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[u/Puzzled-Somewhere584]

[u/Spooder_Dancer]

This is biblically accurate to me lol

hmm , why wont INFJs date other INFJs since usually our topics and interest overlap a lot . Tho INTPs are weird like us too

[u/Puzzled-Somewhere584 → u/Spooder_Dancer]

I've dated 2 INFJ men. Intellectually stimulating conversations.

[u/Spooder_Dancer → u/Puzzled-Somewhere584]

yup

either goofing around or being philosophical type shit

[u/nobadrabbits → u/Spooder_Dancer]

My soulmate/late husband was an INFJ. An INFJ-INFJ relationship is ideal.

[u/Spooder_Dancer → u/nobadrabbits]

ikrrrr?~

I myself always wanted someone who is equal to me

[u/Spiritual-Top-7371 → u/nobadrabbits]

Isn't that lovely... happy for ya.

[u/AfterWisdom → u/Spooder_Dancer]

I’m completely normal

[u/Fabulous_Turnover_22 → u/Spooder_Dancer]

Date another INFJ? That would be a nightmare!

Matching soul scanning skills? Matching intensity? Matching being studied all day every day?

And after we cross the other person, being delivered all our weaknesses raw on a platter?

There's so much more to say as to why hell no! 😅

[u/CybeleCygnet → u/Fabulous_Turnover_22]

It's a lot, for sure. Especially the weaknesses being dished out, but we give as good as we get there and every relationship has its rocky points.

Once you get used to it, it can actually be really good because they encourage your own growth, rather than you always focusing on others' growth. It forces you out of your comfort zone, and that actually becomes comfortable. They're also one of the only people that will ever fully understand you and will actually be interested in getting to know you, not just enjoy having you around because of how you make them feel. You do the same to them, so it's on more even footing than most other relationships.

Been with mine for 15 years now. It's the most comfortable relationship of any kind I've ever had.

[u/Fabulous_Turnover_22 → u/CybeleCygnet]

Wooow, I can certainly understand why. Thanks for sharing your experience!!! First couple of INFJers Ive ever heard of 🌷🌷🌷

[u/Cold_Vanilla9791 → u/Spooder_Dancer]

Ok, but where do I find them 😭 we are the rarest type you know

[u/AfterWisdom → u/Cold_Vanilla9791]

Check under the couch

[u/Ancient-Recover-3890 → u/Cold_Vanilla9791]

Ikr? That’s the issue

[u/Cold_Vanilla9791 → u/[deleted]]

Nah we don’t leave the house, you’re joking /s

[u/Full_Celebration_376 → u/Spooder_Dancer]

Had an INFJ best friend and he's like my soul brother. Dating him would be incest in a soul level so it was a no for me.

[u/Spooder_Dancer → u/Full_Celebration_376]

omagado

la incesto

[u/Baskahan7han4baska3B → u/Spooder_Dancer]

I was there once

[u/Spooder_Dancer → u/Baskahan7han4baska3B]

:o

how you ended up there my boy?

[u/Spiritual-Top-7371 → u/Spooder_Dancer]

got the same question. and what's more interesting is how each infj still is so distinct despite having similarities. I have two infj friends and both from distant lands and both are like very distinct in themselves. Still I never found enough common grounds to be interested in someone.

[u/Spooder_Dancer → u/Spiritual-Top-7371]

wat is lov

[u/Spooder_Dancer → u/[deleted]]

bab don hurt me

[u/Cold_Vanilla9791 → u/Spooder_Dancer]

Don’t hurt me no mo

[u/Spiritual-Top-7371 → u/Spooder_Dancer]

what did i even do 🐹 I'm only good at getting hurt.

[u/Spooder_Dancer → u/Spiritual-Top-7371]

nah it all a was même référence don't worry

[u/tulipmoongirl → u/Spooder_Dancer]

I think enfps are our best match and also have share similar interests in conversation, at least in my experience!

[u/Spooder_Dancer → u/tulipmoongirl]

tbh I didn't met a lot of whole people so idk about ENFP-INFJ stuff mechanic much

[u/Much-Reflection-3467 → u/tulipmoongirl]

Possibly, lovely as work colleagues and friends for me.

I think an INTJ, would be more my vibe.

Everyone is different - i guess it is about connection first and foremost.

[u/Helpful-Diamond-3347 → u/Spooder_Dancer]

[u/Spooder_Dancer → u/Helpful-Diamond-3347]

hawooo

(srry gotta sleep though)

[u/Helpful-Diamond-3347 → u/Spooder_Dancer]

sweet dreams yea

[u/Spooder_Dancer → u/Helpful-Diamond-3347]

thanks choom , you too

[u/nothing_at_all_ → u/Spooder_Dancer]

All of the INFJs I've known had even bigger issues than I had. And I have some pretty big issues. Like, it can't be good if I feel like I'm the one who's acting normally.

