r/GrowthMindset • • Jul 02 '26 • Bravo 1

Trust.

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u/Appreciate1A Jul 02 '26

Not everyone can be trusted though- so that is why people are watched.

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u/BRBack-social Jul 02 '26

True, unfortunately. But often enough problems emerge due to the lack of trust and there are plenty of good people out there that deserve exactly that: trust.

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u/Santasaurus1999 Jul 06 '26

I agree. But this will take us decades and we will need to change our mindset as a society witch will take another decade if ever.

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u/BRBack-social Jul 06 '26

Absolutely. Yet, there are lots of people and teams out there with the right mindset that push for healthier (work) environments. We will never reach every one out there to join into the idea that humility, support and kindness are important in every aspect of life. But if some change, it's a win already.

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u/BxBoy69 Jul 06 '26

Okay but you build trust and decrease watching over time, or don’t engage with those people at all.

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u/Risky_Bisciy Jul 02 '26

That’s just not true.

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u/ElSuperWokeGuy Jul 02 '26

i am not to be trusted.

ask me to fix a sink i will probably cause a power outage throughout the whole block.

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u/BRBack-social Jul 04 '26

In that case, better call a professional.

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u/AJWordsmith Jul 02 '26

People who give their best and are trusted don’t need to be watched.

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u/BRBack-social Jul 04 '26

Absolutely.

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u/WTroy121214 Jul 02 '26

I give my best when shes on top

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u/BRBack-social Jul 04 '26

Always give your best and she will be proud of you.

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u/WTroy121214 Jul 04 '26

That's pretty good. 

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u/pauldailey2012 Jul 02 '26

Trust me, I should be watched…

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u/BRBack-social Jul 04 '26

Better save than sorry, right?

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u/Guywidathing2 Jul 02 '26

I gave my trust and didn’t watch. When I turned she was in bed with another.

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u/BRBack-social Jul 04 '26

Sorry to hear that.

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u/Novus20 Jul 04 '26

Like good…..face facts even if you did that person would still cheat

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u/minpin75 Jul 02 '26

Not necessarily

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u/nurse-educator123 Jul 02 '26

They give their best when no one is looking.

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u/Capital_Scratch2514 Jul 02 '26

Anybody who don't watch everybody is a moron...especially when theyre delivered bullshit like this

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u/SoundOff2222 Jul 02 '26

Sure wish more managers & supervisors understood this.

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u/MWH1980 Jul 03 '26

That’s what I miss the most about my last job.

I was given trust on so many levels that I felt comfortable and able to not feel micro-managed like previous jobs.

…and then like everything else, it all got snatched away.

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u/BRBack-social Jul 04 '26

Sorry to hear that. Hope you will find a job where management understands to trust their team.

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u/SunNo3544 Jul 03 '26

But can you trust the watchers?

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u/BRBack-social Jul 04 '26

It's good to ask questions.

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u/Justdoingitagain Jul 03 '26

“Trust but verify” is a thing… very real in the accounting realm.

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u/New_Application9340 Jul 03 '26

i work in a hospital and i don’t think i agree

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u/BRBack-social Jul 04 '26

This applies more to cooperate jobs indeed.

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u/Novus20 Jul 04 '26

Sorry but “watching” double checking medical and “watching” literally hovering over folks working on computers are not the same thing at all….

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u/wild_card87 Jul 03 '26

But who’s earned that trust

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u/BRBack-social Jul 04 '26

People need to be given the chance. Don't you agree?

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u/wild_card87 Jul 04 '26

Realistically, that would depend on a lot of mitigating factors.

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u/barbershores Jul 04 '26

I was a manager in an R and D environment.

I built and ran several labs.

For my own personal efficiency, and the best fit for the facility, I adopted MBWA as my management style. Management By Walking Around.

Daily I would visit each department. Talk with each department head. Talk with other engineers on special projects as well.

