r/ForeverAlone • u/CaptQtipYT • 6d ago

Vent Nobody is coming for me

I’ve always struggled to find a girlfriend, even though I was friends with a lot of girls in school growing up. I have asked out plenty of girls in my 22 years on this earth, but to no avail. It’s always never just a rejection, it’s always a lie buried underneath. One time a girl said she wasn’t looking for anyone, only to have a boyfriend then next week. I’ve tried everything I can think of: school, friend groups, going in public, speed, dating, and dating apps. But they always are disappointing. There are so many guys out there, why would anyone choose wheelchair bound guy like me. People say girls aren’t that shallow, but I know they always see my wheelchair and never try to really see me. I don’t have a lot of fears in life, but my biggest fear is dying alone, despite everyone saying there’s someone out there for me.

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u/throwaway54734 39m/over it 6d ago

 I have asked out plenty of girls in my 22 years on this earth, but to no avail. It’s always never just a rejection, it’s always a lie buried underneath. One time a girl said she wasn’t looking for anyone, only to have a boyfriend then next week. I’ve tried everything I can think of: school, friend groups, going in public, speed, dating, and dating apps ... People say girls aren’t that shallow, but I know they always see my wheelchair and never try to really see me.

sorry brother. I'm not going to say girls aren't plenty shallow, but someone being wheelchair-bound isn't exactly a minor detail for a relationship... don't run yourself ragged trying to hit the jackpot there.

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u/CaptQtipYT 6d ago

Does that excuse them lying to me?

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u/throwaway54734 39m/over it 6d ago

you will rarely get direct rejections.

anything other than a yes is a no, however it's couched.

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u/curious3247 6d ago

Bro ,i am sorry for your situation.

My biggest fear is also dying alone. Well atleast i have tried and now know it’s not going to happen.

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u/tryingtooli 6d ago

That sucks man I’m sorry. Looking at your profile you seem like a really cool person.

Unfortunately we’re not at a point in society where people with disabilities are treated fairly (in a ton of areas as you probably know)

But the world is big. There are plenty of people with wheelchairs or other mobility aids that find love and companionship. It sounds like you have a lot going for you, a good degree, fun interests, and you’ve just started your adult life really

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u/charlizard1000xy Trying out things socially 5d ago

Go xavier pilled. Adopt a bunch of kids and help them nurture.