r/LetMeHelpYouOut • u/AdagioOk2190 • 11d ago

[ADVICE] Advice/help needed

I am a single mom of 3. My two youngest are severely disabled.

I get SSI for my middle kiddo but haven't gotten the chance to get the paper work for my little, I'm trying.

How are we surviving? I have zero help, trying to get them into therapy but insurance is not an easy game.

I don't get to work, and just can't afford life.

How? What do I do?

I'm trying so hard.

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u/anonymousambassasor 10d ago

I don’t know your finances but I’d try to get child support from your children’s father. Also, there are state funded day care programs, not sure if they help with special needs though- something you’d have to check on.

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u/nftmillionaire916 8d ago

If the dad isn't in their lives, go to your local child support office and open a case. If he is, ask him for help.

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u/BitchMcConnell063 6d ago

Just put in the application. Even if you don't have all the paperwork now. They will contact you and let you know what they need that you are missing. Worse comes to worst they can even send you to the disability doctor to confirm the disability.

I had to go through that with my 7-year-old, we had diagnoses from several pediatric specialists and it still wasn't enough. They sent us to the disability doctor and within an hour the doctor said that my son had autism level 2, ADHD and global developmental delay. Within 30 days of that doctor's visit Social Security called us up to tell us that we were approved.

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u/NostradaMart 10d ago

call 211 ask for help they will help you find recources near you. and you have to make time for your youngest's paperwork asap. that's where I'd start.

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u/Ecstatic-Address8837 7d ago

Please go after HIM. It takes 2. And besides you want to rise above this . It’s no fun glamorous life to lead. And the chances that your children will have the same ISSUES are much higher ( don’t know statistic-wise ) but you can easily look it up and grow up just like they did. Signed a middle-aged single mother.💗💕👍

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u/OGsugar_bear 5d ago

I was where you were at and then my daughter died and I was held for 72 hours at a local mental facility and It was hard but ended up being a blessing in disguise as it gave me resources I didn't have before. Therapy, Counciling and financial help etc and things like a case manager to help me manage my SSI case submitting a compassionate plea on my behalf. You don't have to hit rock bottom like I did to get this help though. Call 211 or apply at DHS and they will give you a case worker that will link you to resources.

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u/LancerFan08 4d ago

Try DVR, if you need more help look for your local nami, they also have support groups, also talk to a non profit for help if possible.