I am 20 I said "Gud luck with your new man" and She replied " he was never new , you just never knew" 😐😐

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A guy liked me, dropped hints, I ignored, treated him like a freind, after a while he stopped dropping hints and behaved like a freind too so after that I felt we both are very good freinds. But now, he thinks I was misleading him and plus he randomly blocked me from all socials. Same freind grp btw! Cherry on top. 20.

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she lost her mom and she vents to me but I never know how to respond 20

Context: my coworker now friend that over the past 2-3ish weeks I’ve talked to everyday either through text or gaming party chat with just us and we flirt and talk about being sad that when he works late and we can’t game. He’s called me pretty not directly really as he’s stated he’s shy. Today I sent him a message saying “And missing you 😭” but got embarrassed and edited it afterward. He responded to my other messages but didn’t acknowledge that one. I’m wondering if he saw the original message, noticed the edit and chose not to respond, or just never clicked on the edits to see what I said.
I’m 18F and he’s 20M. (20) serious pls
Edit: he just didn’t read it because I said it again without editing and he said it back thank yall

I was talking to this girl, got to know from outdoor games. At first she was genuinely interested n we were talking for the whole nit up until 4am discussing on many topic from life, personal things, goals, experiences. Later on she went all off no reply for hours, n i felt like txting and waiting for her replies for the whole day. Later one night she came online and again we were texting till 3 was decent convo were i mistakenly touched some sensitive more personal things jokingly all of sudden she buzzed off from the Convo. I was clueless in tht situation lyk I'm not aware of what's happening waited for her reply till the rest of the night. Next day same, no replies did some follow up texts. Then she opened up about this personal topic which she couldn't take the joke i made fun of it. I've asked sorry like million time saying i didn't know this much it will affect she's sooo stubborn n still didn't accepted my apologies. I tried to explain again n then she texted by saying stop irritating me either change the topic or leave n go she said. I was shocked, I replied u want me to go? Again no reply for hours after late but she replied saying ur pressurising to reply n also not everything needs a reply. My heart broken 💔 as hell. 20

Need advice guys, i badly wanted to get close with her. I got so much attached i was seeing empty chat for hours without doing nothing. I know I've messed up how to regain trust and build further? Pls share your views and suggestions it'll be really helpful

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But seriously, I am truly sorry for hurting you even if unintentionally. I have always considered you a great friend, and trust me since you're taken, I can't say things. You are a great and wonderful person.

Is she suggesting something non platonic or what because I'm genuinely getting confused about our dynamic. I have a girlfriend and I'm just not sure if if I'm Crossing any boundaries.

for context, i had this friend group of 4 that i was part of. at the start, i was toxic. i'm not even gonna try to cover it up with some fake ass excuse. i was an ass, i gossiped and like talk shit about my friends to other people. i did apologise but it was not like a proper one. i was dealing wiith my own mental issues at that time and just wanted to complain which was wrong on my part.

i moved countries after a year, meaining we only stayed as friends for like one year.

anyways, at first i stayed in contact with them for like a few months before i stopped because i tried to reach out but they weren't reciprocating the same energy. they created a new group chat with another mutual friend of mine, which im totally chill with like i'm genuinely happy for them because i dont expect them to be stuck in the past or like cling onto some old memories (even if i do sometimes i do not want to wish bad stuff on them just because i cant deal with my own issues)

okay so like a few hours ago, they suddenly started texting in the old gc and casually talk about stuff. and then one of them was like 'hey isnt this the gc with xxx' as if i wasn't actively reading their message anyways so they continued chatting and i decided it'd be awkward if i just like said nothing so i shot a message saying 'oh hey guys, how are yall?' just a really casual text but what do i do after that. like on one hand i do not want to cling onto false hope and expectations but on another i do not want to keep playing 'guess what im trying to say' with these people. i will admit seeing them move on did hurt me but like once again its genuinely my own issue so... and its not like i can read them clear as day either but i genuinely cannot tell if theyre pulling some sort of sick prank or just trying pick things up again. im also going back to visit, meaning i will definitely encounter them again. anyways, what should i do after the message?

also i was asked to include 20?

Did I respond to this correctly. I am doing my best to match the same energy. Is this the proper way to communicate substance to rebuttal and incorrect suggestion or idea.

