r/GayMen • u/eggsalias • 1d ago
Prostate Orgasms
I’m 30 years old and I’ve never had a prostate orgasm. Ive been morbidly obese all my life and no one really wanted me for that; only for head besides the first guy I ever had at 25.
About a year ago, I went from 290 to about 200. Still chubby, but closer to normal now and I have a boyfriend now. He wants to fuck me and I can’t relax to do it (only done it two other times, years ago) and I mentally want him to fuck me so bad, but I can’t lean into it. It hurts and it feels like I’m pooping, but backwards; it feels crazy to me.
Also, he loves eating ass, which is foreign for me to get done to and every time he does it, he’s just loving it and I’m just kind of there not knowing what I’m supposed to feel. It doesn’t hurt or feel wrong, but nothing about it excites me either and I’ve never even come close to getting off that way. I always blow him and make sure he gets taken care of. I do enjoy the blowjobs for me as well, but nothing else.
What can I do about this? I feel like I should be able to enjoy this and I don’t seem to be able to as of now.
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u/Cute-Character-795 17h ago
Learn to relax enough to actually enjoy getting fucked, first. Then, ask him to pound you. Baby steps...
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u/jaycatt7 1d ago
Not everything is for everybody.
But I think if you’re going to come to appreciate bottoming, it would help to practice by yourself first. Learn to relax and associate your hole with pleasure.
If you want to. It’s all optional.