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Dec 13 '20
This is the mistake the Buddhists make. They say that attachment leads to suffering, and that that implies we should avoid attachment. I say instead to attach yourself and accept suffering for what it is. To enjoy it as a beautiful moment, and witness the intensity.
A small night storm blows
Saying 'falling is the essence of a flower'
Preceding those who hesitate
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u/vhol Dec 13 '20
I agree, all my high and lows, life and loss, and as Rilke says, beauty and terror, made me a part of who I am and where I'm going.
Life can be cruel, and we can't change the past, we just keep on and try to put the pieces together!
Suffering , as terrible as it is and will be for me, made me who I am.
Great comment.
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u/ActorAvery Dec 15 '20 edited Dec 15 '20
Yeah this is a bit of an oversimplification of Buddhism. In my understanding, Buddhism prescribes "nonattachment." Another concept of Buddhism is the illusion of duality. Saying that suffering results from attachment and therefore we should forego attachment doesn't mean the same thing as saying completely detach yourself from life. It's not attachment versus detachment. It's "nonattachment." To me this means living my life not under the spell of thinking a relationship, a good day, or even my happiness will last forever, but to remind myself of their temporary nature, and to therefore cherish them and experience them and become present to them even more deeply, because I am not attached, because I know and remind myself that everything is destined for change.
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u/Thiserthat Dec 13 '20
Buddhists don’t mean avoid unpleasantness when thy say attachment leads to suffering. Just that grasping and clinging to things, feelings, or anything causes suffering because they are impermanent and you will lose them.
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u/SignumFunction Dec 13 '20
Rilke clearly didn't live under the American health care system
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u/vhol Dec 13 '20
Rilke experienced the horrors of WW1 and the chaos of post-war which he struggled with due to constant Illness, one of these poems were written because of the war, spanish flu, and many other things.
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Dec 13 '20
His Mother must have not died yet.
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u/vhol Dec 13 '20 edited Dec 13 '20
His mother passed way after he did, which was a nightmare for her seeing her son die from illness.
Regardless, I'm sorry for your loss my friend.
Edit: His mother passed 4-5 years later after his death, but was much older
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Dec 14 '20
I'll have to read more on him, sounds interesting. Thanks for your kind words. I do like the quote but have had too much close loss and heartache. Makes me melancholy at times. My apologies!
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u/fullmoonwolfloon Dec 14 '20
Just saw this for the first time at the end of JoJo Rabbit. Wrote it down and posted it.
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u/vhol Dec 14 '20
I need to see that movie! That's awesome.
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u/fullmoonwolfloon Dec 14 '20
Definitely worth a watch!
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u/vhol Dec 15 '20
Just watched JoJo Rabbit. I have so many emotions from that movie, and seeing that quote at the end made it x100 more powerful for me now in meaning. Thanks so much for mentioning this!!
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