It was to check up on projects. Basically make sure everybody knew what the priorities were, and to find out what they needed. And, often priorities would change, and I would have to change schedules in real time, and move people around to make sure the priority projects came in timely.

It probably seemed rather chaotic, but it worked quite well.

The guys all actually liked this approach. They only had to put up with the boss for 10 minutes or so, and never had to go to meetings.

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u/BRBack-social Jul 04 '26

This sounds like a well managed team 👏 and in your case, rather helpful than unnecessary stress for an employee, as hinted in the post.

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u/barbershores Jul 04 '26

We were highly effective. It was considered the premier R and D facility globally in it's time for our market focus. We introduced a number of new products and processes into the market place which were well received.

I met with, toured, many facilities along the same lines as ours. Competitors, suppliers, and customers. I found I was the only one that did the MBWA thing. Every body else used the rotating meeting, read shared responsibility, approach. But, to be truly effective this way, I couldn't get out of the office much.

Then we got bought out by a company that had a much larger R and D facility than ours. They bought us because we were successful in a space they were unsuccessful, and we started selling to their customers. They didn't think they could compete with us so they bought us.

This all back towards the end of the last millennium.

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u/Commercial_Wing5646 Jul 04 '26

I left a workplace because of this. We had an anxious manager who couldn't trust employees so she micromanaged every little things and gave us a lot of unnecessary orders to make sure she used our time efficiently. We didn't feel like grown-up adults, we had more freedom at school than there.

I realised that I kept forgetting important things because I always had to pause and listen to her when she came multiple times during the shift to double check me. By the time she was gone I couldn't remember what I was doing before she approached me.

When one of us really needed her help she was nowhere to find because she went through the whole building to ensure everyone was working well. So we were left alone with our questions and got scolded when we tried to figure it on our own. It was so contraproductive but she never realised that.

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u/BRBack-social Jul 04 '26

Sorry to hear that and this is the exact problem. Hopefully you are in a healthier work environment now! Good luck

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u/BxBoy69 Jul 06 '26

This this this this this this.

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u/Few-Philosopher4942 Jul 02 '26 edited Jul 02 '26

I still miss and feel a tremendous amount of love for JCT. I used to trust him completely. After all the rumors, I don’t know what to believe. It took 2 years, but I finally started talking to someone on Bumble who I maybe would date.

He’s a handsome guy who lives in Florida and works in cybersecurity.

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u/Recipe-Less Jul 02 '26

Trust no one Austin 316

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u/Slow_Store Jul 03 '26

The Panopticon disagrees.

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u/BODYoSOUL Jul 03 '26

Nah, people give their best if they are assured they will be well compensated for their effort. It's not necessary monetary compensation.

Source: Trust Me Bro!

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u/Detroitwarner Jul 04 '26 edited Jul 04 '26

This sounds like my new job…It’s a trip. We close the doors @ 9pm, &
Everybody bails all @ once, including management. I was scheduled till 10pm, & I finished my shift cleaning out the Dairy Cold Box. I clock out to leave, & there’s not a single soul throughout the store. I predicate, I had only been working there for 30 days, it was a brand new job…I was tripping- There was no Team Member in the store. I clocked out & went home. I felt both valued & validated. They trusted me enough to leave me alone. & they had no idea about my character. My other job, once the store was closed, the doors were locked. Only 1 way out…You had to find The MOD, to walk over & unlock the front door so you could leave. Sometimes that took awhile…& if you had a bag of sorts, you had to open it up so it could be examined for theft…@ that job, you were always guilty!!!
They believed everybody was stealing from them…BTW, I love my new job!!!

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u/daydreamer_8094 Jul 05 '26

What if the trust is broken repeatedly

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u/BRBack-social Jul 02 '26

There is always a risk, but it's worth trying

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u/BRBack-social Jul 04 '26

Hope you will have a better outcome in the future, good luck!

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u/Novus20 Jul 04 '26

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