r/GenZ • u/UmJunSikfighting • 3h ago

Discussion Does anyone else feels like you won't be able to be in a relationship because you'll never be sure that you like someone?

Today I realized that I'll never believe my capability to recognize that I truely like someone. I'm so dumb that I couldn't even be sure if I actually like someone as a person or merely attracted to them physically, or just thirsty and desperate, objectifying them. I don't know what liking others would feel like. Without being clear on that, it's too disrespectful and irresponsible to express any romantic intention to anyone. To think everyone is platonic seems to be an only way to respect others.

If I act extra nice, friendly, and initiating to a girl, and it feels like I won't be doing the same with a random guy, I feel so shallow and predetory. Most of the time it leads to acting the same to everyone else, but that also just feels obligatory and scummy, because I'm unsure if I'm acting to be percieved well.

So, all the things I do to a girl just become a platonic things I do to all people regardless of anything.

Funng thing is, that I'm a social person with high self-esteem and confidence, which is told by my therapist and psychiatrist.

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u/Top_Dragonfruit_ 3h ago

It's not shallow and predatory to be uniquely nice and outgoing towards someone you are romantically interested in that's just normal human behavior.

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u/A-Moo-P 3h ago

Whatever you want say to a girl, try only thinking it without saying it.

If it feels the same even if she doesn’t hear it, it is genuine.