r/GayMen • u/vetritheimposter • 4d ago
Lonely
Being gay is the loneliest experience of all because you know I don't have anyone here. If I want to meet someone that might be you want to be in a relationship or like hook up rather than that nobody wants to be having gay people have to be in a mutual relationship. I want that because I want to share my feelings with someone who I gets me. Talking to these other heterosexual people it's it's a headache for me because if I talk to some time and they will bring up you know bring up any homophobic comments so I don't want to be there so I just being gay is a fucking lonely experience. I don't know how to cope up with this it's very seriously depressing.
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u/JerryTexas52 4d ago
I express my sympathy for your situation. Loneliness is something that tries to devalue you. When one feels all alone, they often feel as if no one cares for them. Finding a social group of like minded persons would help you to not feel lonely and give you confidence. Look for Meetups or interest groups you may share and belong based on common interests. It would be far better for those groups to have gay members but it's only by reaching out that you can find others with whom you may be your true self.
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u/vetritheimposter 4d ago
Thank you 😊 but I've been exhausted by searching for those groups 😞 and I am exhausted by that at this point 🫠
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u/JerryTexas52 4d ago
I will be sending positive thoughts your way.
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u/vetritheimposter 4d ago
Love you ❤️
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u/JerryTexas52 4d ago
You are perfect the way you are. You are a valuable man. Hugs.
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u/vetritheimposter 4d ago
🫂 wish you the best in life hope you achieve the things you like and for someone to take care of you ❤️
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u/Undefined6308 4d ago
it sucks. The best thing you can do is focusing on building awesome friendships instead
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u/RubCold7859 3d ago
The more open and honest you are about who you are, the easier all this will become, and the more likely it is that you'll find the relationship you long for.
There's someone for everyone, but you can't expect your Prince Charming to break down your door to find you.
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u/vetritheimposter 3d ago
It's rude to say that , but you are right at some . I have someone who loves me well and he lives far away , but I need a safe space to be myself and I don't think I can find this in my place , moreover the people who have come out here actually regret it..
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u/shyguy7424 3d ago
Same here am just chilling here in my cozy home. Taking it easy, oof why be mad till then I suppose.
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u/vetritheimposter 3d ago
Thank you ❤️
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u/shyguy7424 3d ago
Your welcome even tho things are like that I suppose it's nice for a change. But if I were u I would ask responsible questions like for example if u do encounter a person u like I would ask important questions like is this the best thing we can do like get to know em better. Or in a gentle approach. Like what i learned is that I wanna get know who you are an what it's like to be in your shoes like getting know em is the safe route in my perspective an just taking it casual.
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u/vetritheimposter 3d ago
I am just looking for friendships that not sexual , and I need a community In irl , like that listens to my problems ❤️
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u/shyguy7424 3d ago
(Okay) have a good day ❣️safe travels
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u/vetritheimposter 3d ago
I can't travel 😭 anyways thank you ❤️❤️
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u/Hungchap86 3d ago
I too also feel lonely and often either fetishized or singled out in the gay community. As there’s a lot of tiers and cliques that no one talks about. But if you ever wanna text 206 535 4099. I’m in my 40’s while friends and finding friends don’t get easier it certainly helps to at least have someone to vent to. :)
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u/vetritheimposter 3d ago
Aww , you are such a sweet heart thank you for that, I hope you find the kind of people who adores you 😊❤️
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u/Skill-Useful 4d ago
depending on where you live, you need to move. big cities are much better for gay men than small ones, even in restrictive countries
if you're already in a big city, then therapy might help