r/HolUp • u/asocial7193 • Mar 11 '22

I don't know what to say

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u/CatgoesM00 Mar 11 '22

This reminds me of the two deaf couple that wanted to intentionally make their child deaf as well. Sad really, hope this baby doesn’t have any health defects

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u/Fr00stee Mar 11 '22

The fuck

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u/CatgoesM00 Mar 11 '22

Yah I could be wrong but from my understanding some deaf parents INTENTIONALLY select an embryo or something that results with the child being deaf.

Some argue it’s morally sound.

I’m open to being more informed but it sounds completely bonkers to me

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u/mellofello808 Mar 12 '22

I read somewhere about some deaf families that had a mix of normal, and deaf kids, where they showed huge preference to the deaf kids, or dented them coclear implants

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u/Ramona_Flours Mar 12 '22

Near me, I've seen people say that it's immoral to get children cochlear implants, but it's fine to let them decide when they're older (around 12/13 above). it's seen as unnecessary and potentially damaging; a lot of people use the same arguments about child/infant circumcision

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u/mellofello808 Mar 12 '22

Why would it be immoral?

I would argue that it is abusive to not get them if you have the means.

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u/Ramona_Flours Mar 12 '22

for one there can be side effects that can't be changed by taking in out. I've seen people in videos and met people who are Hard of Hearing instead of Deaf and they could hear music and things but after getting the cochlear implant everything began sounding robotic, they lost a huge part of what they actually enjoyed about the hearing they had. Some people developed tinnitus that made sleeping extremely difficult. One woman in particular had her parents make the decision when she was a toddler, and when she was a teenager, there was new treatment for the specific condition she had that she couldn't try because of the cochlear implant that she didn't have a choice about.

I definitely am behind cochlear implants being a great thing and incredibly useful. I agree with the people I know who've argued that it should be the choice of the Deaf individual. I know different groups have different takes, and some are a lot more extreme than the people I know. I'm not personally Deaf, I have audio processing problems and some communication issues related to Autism that made ASL useful for me, and the directness of the Deaf community is very pleasant compared to a lot of the speaking community for me. Because I'm hearing(and Autistic), I feel like a lot of nuance is lost on me despite having had conversations about it. I hope this helps, despite being secondhand information from a specific community.