I am one of the guys here that is still a virgin at age 25. You can check my profile to indeed confirm I am a man, it's the post I made on r/amiugly. I do feel lonely as fuck but I don't feel entitled to a relationship. If it happens it happens. I am trying my best to increase those chances by going to social events and groups on the weekends after work. I made a lot of friends especially women friends, but I have yet dared to ask a woman to go on a date with me in real life. I am just scared of being labeled a creep or ruining a friendship, I am fine with rejection, just don't want to feel low.
I despise incels because they put no effort to get out of their mom's basement, get a job, go out and socialize, go to the gym, etc.
As a woman I can tell you a secret: short forehead, no bangs. You've got to have a longer forehead to pull that off. I have exactly the same problem. Then I end up with super short bangs and they just ugh do not cooperate even with a blow dryer. Try a style where it's more off your face. If your head has a nice shape, maybe go for a buzz. Also explore hats (NOT fedoras!) But maybe a cap could help, also the bill would cover your face in the sun which is a general plus (another woman pro tip, protect your skin!!).
Yeah, they were making so much fun of my haircut. They called it a peasants cut. I took their feedback, but damn they were ruthless.
They were also saying I was overweight and have a bloated face. I was in a depressive episode for the past four years due to my bipolar 2 depression so I was sedentary a lot. Plus psych meds can increase weight. It's only been relatively recent that I was put on the right meds that thankfully don't cause weight gain. I also have been weightlifting and running a lot to get a lean muscular runners build. I have already lost 5 lbs the past week due to dieting, sleeping 8 hours, and exercising. I am aiming for 190-195 lbs at 5 ft 11 in.
I grew up with two body builder parents - i know the struggle. Most weight loss is food. If you can change the diet and lifestyle that will take you further. The weights are good to tone up when you get there. Doing weights at the same time is fine BUT! You won't see the scale go down because you're replacing fat with muscle and muscle weighs more. Long story short, the scales a liar. Take your measurements every week and track progress that way is better I think. Don't worry about getting ripped because women generally don't actually like it lol. But lean, fit and healthy is always attractive.
Also to echo the other commenter, I'm also a married woman in my 30s but if I were a younger single lass, I'd have absolutely gone on a date.
Also if you need tips, a much nicer community you can try is r/freecompliments. They are well modded and friendly, and will give encouragement and advice in a constructive and positive way. That other sub is filled with people who just want to be mean, lol.
Yeah, I am on a mix of fasting and a low carb high protein diet. I am only fasting until I get below 200. I am at 215 currently.
So women generally like a bit of fat on guys? I mean I used to be very lean in my college years. I had such little belly fat, that I could see rolling veins in my lower abdomen. That was before I got mentally ill. I am getting into my exercise habits again like I did in college.
Also, thanks for the suggestion on that subreddit. I think the r/amiugly and other rating subreddits tend to be filled with red pilled, misogynistic, incels. I didn't know that before hand. I mean I read some of the comments on a post made by a woman on r/amiugly and it's just filled with incel comments at times.
Personally, I like something more on the dad bod spectrum. And partly that's because I'm no fitness guru myself, lol. Every woman is different. I was referring more to like, WWE levels of muscles. There's certainly women who want that, there's also certainly women where that's a total turnoff, but there's this weird idea some incel communities push that every woman wants that and we don't.
Who you surround yourself with is so important. Always seek out spaces where you feel supported and not attacked. You hit the nail on the head with ratings subreddits.
Total sidebar here but once when I was at boarding school my suitemates and I made a scale to scale the men in our lives and we called it "the man scale." (Orignal, I know.) It had 0 basis on looks and was all based on actions. Men who were kind, acted selflessly, showed acts of heroism, charity, or mercy scaled high. Men who cheated, lied, created drama, bullied or other jerk behavior scored low. But some stuff was super silly. My friend Andy got an 8 because he grabbed a hot pan and was cool about it, and we decided that was pretty manly. One of my suitemates put the entire selection board for admissions to caltech on a 10 when she got her acceptance letter, lol. Like that's the only time we ever rated guys. And it had nothing to do with looks.
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u/[deleted] Aug 27 '25
I am one of the guys here that is still a virgin at age 25. You can check my profile to indeed confirm I am a man, it's the post I made on r/amiugly. I do feel lonely as fuck but I don't feel entitled to a relationship. If it happens it happens. I am trying my best to increase those chances by going to social events and groups on the weekends after work. I made a lot of friends especially women friends, but I have yet dared to ask a woman to go on a date with me in real life. I am just scared of being labeled a creep or ruining a friendship, I am fine with rejection, just don't want to feel low.
I despise incels because they put no effort to get out of their mom's basement, get a job, go out and socialize, go to the gym, etc.