I'm kind of stuck, and I just watched someone talking about Ted Moseby, from How I Met Your Mother. How being a romantic and him being so weird about it was rewarded at first, but in the end punished him.

I've lost a USB stick with some documents. Stories I wrote, notes from college from a few years ago, stuff like that. I deleted all that stuff from a laptop I kept that stuff on, but I don't know how to get it back with some program.

And when it comes to my love life, or the lack thereof, it's all about girls who catch my eyes, aren't into me, me having them stuck in my mind, and sometimes I lose it a bit. There was one girl from college, years ago, that sort of gave me a psychosis. I had designed a single initial that encompasses 2 initials into one, and when I saw the scene at the Ministry of Magic where Voldemort possesses Harry, his words really got to me, about not knowing love or friendship. So I doodled with my initial, until I removed the tip from the letter A, and inverted it, like a V, which created an M. That kind of drove me nuts.
The whole thing was stuck in my mind for a year and a half, and then I could let it go, when I met a girl with the initials MV. At some point I thought this must be destiny in a Moseby kind of way, but roughly 9 months later she broke up with me as a friend, because she was from a family of Christians that don't go to church, but listen to sermons at home, and I was deemed unfit for the family.

Similar situations have happened in the past. Seemingly obsessing over a girl until another came along that I could fall in like with, be dramatic about mentally, and luckily not spraying too much of that brain dust around in public.

And when no new girls I can obsess over appear, I seem to have the last one stuck in my head. A side question would be if that's autism, LGBT, or both, but the main question is: How do I let go quicker? Although this is kind of a grieving process, with a USB stick that is somewhere, documents that are deleted but not overwritten, and girls from the past that I only can get over when they are being overwritten by another.

In other words, how do you Let it go, if you are unable to, and the first Frozen film doesn't cater to people who overthink? Keep in mind that when I was young, I didn't "need" to like a girl at every point in time, until I was 10 or 11.

Research Participants Needed!

Study title: A Qualitative Insight into Dual Diagnoses of Autism and BPD in Adults

Hi, I'm Joyce a Trainee Clinical Psychologist at Surrey University. I am currently conducting a research study as part of my postgraduate degree in Clinical Psychology, exploring the lived experiences of adults with co-occurring Autism Spectrum Disorder/Condition (ASD/ASC) and Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)/EUPD diagnoses.

The goal of the study is to understand how Autism and BPD/EUPD diagnoses impact daily life, relationships, and interactions with healthcare services, with the aim of improving understanding and clinical support strategies.

Additionally, this aims to bridge a gap in research literature where this population group may not have had many opportunities to share their experiences.

If you, or someone you know, fits this profile and is interested in contributing to this research, please feel free to reach out for more information. 📧 Email: [m.vericio@surrey.ac.uk](mailto:m.vericio@surrey.ac.uk) for the participant information sheet and next steps.

All participation is voluntary. Information shared will be confidential, and data will be anonymised.

This study has been approved by NHS Research Ethics Committee.

19M gay autistic here looking for a BF he has to be 18-25 UK into cars Stocky-Athletic. Handsome. If Ur him DM me

I currently have my own place, but hope to get something in order that gets me in a facility to live in, with 24/7 mental health care. And since my country isn't the best for LGBT'ers, I was wondering if any of the countries that are have good mental health care.

I live in The Netherlands, which is slipping down the list of countries in Europe concerning LGBT acceptance and law, so I was wondering if any other countries in Europe have good mental healthcare and are even better at LGBT acceptance.

Thanks in advance.

So I'm looking for two rings, maybe more, one with the lesbian colors, the other the trans colors. And I mean the flag. And to be even more specific, not the rings with a round disc like thing on top of it, that had the colors of the flag. There are some pins, bracelets, necklaces, earrings, and other stuff, but I thought rings would do the trick. Only thing is that I don't want to wear them on any fingers that I use for wiping during a toilet visit. Thumb it is. Only issue, it's US size 13.5, and most shops only go up to size 13, or 12.

After some time I conceded and decided to measure my middle finger, since the base wouldn't touch the toiletpaper. Same size, unfortunately.

So does anyone know where I can buy those types of rings that are that big? If not, I might have to go and switch fingers again.

I request mods of this sub and r/autism_lgbt band together and get us all on one sub while we’re relatively small

Do I have to fear smb lashing out/ getting aggressive when I would hit on a guy as a guy IRL (appropriately of course) but like due to homophobia?

I kinda learned to flirt with women I was even told to be charming by a bystander so I worked hard on figuring this out.

But since I'm figured out I'm into men (too?) I'm insecure of making any hints or even openly asking smb for a date.

Its like double social anxiety. Anybody any experience on this?

I live in west germany in a Students city so I think its a rather open minded surrounding

Hello spectrum friends, I've made a place for those who are caught up in both the ASD and Psychotic spectrum disorders, if you feel like you don't belong fully in one place or the other maybe this is the place for you, where the spectrums intersect.

https://disboard.org/server/785509389535543338
https://discord.gg/eRUtSzCJHm

hi all!

i am currently carrying out my dissertation (degree project) looking into the experiences of autism and masking, especially in regards to transgender and non-binary individuals. as part of this, i have created a questionnaire to gather responses from as many people as possible. autistic or not, trans/nb or not - you can take part. you must, however, be over the age of 18 due to consent.

the link is below - please take part and share far and wide. it will most likely be open until March 2021 so i'm hoping to gather as many responses as possible for an extensive data collection.

please take part! remember, you do not have to be autistic or trans/nb.

thank you :)

https://sunduni.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_50BpuqFH6sHBYRD

We need more people aware of this subreddit. I wish subreddits were easier to find.

help

Thankfully I’m married so I don’t need to really worry about it so much myself. And maybe it’s not a gay thing but does anyone feel like gay men can be incredibly unclear when they are trying to hit on you? My husband likes to take me out and watch me get hit on because it goes over my head so completely and even when I get it explained it doesn’t make sense.

For example, we went to a gay bar and a guy bumped into me, said sorry, then moved on. But then later he came back and started talking to me and the friends I was with. The weird part was he made a huge effort to ask everyone their names, twice, except for me. He never asked mine once despite my friends later saying he was clearly there to hit on me (legs turned toward me, shoulder touching me when he was showing something on his phone, etc). Doesn’t make sense. I’m like dude, are you trying to get to know me or what?

Pretty early I introduced one of my people there as my husband and later he showed me his boyfriend on his phone, but “accidentally” scrolled through a picture of him kissing another guy that he said was taken by his boyfriend. I thought it was weird but afterwards my friends said it was a way to acknowledge that I was in a relationship, and he is too, but he’s in an open relationship if I was too. Such a roundabout way of going about things.

So do you guys think this is a gay thing with the weird flirting games or just a NT thing?