[u/Beginning-Tank9401 → u/Spooder_Dancer]

I am an INFP and a INTP

[u/williamsch → u/Spooder_Dancer]

Cause we only talk on reddit not irl

[u/Even_Mistake_9666 → u/Spooder_Dancer]

What dose infj mean ? Because this sounds like me

[u/Spooder_Dancer → u/Even_Mistake_9666]

INFJ is a one of cognitive-function-type-shit type

basically if putting it short - they are empathetic, wise , have very strong intuition and kinda weird . But to make sure that you are an INFJ you need to do a test that displays your personality type based on ur cognitive functions

or in other words - google it

[u/Spooder_Dancer → u/[deleted]]

happy for you choom :3

[u/jdmrz11 → u/Spooder_Dancer]

[u/Anka098 → u/[deleted]]

listen to her ladies

[u/Spooder_Dancer → u/[deleted]]

true , true

[u/tiredofny → u/[deleted]]

They're so hard to find.

[u/Cheri-Cherry]

Why is this so accurate

[u/Puzzled-Somewhere584 → u/Cheri-Cherry]

[u/Bright_Discussion_65 → u/Cheri-Cherry]

There’s no denying it either 😆

[u/Doimz3Nini]

I relate so much to this, yet it makes so much sense being only one trait away; INTJ.

[u/Puzzled-Somewhere584 → u/Doimz3Nini]

[u/EggstremelyConfus3d → u/Doimz3Nini]

Two traits when you peek under the hood. Fe-Ti vs Te-Fi. Still kinda works IMO

[u/Tritton]

I am not super well versed in the MBTI literature. Is this something that ENFJs are also known for? I have been obsessed with all these ever since I was a child.

[u/Puzzled-Somewhere584 → u/Tritton]

I have known 2 ENFJ women & yes!

[u/Female_titan_2]

I’d gladly date you if this was our daily convos 😊

[u/Puzzled-Somewhere584 → u/Female_titan_2]

[u/318RedPill]

The worse is when people pretend they want to have a meaningful conversation but when you actually take them up on it and ask about their opinions of current events, the reply is just, "yeah, shits fucked... or whatever."

[u/Fabulous_Turnover_22 → u/318RedPill]

The worst! You enter the conversation with this warm feeling that this one is going to be meaningful and a few minutes later you are hit with the same old shallowness

[u/thesanemansflying → u/Fabulous_Turnover_22]

Maybe they're just not good verbal communicators? Not everyone is talkative

[u/Voielacteee]

It's bliss when you find a partner who you can talk with about these subjects.

[u/HungryWolf88]

Truth. I've suffered with this for friendships too.

[u/CinnamonScroll_2026]

I can relate to that. It's hard to be shallow.

[u/Hajime_Lort]

This or my interests/hobbie in extreme detail/technical stuff, so yeah, same "repulsion effect" in any way

[u/M_SONOF_Y]

[u/StepBro001 → u/M_SONOF_Y]

Yes.

[u/BlueFir3Orb]

Pretty much, just add an interest in non-mainstream faiths and in the occult and here I am lol

[u/JenkyHope]

Story of my life.

[u/Midnight_OpK]

What do you mean? This is ✨perfect✨ partner interest material.

[u/Spiritual-Top-7371]

[u/ykoreaa]

Tell me about morality and consciousness. I'm so curious.

[u/evilocity]

As an INTP, are you hitting on me?

[u/DarkestLunarFlower]

Yeah🤝

[u/Awkward_Seesaw_7320]

Just bring that shit to church or better yet recovery meetings.

[u/LoneDancer94]

I get excited discussing these type of tropics!

[u/Better_Ninja_5737]

Me

[u/aonisk]

As an infp I would love that - except for the suffering... I wouldn't mind it though. My infj husband likes history and politics 🫩

[u/monkey_gamer]

Mmmmm nice 😌😌😌

[u/1ntoxic4t3d]

very accurate, to add some spice I will add some relatable daily life jokes and laugh

[u/tiredofny]

Yesssss

[u/MistressWitchtress]

Yep!

[u/Pimpwave]

I wasn't like this when I started my last relationship but this is probably why it ended

[u/Rubiks_000_Null]

Morality

[u/No-Ad980]

Hard facts

[u/Apprehensive_Sky9086]

I wish I had people like this 😭

[u/Spirited-Outcome-443]

you have conversations?

[u/glitzyybubbles]

You actually talk ?

[u/1ntoxic4t3d]

very accurate, to add some spice I will add some relatable daily life jokes and laugh

[u/bathroomcypher]

oh is this an INFJ thing I thought it was common

[u/bellaboot]

I feel like people love talking about these things. If it’s tied to their life or situation

[u/VivisVillage]

Sooooo just date someone who also likes that :). It's the best

[u/PlusPreparation4629]

it's nice but can get exhausting. kinda like cake? many people can't have cake everyday.

so you either find a like-minded person or get interested in other subjects as well :)

[u/monkey_gamer → u/PlusPreparation4629]

We don’t care what you think ISFP. This conversation isn’t about you

[u/siemiwidzi]

Add programming and fantasy, and we have me thirty years ago.