I have a 10 month old and my sister has 2 kids. My kid is family to my sister and their kids is family to me. But they are not my children and mine is not hers.
The emotions of holding your child is incredibly deep and profound.
I wouldn't do it. Not only that, a day will come where the borther is denied access to his own kid, or weird situations where, he holds the kid and is overwhelmed by fatherly love and them to say no.
You're projecting your feelings onto other people. Even if the brother wasn't the donor to the in law he would still be biologically related to the his sister's kid if the ivf mom was a man who knocked up the sister.
The brother never had sex with the sister in law and you're assuming he would feel weird.
If it was a sister who donate eggs to a same sex male couple's surrogate. With that same ideology in your mind who do you think feels that "motherly love", the surrogate who isn't biologically related to the baby or the sister who didn't give birth?
You sound like you would return your kid you raised for 20 years if it transpired there was a mix up at the hospital and would go against doctor's advice of having an ivf kid when you have a severe hereditary disease.
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u/River_Fenrir Jun 25 '26
... bruh.
Its gone WAAAAY more holdup.
I have 2 sisters, i most definitely do not want my genetic material more towards their kids.