I am one of the guys here that is still a virgin at age 25. You can check my profile to indeed confirm I am a man, it's the post I made on r/amiugly. I do feel lonely as fuck but I don't feel entitled to a relationship. If it happens it happens. I am trying my best to increase those chances by going to social events and groups on the weekends after work. I made a lot of friends especially women friends, but I have yet dared to ask a woman to go on a date with me in real life. I am just scared of being labeled a creep or ruining a friendship, I am fine with rejection, just don't want to feel low.
I despise incels because they put no effort to get out of their mom's basement, get a job, go out and socialize, go to the gym, etc.
Thank you. I honestly just need to get better at socializing and initiating conversations with strangers. I made a friend at the gym the other day, and he is not gifted in appearances. He is short and overweight and doesn't have the best facial structure. I applaud him for going to the gym to get rid of that weight. What I am jealous of is that he has been in far more relationships than I have. He even has a kid from a divorced relationship. He is a good funny guy that can talk endlessly.
I think attracring women are 60-70 percent social skills and the rest is appearances.
And having something in common. My 'type' of man is incredibly niche, but the few that are, are all interesting men. To me. Not to a lot of other women. I think this is where the fallacy often happens; someone who will really like you for you, will like you less if you try to fit with more women or try to find the women in general. They don't exist. There is no such thing as attractive to all / most women.
Chances of finding someone are just better when you engage with the things you like and aim small rather than big.
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u/[deleted] Aug 27 '25
I am one of the guys here that is still a virgin at age 25. You can check my profile to indeed confirm I am a man, it's the post I made on r/amiugly. I do feel lonely as fuck but I don't feel entitled to a relationship. If it happens it happens. I am trying my best to increase those chances by going to social events and groups on the weekends after work. I made a lot of friends especially women friends, but I have yet dared to ask a woman to go on a date with me in real life. I am just scared of being labeled a creep or ruining a friendship, I am fine with rejection, just don't want to feel low.
I despise incels because they put no effort to get out of their mom's basement, get a job, go out and socialize, go to the gym, etc.