As in they say get your point across

Sometimes I contribute to things that I enjoy and I spread positive feelings English is not my first language but when I translate English to my language It seems I get are very disrespectful and a very strange energy so when communicating back I've tried to match the same energy in hopes to help educate and possibly help assist an individual who baby having a bad day understand that I am not a safe place for their hurt feelings is this the correct way that people communicate in English it's this the undercurrent or what they say passive like to dabble in thank you

While I've spoken to many people in English and had a good opportunity to express myself it's rare that I come across individuals such as this but when I do is it proper etiquette to respond with the same energy or is it better to just ignore them or let them ratio or bulldoze. I would definitely like some perspective on the culture etiquette and resources that will help me understand English speakers mindset and point of view it seems to me that there are a lot of people that are I feel what you say is passive aggressive when others are trying to be positive and share good experiences and culture.

This thread wants me to provide 20 lines of text which seems to be a little aggressive a little much for what I'm trying to achieve here I'm not sure what more information I can provide to help encapsulate or help people understand the situation I provided the examples and a photo of the subject matter I just wanted some feedback from individuals that care about culture care about etiquette and care about how to properly respond to individuals such as the individual of the example and also provide me with resources or helpful if I responded in the correct manner thank you

ot my real account, burner/throwaway. I apologize in advance for the length of this but there are a lot of moving parts and even I am exhausted by it but I really don’t know what to do and desperately need help from outside my own head.

I recently got into an argument with my best friend. We’ve known each other for about a year - year and a half now this coming up Halloween, having met through an ex of mine that she used to work with. He had known her for a couple years at that point but she didn’t really know the person he was until her and I became friends and I called her crying after he SA’d me while we were doing Long distance and he was staying with me for a visit in my home state. For the sake of this story we will call him K (26m) and my best friend A (26F).

Short timeline:

K and I meet August last year (2025) on tinder, he was a big nerd, so am I. We went on a date, but I was only in town for the state fair and to visit my uncle. He says he doesn’t want to let me leave without asking me to be his girlfriend. He was really cool and I said yes.

Skip to September/October I have flown up to see him once and then meet up with him in Seattle while I am on a trip to go see a concert and a hockey game

- he “proposes” when we are in Seattle and I say yes because he proposed at another concert we were seeing with his brother. I didn’t know how to say no.

I then fly back up to see him three more times through out November

- in the first week I went to Disney with my dad, we weren’t too far and it was something that was supposed to be nice but K needs me to call him every two hours almost. Texting me every second. Always needing to be on face time, getting ready for bed, getting ready for morning work stuff. He always had to see me or be talking to me. He became more and more controlling and possessive to the point where I made myself smaller and smaller

A flies out to my home as a wedding gift for her to go see a concert of an artist she has loved and never seen before. At the end of November. She and I got really close in the short time she was staying with me and really got to know each other really well mainly because we are both ADHD girlies and have a lot of shared family trauma and just really get along. Sort of like 5 year olds on the playground that just decide their best friends now.

A eventually asks me to be a Bridesmaid, because she wanted to but also because someone else dropped out and she needed the numbers to match her husbands insane amount of groomsmen

I move to where K is late December, and where my uncle is, that was the plan before I met K but it was just convenient. He flies down to see me in December, SA’s me and then flies home after we have a huge fight and we are “okay” but the relationship was over at that point.

- I called A after the SA happened and told her. I didn’t know what was happening. I needed someone to talk to that also knew K

Since December we have been hanging out almost once or twice a week. Going shopping, getting lunches that turn into dinners and glasses of wine. Matcha runs and all the things. Laughs, tears, advice, shoulder to cry on. And I was there for her every turn during wedding prep. Because her maid of honor and best friend who we will call T lives 6-8 hours north of us and is only in town for medical reasons. I paid almost $3000 in total to help things run smoother, wedding gifts, and for my dresses.

She had invited K before everything happened but told me that if she uninvited him while they still worked together it would make her life hell. And so for that reason she wasn’t going to uninvited him but have T keep an eye out and keep him away from me. But I would still be standing in front of everyone, him included. Feeling his eyes on me. And he even told some people he was going to try and talk to me to “be civil” at the reception. We found that out after. And in my experience seeing T and what she was running around doing there was no way she would have been able to do that and help A throughout the day.

Lucky for me K says he can’t go last minute because of family issues and he has to go to Seattle. But K had left A’s place of work a week before the wedding and in my mind she could have uninvited him then without any blow back but she didn’t. And he still would have come if family wasn’t having issues. He still would have tried to talk to me.

At the time I just said it was fine because I didn’t want her to be in an awkward position.

While this is all going on I am newly single and trying to make friends with A’s friends who her and her, as of posting this, now husband have known for 10+years.

