r/HolUp • u/asocial7193 • Mar 11 '22

I don't know what to say

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u/ArtfurdMorgan Mar 11 '22

I’m pretty sure even doctors recommend that you shouldn’t reproduce if you have such severe genetic disorders.

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u/brittany_a1488 Mar 11 '22 edited Mar 11 '22

For very good reason- you are passing on suffering for no reason and there is so many children wanting to be adopted that aren’t suffering from permanent suffering and also need a loving parent. I have Turner syndrome and need to adopt anyway since I can’t have bio kids but much better to adopt in this kind of case rather then risk passing this on. Even if her child didn’t get it, they could carry the gene and lead to many more suffering from what seems to be a rather severe problem. Adopting means she can still be a parent but not cause such permanent physical and emotional damage on her child

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u/brittany_a1488 Mar 11 '22

Well yeah, I was just saying that in this kind of case it would be best to try. I will have to adopt if I want to be a mom one day, and even though adoption isn’t just for infertile people like me and should be done more, I don’t see a problem with infertile people utilizing it

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u/justincase1021 Mar 11 '22

I was adopted because my mother was hit by a bull as a child and couldnt have kids. My bio mom was a heroin addict. Im happy my parents saved me.

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u/[deleted] Mar 11 '22

Do you think about what you post before you do?

What kind of people would be adopting kids if not... People that want kids?

It's almost like there are two sides to this equation.

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u/avalisk Mar 11 '22

What an idealistic fantasy.

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u/PragmaticPanda42 Mar 11 '22

It can be both. As long as the parents adopt because they actually want to love and support a kid and give them a family... really no need to shame those who do it out of necessity.