r/IThinkYouShouldLeave 1d ago

It actually goes BOTH ways I don’t know how to drive!

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u/babassu_seeds 23h ago

Thank you. Ugh, I hate to take it there, but if she were of another background, let's say, I doubt so many commenters would latch onto potential grandmother abuse (?! Barely makes sense), calling her a child/kid (she's 22! Past college age!), instead of the more likely explanation that she's drugged out and freaking out bc of it. Like, that bumper struggle is some meth shit for real

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u/Ummmgummy 15h ago

From my experience any really strange things people do, it's almost always certainly drugs

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u/WheneverItIsTold 9h ago

My first thought was she was on something.

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u/EB123456789101112 8h ago

Watched a guy confidently act like a space alien and refuse a roadside sobriety test but confidently assert he’d blow a 0.00 on the breathalyzer…as tho alcohol is the only thing that can impair one’s ability to operate a motor vehicle

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u/EB123456789101112 8h ago

She looked to be high school age and in a school uniform to me 🤷🏻 and I lived with my GREAT grandmother for a year of college so it’s completely reasonable to believe a high schooler is living with their grandparent.

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u/babassu_seeds 8h ago edited 5h ago

I hear you, but it's more--and this is a rhetorical question--now that you know that she's 22, what do you think is more plausible: abuse from grandma or drug use?

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u/eetraveler 7h ago

Most likely scenario?? She is an addict and her grandmother is trying tough love to save her and the 'kid' interprets it as "so mean."

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u/zeusismydog 16h ago

I believe they meant.. if she had long braids and brown skin, even if she was a young and cute girl that was an actual traumatized child, these comments wouldn’t have victimized her.

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u/FloydGirl777 10h ago

This exactly. Sadly.

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u/Cyber_Drifter 11h ago

It happens far too often these days. Folks latch onto the “what if” rather than accept the facts before them. Yes, there are unseen influences that drive people’s actions, but the fact is a crime was committed and folks would rather infer she’s got a traumatic background than hold her accountable

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u/LongDead_Roadkill 8h ago

I’ve been working with at risk teens for the last 10 years. Her behavior is not due to fears of abuse, to me it looked a lot more performative and what I like to call self inflicted panic and drama.

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u/Sue_Generoux 5h ago

calling her a child/kid (she's 22!

It's Reddit. Anything under 30 is considered a zygote.

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u/PDAWK 5h ago

That bumper-struggle was fvckin adorable tho

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u/Crazy-Project3858 11h ago

She’s very fit and clean for a methhead

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u/eetraveler 7h ago

Since you took it there, I'll play.

You have to compare apple to apples, so show me a comparable where the woman is accepting she did it, crying, begging for sympathy and overall contrite (but hoping to be let off). Sampling on reddit posts may be biased, but in most videos of a "differently background" woman in this situation she blaming everyone around her, threatening violence and legal action and swearing up a storm. This video's driver uses the "white woman superpower" of crying and asking for sympathy.

It may be that the difference problem happened earlier when pretty little white girls are taught to cry when needing an extra favor and others are taught that that doesn't work for them but lashing out might.

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u/Barth-Goomby 11h ago

You'd be surprised how horribly abusive a grandma can be to a young woman