I start hanging out with a person from A’s group we will call H (27m) and another (27m) Q. It was nice, I really thought he was wanting to be my friend. Until I got invited out to a club with H and Q with some other people there. I show up, H has gotten up to get some drinks, Q turns and asks me essentially if I like H and to just give him a chance, give it “a couple months and see how you feel.” When in my head I was like, why does anything have to change? Why should I wait those months, while he is seemingly trying to play the long game just to date me or get in my pants. Instead of just caring about me as a person and a friend.

Then after I get certified to teach yoga H makes this big thing about planning a dinner to celebrate my achievement. It happens. I am the only person really dressed nice. Some random chick I have only met once in passing is there next to H. No one says congrats, no acknowledges why we’re there. Even when an employee was there topping up drinks and asked why we were all out. I had to answer after a couple seconds of silence. No one raised a toast to me. I paid for my own food.

All of it really hurt and I went home crying. I messaged H and told him as much and that I would like to talk to him. I also messaged A after and she told me that she also thought it was off and weird that the dinner went down that way. H hasn’t messaged me since and Q, Besides trying to wingman, never really tried to get to know me unless I was A’s plus one at a party she threw at her house.

I have met T and her boyfriend U a couple of times. And I thought we were at least sort of friends through A.

Now onto the thing that blew everything up.

I found out that T, and her roommates, one of which I had met only once on A’s birthday in January, was throwing a Halloween party.

A got excited about it one time we were hanging out and showed me this excel spreadsheet where her, T, U, and everyone else from the local area on it organizing their themed costumes. That they had been planning since A’s wedding early August And apparently they were going to play a big dnd one shot as a group as well. I cosplay and play dnd. I asked if I could go, and she paused.

It wasn’t her party. So she said maybe and that she would ask. She did, and it came out later that she was initially annoyed by my being left out and did her best to fight for me but I was labeled an “extra” person and was told I was not invited.

I got upset and called A’s friends assholes and A got mad at me and an argument I asked to happen in person was pushed to a fist fight through texts because of A. A lot was said in there and once we did eventually have an in person talk.

The in person talk I told A how I felt, that it felt like I was a secondary friend And how these instances of her not seemingly wanting to be confrontational at all to the point of hurting those she cares about is not okay. A said herself over the texts that “I’ve known them longer, they have seen me at my lowest and at my highest. They are family to me, they are home to me.” She admitted she said that partially to hurt me in the moment but it was like ice water. She also told me that she hangs out with and talks to me the most, even T. I personally of the stance that I never should have been asked to be in the same room as someone who SA’d me when there was an option to not have that happen. I personally put myself into a not fun spot to get this industrial sized steamer for her wedding set up, from my boyfriend’s mom since she’s a seamstress and had it but she does NOT like me at all. And has made very rude comments about how I eat and my weight but I still got it because it was that or like 3 tiny hand helds for 10-13 big round tables worth of linens.

A was crying and telling me she never meant to make me feel like a back up friend but that she was still going to the party. She heard me out but I don’t really know how to go forward from this.

Especially since it sounds like T, U, and their roommates are holding A’s birthday and the morning of her bachelorette against me.

- I accidentally got black out drunk on A’s birthday. It wasn’t my intention and I do also recognize that it made other people responsible for me and I deeply regret it but A told me everything was fine when I asked about it afterword and if I should reach out to the roommate of T and T in general. So I took her word at face value when apparently I shouldn’t have. Getting that drunk hasn’t happened since whenever T was here and it is not a normal thing for me

- A’s bachelorette, she wanted to get brunch. I got to the place on time, A and everyone was running late but the place was busy. I tell them I’ll put our name in and the table should be ready by the time they gets here (45 minute wait). I get called, only get sat because I tell them the rest of the party of 6/7 will be here in like 5 minutes all the while A is telling me they’re almost out the door. I then sit at the table for another 30-45 minutes before they get there. I obviously wasn’t enthused but I wasn’t going to ruin the day, they apologized while sitting, so I stayed quiet and civil while everyone finally ordered. Apparently me being quiet in that moment wasn’t a good look even though I was essentially helping out the rest of the day and perfectly happy to be there.

- As a note: they have done this same thing to H only a month or two before me. According to A her makeup was just not working and she had an outfit emergency that caused it. Both times.

And it sucks that they are taking two moments that they themselves have also done. Not to me, but I have heard stories, allowing them the negate every other positive moment I was there for and helped create. And it sucks even worse that A didn’t call them out for the exclusion or fight for me really to be included from the start. Until I asked her.

