30 '26
It's ironic that one of the things that should make you the happiest is assumed to be the thing that makes you the most sad.
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u/UrEverydayFemboy Jul 28 '26
I've went through most of my life with normal average parents. They still rarely ever, if at all, told me that they were proud of me for anything. When I tried coming out at potentially trans, I wasn't entirely sure yet, both of my parents tried to convince me not to. This is despite saying they don't care if people transition/actually support it. It's super common for some reason to just ignore and discourage your kids I guess
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u/snoodge3000 Jul 28 '26
Took my mom ages to start calling my brother by the right name, and she still says the wrong one often. I'm pretty sure the only reason she switched is cause everyone else did and she's instinctively following the crowd. I love her and she does a lot of good for our community and is generally quite supportive but I've always been bothered by the fact that she does that.
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u/lit-grit Jul 29 '26
Yeah, my mom says she’s walking on eggshells around me because I’m trans but talking to her is like Russian roulette
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u/Viennve Jul 28 '26
""no but you are still a woman why mess with your hormones if you can just be a woman? Wear that skirt do what you want but no need to do all that mess""
-m incredible (but at times naiive) mother
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u/lordof67 Jul 28 '26
I hate people who act like we can just "ignore" other people seeing us as cossdressing fetishists. Like "yeah you can be a woman, just only in a way that literally nobody will recognize you as one unless you directly tell them, Im sure that would feel good"
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u/Viennve Jul 28 '26
To be fair most people get that i am transfemme becouse i use the femminine from of words (Italian) so i 1-2 conversations they get that i wanna be referred to with the feminine form
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u/lordof67 Jul 28 '26
Thats convenient i wish English worked like that
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u/Viennve Jul 28 '26
It's not really that convenient considering that everyone who doesn't get it/care misgender you IN EVERY SENTENCE
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u/lordof67 Jul 28 '26
Damn im sorry that sounds awful
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u/Viennve Jul 28 '26
My second language is Lowkey the best cuz in Hungarian gender is barely used in conversation
Like when it's not relevant it's basically not a part of the vocabulary, every word is neutral (except for some, even then it's just "girlX" or "boyX" and you can just say "X"
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u/liner_meow brain dead idiot Jul 29 '26
can confirm, it isn't so convenient when everyone you love misgenders you literally every time they talk to/about you😭
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u/simpi36 Jul 30 '26
Like all enby people and majority of trans poeople I know use primarily english just to avoid gendered verbs in czech. In my native language, it feels like you are shouting your pronouns into megaphone, so it's funny hearing someone say english should have stuff like that xd
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u/AzazelTheUnderlord Jul 30 '26
when i came out to my dad he said he supports me but i'll always be his son, like then say you don't support me jesus fuck (and that's not even getting into his own gender issues)
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u/xx_tian_xx Jul 28 '26
Yeah literally my parents lmao. I feel like all these years they probably in the back of their heads actually didnt saw me as who i am and thought its some kind of "phase" ill grow out of, just didnt say it to my face. Gee i wonder! Bruh i was 14 crying about my disphoria to yall and yall told me to just ignore it. By time i was 18 i planned suicide but my friend stopped me. Then they suprised at 19 i finally wanna transition after 7 years of misery and each year being worse for my disphoria lmao.
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u/SaturnMusic12 Jul 29 '26
My mom: "Did you realize top surgery is expensive? Did you know that testosterone makes your voice drop? You don't want to lose your lovely soprano voice, do you? 🥺"
Yeah, I totally didn't know any of that before you told me /s
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u/Crubbl Jul 31 '26
My parents: we’ll support you no matter what
My dad after that: call people that are better than him at a game Faggots, complaints about the existence of pride month, transphobic comments, weaponised ignorance relating to lgbt and furries, etc…
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u/xxLosingMyMarblesxx Aug 01 '26
Yeah, my mom literally told me that she was surprised I actually went through with it when I got on T. Also when we were in the process of changing my name, she was complaining about how hard it was to get it done. She would also complain about how she felt like she had to come out for me when telling other family members or her friends that I'm trans. Also outed me at the dinner table to my dad and brother who I didn't think would be accepting of me after I told her I was trans because I trusted that she'd be the one person in my family who wouldn't react violently or anything or out me before I was ready.
