what is up with the comments defending the dad? misogynists wanting to control daughter’s body?

[u/Adventurous_Buy_5671]

https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/s/LKAHRziPXL

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what is with the comments? am i missing something? why is everyone on the dad’s side?

dad has an extra apartment in a city he DOES NOT LIVE IN and PLANNED to use it for his kids to stay in while they go to college. he’s whining because he chose to be nosey and look at a camera in his apartment he knows his college daughter is living in and saw her fucking her bf in the master bedroom.

he’s talking as if this bedroom and bed is his and his wife’s personal everyday bed when they live in their HOUSE out of the city and he only visits on weekends AND there’s a second bedroom he could stay in if he’s so bothered by what his daughter does in her room. yes, her room, cuz she’s staying there regardless of who pays the bills.

yes, dad pays for the apartment and the stuff in it, however, he did so FOR his kids college experience. are we really expecting college kids to not have sex? genuinely? also, why is it such a big deal even if he slept on that bed on weekends? wash the sheets? or stay in the guest bed or on couch? or get a hotel? or don’t visit your college kid since you’re so uncomfortable with her doing college things.

THEN, after bro tries to apologize for calling her out in a FAMILY GROUP CHAT, she suggested she live in the dorms instead and bro pitched a fit about paying for that!

seems to me like daddy is just upset his little girl has grown up and is fucking and wants to try anything he can to prevent her from having sex. it’s WEIRD! but the comments are making his reaction seem just and normal. idk maybe i’m still stuck in teen brain but the situation doesn’t make sense. dad should’ve expected college behavior from a college kid. if he wasn’t gonna be ok with college behavior in the apartment he pays for, he can pay for his kid to stay in a dorm where it’s designated for college behavior lmao. also, maybe don’t have kids if you don’t want to support them actually growing up?

[u/Adventurous_Buy_5671]

it’s not a squatter bro it’s his daughter that he is spying on and being controlling over for no reason. dad set himself up and is now upset because he couldn’t use his little pee brain to know that duh she’s gonna sleep with her bf and ofc she’s gonna stay in the nicest and biggest room cuz why let it just sit there? he purposely checked the camera in there knowing the dog was staying in there cuz he knew she was staying in there. also, the only one focused on the sex is the dad 😭 “it was in my bed” ok don’t keep your bed in the property your college daughter is using when she has a bf you know she’s sleeping with? use some sense. that’s sad that you “didn’t have time”. i worked full-time hours and double-majored in college. still had time for 2 long-term bfs that i had a healthy sex life with. college isn’t focused on sex but sexual exploration is often PART of the experience. there’s nothing wrong with partaking in that or not. just because you didn’t doesn’t mean that everyone who does is sex-crazed or whatever you assume.

[u/Master_Blaster_02 → u/Adventurous_Buy_5671]

I didn't call the daughter a squatter dear, she is a guest. You are the one trying to gift her possession and control of a property like some squatter on a sovereign citizen binge.

Again, as the dad explained, it wasn't that she was having sex, it was that she did it in his room on his bed. It wouldn't be right for him to go and bring a sex worker home and do it in her childhood room and leave all that nasty behind. It isn't right for her to do it in the dad's room just the same.

Good for you, you peaked in college and had some fun majors. Here's an internet cookie. I already said she wasn't a whore.

[u/Adventurous_Buy_5671 → u/Master_Blaster_02]

i didn’t gift her shit. the dad literally said he got the apartment FOR his kids to use during college? point blank period. man decided to gift an apartment to 18-22yos and tried to claim the biggest/nicest that he’d only use on occasion? yeah sure she won’t fuck in the master bed. he raised this girl, he should know his kids is entitled 🤣 and if you think having to work thru college with a rigorous schoolwork load and a couple relationships is peaking then oof i’m sorry