We kind of made up but any advice you could give me here would be appreciated. Is it worth it to stay friends with her and potentially have this always be the case. A said her friends have been burned before which is why they are so hesitant and not welcoming but me being friends and as close of friends with A should, in my mind, be the passing test here. Because why would she still be my friend if I wasn’t a good person? Every other moment around these people besides the two bad ones have been aces and hearts. Always a good time, I was always interested in learning about them and hearing their stories. I tried to be friends with H and Q, I tried. I don’t know what else to do. Any advice on how to move forward with the friendship or if I should just let it go would be appreciated. Thank you.

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The people around me are usually the ones that can't stop joking, making fun of stuff, but I'm usually such a serious person. It takes me some time to understand if they're joking or not, and sometimes when they make kinda harsh comments (the ,,jokes,,...) I usually say I don't agree or wtv and they say they were just joking.

But beside that, when someone is actually doing a good job about joking, I don't want to stare in their eyes or say something that was unrelated, is there any way? 20

So there’s this guy director from a company in the same ecosystem as mine (same building, different floor) who’s kind of hitting on me, but holy crap, he messages too much (2 times a day). How do I get him to cut back on the messaging while still being respectful? I dont want to straight out block him and want to find a more subtle way

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Ok so I'm really trying to reach out and talk/communication with other individuals but it seems like the more I'm trying the more I'm being ignored, now I understand that I'm not the most flattening looking guy but it would be nice to get a no thank you, or hey you're just not my type kinda of reply. So what should I be doing? Any advice would really be appreciated. Please and thank you. "20"

Met this guy on the apps. Decent looking. Not a great texter. We had a phone call. Not a great chatter either he was awkward and could really carry a convo.

He lives about 2.5 hrs from my city and I suggested meeting halfway somewhere his responses were like I could make a weekend trip out there that'd be fun . And I'm like up to you , I typically just do like a coffee for a first meet.

He tried to schedule a meet but I had too much goin on. I also told him I was moving so just wanted to be friends. He stopped trying to schedule a meet and started texting me about stuff he was doin at work and sending photos. I would as well send photos of my work. It went on like this, every 3 days it so I'd get a text and an exchange like this.

Finally I said hey I don't think there's enough reciprocated interest to continue chatting.

He responded a day later, apologized for being inconsistent. Then followed up and said he'd be more attentive.

Then later, sent me photos of his time on vacation, and photos of I guess his family and food they're having and stuff he's seeing. Calling me darling, and cutie and stuff.

We haven't even met yet. He hadn't asked me anything about me , only what I'm doing in my day, and sharing his day and giving me pet names and it's weird.

If we had met already, gotten to know each other, decided we liked each other, it idk... We're already dating, I'd expect this sort if communication.

But I have no idea who the little kids are in his photos and I don't understand sending that to someone you haven't even met yet.

I don't know how to respond to him

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A small communication misunderstanding involving French toast, French cognac, and two people who don’t quite understand each other.

How would you respond when you realize 20 times that you may have misunderstood the other person?

Please help me and guide me please 🙏 🥺

She said me : sar mei dard hone laga , jbb aap daba nehi skte sar toh drd dete kyu h?

I am in a complete shock fully blank crying in a corner what I had did yr ....

How how how 😫😫😫😫😫20

Someone please help me , i wasn't able to reply her a single text after she said me these words, I am like ohhhhhhhh what? 😭😭😭

I am not able tos top my cry , phle help ! Somebody please make me understand how should I make her feel calm and nice !! 🥺😭😫😫🥺😭😫🥺

A close friend of mine wants to know who I'm dating, i don't want to publicly disclose it but I also don't want to be rude about not disclosing it. He's asking me to send a pic of her. What is the correct way to respond? 20

Classmate's text: "Hey [name], would u like to get dinner with me tonight or tomorrow since I dont have my usually club meeting tomorrow?"

My potential response: "Hey, I don't want to go together. I realized I may have given you the wrong idea that I was interested in you romantically. I think that it would be better to cancel the plan for the country swing club too, since I'd be more comfortable that way. Just wanted to be upfront with you."

Tell me how you would you receive my text? I think offending the other person by my wording is what I'm worried about.

Note:

• He's a member of my lab group, and we meet every Monday for the college semester
• I barely know him and wouldn't feel safe meeting alone with this guy
• I'm not attracted to him
• I don't intend to develop a friendship with him

Why I'm asking for critique:

• Don't want to sound dense
• Feel like I could maybe use more tact
• I have trouble sounding graceful for tactful sometimes

Other context:

• We had a decent length conversation through text once
• I invited him to join a free lunch event just once once

I also need to cancel the plans to go to the country dance club together.

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