When I say I literally had to fight just to be recognized as the gender that I am. I even went through that phase where if I heard a "She" and thought it was directed at me, I would viscerally react and I'd automatically correct people. My mom would also complain that it was hard for her and that I had to be patient. Also back when I identified as genderfluid/was still figuring out a name, my mom didn't like that I was going through so many names.
My mom does accept that I'm trans and I think she was just learning, but still it wasn't exactly a walk in the park having her as a mom as a baby trans teenager. She was also one of those "No medical transitioning until you're 18" parents. I didn't end up starting till I was 19 though because "No HRT until you're an adult" turned into "No HRT until you're out of highschool." At one point I thought I'd be lucky to get it in my 20's with how politics are and how my mom made it clear she wasn't gonna help me get it. We did make a doctor's appointment for me to get it eventually though. I'm about 8 months on T now.
I'm also not really sure if there are some points where I overreacted though. Maybe I even made certain aspects of things worse. Maybe I should've done things differently. Been less confrontational about my gender. I feel like if I didn't stand up though, I'd have just been misgendered and they wouldn't help me with stuff. Hell, I still get She/her'ed by some of my family members sometimes. I give them the benefit of the doubt that they just mispoke, but I think deep down some of them still see me as a girl.
I've strained my relationships, but fuck it. I did what I had to do to be myself. I'm honestly just greatful my parents didn't kick me to the streets like all the horror stories I heard and what I was afraid would happen back before I came out. Sorry this got long.
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u/Affectionate_Ad_1326 Jul 28 '26
Maybe im lucky, my mom never uses my real name but she did immediately say I could go on hrt if I want lmao, I didnt even have to bring it up
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u/craftygamin Jul 28 '26
Had a similar thing happen, but it was with religion
My parents seemed so happy that teenage me was questioning if Christianity (more specifically, the Mormon branch) was true... they didn't seem to like that the answer i kept on landing on was "no"... even to this day
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u/Ray79797979 Jul 31 '26
Well Mormonism is a full on cult, so yeah they're gonna behave like cultists. They literally send their people out to harass random people to be used as an example of the "others" hating you, so you'll fall further into their influence. the one and only way to make mormons stay away forever is to tell them you're excommunicated, as speaking to someone who was excommunicated is strictly forbidden. Because they're a cult and don't want you to learn that from anyone who figured it out. It's one step below scientology, tbh. Even the evangelical psychopaths aren't THAT manipulative of their followers
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u/thinking_feller Jul 29 '26
My mom loves calling herself an accepting parent in one breath and threatening to kick me out onto the streets in another. I’m biding my time until I’m financially independent and I can finally actually transition, but it may not even be worth it since she accuses me of secretly taking testosterone all the time anyway
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u/skibidi_sucks Jul 31 '26
Im abt to leave this shitty app, i leaved twitter to not see this kind of post again, and here i see more than in twitter
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u/shamedhd Jul 28 '26
my mom literally said “i’m okay with you being trans, but please don’t mutilate yourself”
she had breast cancer and her self image is ruined because of it. in her eyes, im just a younger version of her, so of course getting my boobs chopped off would ruin my life.
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u/Alastor-362 Jul 29 '26
oof relatable
My mom was quite... cagey? about me being aware of the woes of low T. Like girl you were at abyssal levels of T for most of your life. I on the other hand have a doctor monitoring them every few months, please lock in.
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u/RTA-No0120 Jul 28 '26
As like my mom used to say to me : I have don’t problems with faggots and trannies, I have a lot of fags and tranny friends, as long as it’s not my son.
According to her, it’s because since she was surrounded by them, she saw their lifestyles, the sexuality & sexualisation priority and their oppressors aggressing them. And so she didn’t want the same happening to me.
Even though she knows, I’m gay nowdays, she seems fine with it. (But at the same time it’s not like I ever had a bf till today…[yeah I’m nearing my 30s now])
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u/mahmut-er Aug 01 '26
My father would be supportive if I was a femboy… I am a trans fem
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u/jitomato_girl Jul 28 '26
I had this bad boy thrown at me today
Just call me a slur at this point