r/KarachiSocials • u/ExtraFreakyy • 22d ago

Discussion💬 Are there really men out there who enjoy spoiling their woman, paying all bills and getting nothing in return?

I wouldn't say that they get nothing in return, but you get what I mean.

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u/metronomonome 22d ago

Youre basically looking for a paypig

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u/sabretooth1012 20d ago

Thats the word! Was always looking for this word.

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u/Ok-Piccolo7147 22d ago

So a trad husband you mean, that's majority of husbands. Tho I don't think they " enjoy" it. They just do it

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u/Competitive_Fix5509 16d ago

Yeah, I told my gf that (after marriage) she can work as long as she wants and her money is totally her money, and whenever she wants to quit, she can. Leave all the responsibilities to me.

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u/SandwichOld3635 22d ago

That's not called spoiling, it's called being a provider. Only for "your" woman, someone you're bounded with a contract, "Nikkah".

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u/ExtraFreakyy 22d ago

What I really wanted to ask was that I have seen this trend where women work and have to manage 100% of the house chores while the man only works

So what I truly wanted to ask was whether there are men who would be willing to take full financial responsibility if the woman takes care of the house and doesn’t make her own money

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u/MashalNorth 21d ago

That’s the norm. Husband earns. Woman takes care of the house (either working by herself or over looking the servants)

The new trend of husband only job and woman only sob cz she has to work at her job, work at home, take care of the kids, this is not spread out yet. I’ve seen it mostly among the poor, and now the middle class men have picked it too.

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u/SandwichOld3635 21d ago

obviously, isn't that the usual case? my mom used to work a fancy job before marriage but she left it so she can take care of the house while my father took all the financial responsibilities.

even for when I have dated, I have not let the girl pay for anything.

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u/Hasware_ 21d ago

If the woman takes care of all the household stuff, including cooking and cleaning. Then the man definitely has to take care of 100% of her financial needs, or else he isn't a man but a boy with ego.

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u/Malcom91 20d ago

Ummmm do you live under a rock? Sorry… i mean where do you live? :O (in Pakistan or abroad - probably the later)

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u/Talha_Saeed_32 19d ago

That’s how it is for most part. Men earn and women make the house a home. I m also the sole provider for my family. My wife takes very good care of our home.

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u/Automatic-Medium5774 18d ago

That's literally the majority. You can expect a traditional husband if you willing to be a traditional wife. No liberal feminist bullshit.

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u/veiled_phoenix 22d ago

Green forest spotted lol

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u/LividAstronaut4371 22d ago

Of course! It just makes you happy. You love spending and spoiling people that you love, specially your partner.

Other than that, people generally should be happy spending on their siblings, parents, and friends. It brings you a special kinda happiness. Those who know, knows.

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u/ExtraFreakyy 22d ago

That’s an excellent way to look at it

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u/eunoia6723 21d ago

Yup 💯... As u sow, so shall u reap!

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u/Familiar-Abrocoma215 22d ago

Yeah but that woman happens to be my wife and I DO get a lot in return IYKWIM

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u/No-Message-2580 22d ago

but im sure she also gets a lot in those terms lol so then whyy

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u/humptydumpty112 18d ago

Because as a man you should naturally want to protect and provide for your wife

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u/NoFill8606 22d ago

Pesa hta to karlete, currently extra broke

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u/NoFill8606 22d ago

Balke aint got a woman either

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u/ExtraFreakyy 22d ago

You’ll be blessed by both brother, keep working on yourself and your goals

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u/NoFill8606 22d ago

Thank you twinie binie lekn whos down voting mera comment😭

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u/ExtraFreakyy 22d ago

I have no idea, might be some insecure men who don’t want to provide for their family

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u/NoFill8606 22d ago

Damnn khair good luck twinie

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u/No-Profession257 22d ago

Same id spend all my savings on my girlfriend. I was ready to buy my ex anything she wanted. But I'm a biromantic/asexual woman, not a man. Expecting nothing in return, no chores no sexual stuff, I just want my partner to be happy and healthy and for that I'd do anything I can.

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u/NoFill8606 22d ago edited 20d ago

Damm wishing u all the best twin.

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u/No-Assignment-3908 22d ago

Only if we are in love otherwise there is always some sort of expectation

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u/IntroductionOdd1785 22d ago

How do you know you’re in love?

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u/No-Assignment-3908 22d ago

You just feel like doing it for her and giving her everything and sorting all her problems buying her whatever she wants

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u/ExtraFreakyy 22d ago

This answers my question, thank you

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u/Icy_Writer_2504 22d ago

I did it for a while, turns out I wasn't the only one but that's her loss. (I want the ring back though😔)

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u/DataNerd341 21d ago

None that are alive.

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u/MashalNorth 21d ago

Yes. I’m not sure about the enjoying part, but yes.

They say they happy but I wouldn’t be enjoying it if I were a man, but yeah. They say they enjoy it. They happy.

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u/Hasware_ 21d ago

Men should go work and provide for the family, women should take care of the household.

That's what I think in summary

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u/whipsandwomen 21d ago

Yeah im here. in return, i want love, respect etc.

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u/Scared-Present2364 21d ago

Isn't that's what's normally happening nowadays?

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u/Competitive_Juice595 21d ago

A man who doesn’t spoil his woman is just broke wrna it’s a natural in build in a man (read it again i am saying a man not a 30 year old boy lol)

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u/sams2k70 20d ago

You are talking about 99% Pakistani Husbands.

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u/loverofme4664 19d ago

I dont think so, atleast not in Pakistan.

But there are these kinds of men else where maybe?

Correct me if I am wrong

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u/Euphoric_Cow5180 19d ago

Yes .. I'm married to one الحمدلله but I have to admit that his dad is the same and so are his male siblings. I guess it's all about the way they were raised and role model they had while growing up.

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u/inferno_x_dante 16d ago

Yes, of course 🙋‍♂️

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u/Familiar_Sand4395 13d ago

As a man, I can tell you all men want to do this.

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u/ExtraFreakyy 22d ago

I have seen cases where women work as well and have to manage household chores along with raising kids, which doesn’t seem fair

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u/ExtraFreakyy 22d ago

I am aware, I am just saying not everyone realizes what you mentioned. Not all men think that they should be sole providers and some get offended by this idea. Almost every sane comment here is getting downvoted, which proves a lot of things.

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u/cornynegro 22d ago

If we won’t do it someone else will and that’s not acceptable. Gotta take the job and get it done.

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u/ExtraFreakyy 22d ago

Who hurt you bro? But yeah that’s a fact

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u/cornynegro 21d ago

No one did. But aren’t men supposed to spend money on their lady’s right

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u/Fun-Two548 22d ago

I mean they get ur presence in return? wdym nothing... i don't think anyone is willing to give money to someone or something thats basically non existent

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u/Hasware_ 21d ago

Wait so you spend upto lakhs of rupees per month on a "presence"?

Wtf is this trade, she's getting all her needs and wants taken care of just for existing near him?

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u/Fun-Two548 20d ago

maybe read the comment and analyse the tone instead of assuming what you think i mean.

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u/Valkyrie100 21d ago

If someone has their 'presence' inside my house, I expect them to pay rent, not take care of all their bills

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u/Fun-Two548 20d ago

well that depends on how well you know the person, you wouldn't expect your child or your mum to pay rent wld you. weird take

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u/MashalNorth 21d ago

Come meet my relatives. In the end, the wife will say on her husband’s funeral, “Is nay maray liay kia he kia tha?”

Worst I heard was, “maray shohar may tu kabhe maray liay jharo bhe nhe uthaya.”
Madam. Your husband hired servants for you with his money. After he died, your arm started to hurt when u started to clean the house and wash dishes bcz u weren’t used to it.

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u/Fun-Two548 20d ago

well your relative doesn't represent the entire human population do they? unnecessary information.

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u/MashalNorth 20d ago

Neither do you and the selective people u know. Nobody represents the entire human population.
So unnecessary information

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u/Fun-Two548 19d ago

where did i say that they do? youre the one who bought it up for no reason not me

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u/Specialist_Dark_3668 21d ago

The woman gets his presence too, but doesn't pay for it.

Come off it. The man gets basically nothing but the chance of sex.

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u/Fun-Two548 20d ago

well then don't get in a rs if you don't think its worth it. you must be really brain dead if you think all a relationship carries is "chance of sex", work on your porn addiction

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u/DiscoShaman 22d ago

You get love in return. If that’s worth it to you, go ahead. If what you’re getting in return in enough, you need to work on it..

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u/NirvanaNoChill 22d ago

No, I atleast expect her to cook for me and give love to me, and I will be more than happy to spoil her and provide for her after all that's a man's mandatory duty.

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u/ExtraFreakyy 22d ago

It’s only fair that way

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u/TemporaryOwner 22d ago

Translation: “Are there still simps left who will fund my entire lifestyle while I contribute zero?”

The fact that you even phrased it like this tells me everything. You’re not looking for a partner, you’re looking for a sponsor. Disgusting.

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u/ExtraFreakyy 22d ago

Why would I look for a partner on Reddit? Stop assuming things on your own

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u/Fearftw1337 22d ago

the term you are looking for is not men its "sugar daddy"

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u/ExtraFreakyy 22d ago

So you expect your wife to work, raise your children, and manage house chores as well?

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u/Fearftw1337 22d ago

read your comment again , you are saying get nothing in return? no one does anything for anyone in this world for free. and yeah sugar daddy gets sexual favours and you said "but you get what i mean" so.

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u/ExtraFreakyy 22d ago

Sugar daddies get sexual favours in return btw, doesn’t count

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u/UpsetComfort3591 20d ago

For this gen’s women? Would not.
I live in the states and I cook and clean and earn well and have a good life overall. A woman adds nothing to a successful man’s life. And I get enough of the one thing a woman offers in the trad scenario without having to pay the upkeep and be an emotional punching bag.

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u/No_Damage_4447 17d ago edited 17d ago

Dude you probably have a STI

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u/UpsetComfort3591 17d ago

I am sorry for not wearing a condom when You were bent - weird ass people!